Is it just me? Does your OH have no fashion sense?

freejunkie

I have been with my OH for 13 years, we got together when we were 23 and we are now 35 and since I have known him he has worn shirts, black trousers & sensible shoes on the week days, (all from primark or mataland) shirt, jeans & sensible shoes on the weekends, (the same shirts he wears to work!!!!:mad:)

The jeans are just plain, straight legged 'Grandad' (dare I say unisex?) jeans, 2 pockets back n front & light blue (Arrgg)!!! Plus if we go out he will wear the SAME thing :mad::mad::mad:
I have brought him clothes (Ed Hardy, Timberland, Armani, loadsa stuff, but he will never wear them, when I bring up the fact I want to see him in different clothes he either just jokes that he doesnt like the fashion here (apparently cos he's from London??) or he just gets VERY angry with me and WONT talk about it with me, He has a real problem.....

Yesterday was about the 4th time I had managed to convice him to buy something different, I struggled to get him to buy a pair of jeans low rise, dark blue, crease detail on the top thigh & ankle blah blah, I managed to get him to buy them, but he refused to get them a size up so they look nice on him but they're tight and look like jeans your Grandad would wear camping!!!!

I am at my wits end can anyone suggest any ideas, of trying to get hime to change his wardrobe, I am sick of my man being admired by old men and women, telling me wot a smart looking man I have!!!!

eamon

From a blokes point of view he is obviously confortable in the clothes that he wears. You are expecting him to have the fashion sense of somebody much younger and more susceptable to changing fashions and to also have the courage to change. Like many people (men & women) he probably views/values clothes more for the utility that he gets from them rather than making a fashion statement of himself.
I fear that you will probably have to resign yourself to this fact. What you could do is up the quality of the clothes that he wears. For example instead of own brand blue jeans persuade him to wear classic cut brands such as Levi's of Wrangler.
For what its worth how does his father dress? What about his friends? This should give indications of how he is influenced. Lastly you can always be the shining flower.

cattkitt

Well, it doesn't sound like he pretended to be anything else fashionwise at any point.

adelight

Oh I did giggle at the last bit Will he not even try more casual shirts? There are some excellent ones at gap which aren't too casual(but about the smartest thing my bf will wear, oh well, he's 20!) that have buttons on the elbows to roll the sleeves up, stripes, checks.

Miró

Still struggling with the knee length socks worn with sandals and shorts here :o:o

Savvy_Sue

It's not just you ... And he's passed his 'fashion sense' onto 2 of his 3 sons. DS3 makes up for all of them, however!

ivylinn

Maybe if the differences are subtle. :think:

Would he be open to wearing jeans that are cut better? the variation even among jeans classed as straight legged is huge.

If He is not a fan of the casual look. What about a more tailored shirt or trying layering, shoes or boots that are a bit more fashionable, A smart blazer type jacket?

hethmar

Have to say my OH still looks pretty good after nearly 40 years of marriage - no one can believe his age and his one failing is that he will question the price of every item - gasping as he does it. Never mind - he looks just as good as his quadrophenia days as far as Im concerned (and has aged a damn sight better than Sting or Phil Davies , though probably on par with Ray Winstone)


Id say your man lacks confidence in his image and is sticking to his old fashion sense as a comfort blanket. Not sure what you can do really, except take him to places where all the men are trendy and perhaps that will make him take a leap into fashion as he sees it acceptable to be fashionable? (Tell me he doesnt put creases in his jeans ) May be buy him some "warm and sensible" corded loose jeans for the autumn in dark grey or black? Coming from London is no excuse I can see - my OH is an east ender.

A holiday in Italy or the South of France needed

Eamon, its not only youngsters who have fashion sense, you go to Italy and see men in their 70s still looking absolutely gorgeous, well dressed and groomed as they parade on a sunday. Or South of France where never a pair of socks is worn with sandals

geri1965_2

I feel a bit sorry for your OH, to be honest with you. He is clearly happy and confortable with the clothes he is wearing and I think it's out of order to nag him or get angry with him. How would you feel if the boot was on the other foot and he was trying to tell you what to wear?

freejunkie

Thanks all

I have tried to update his style by buying him casual shirts, and updating his jeans, but he isnt having none of it, the things I buy him never see the light of day again once he puts em in his drawers!!!

Yes I think it is a confidence thing, he is used to what he wears and is comfortable wearing them, but I would soooooo wish to see my man wearing trendy in his age group clothes before he's gets too old to experiment * sighs *

@ SavvySue Does it annoy you or are you just used to it now? Have you ever asked him about it?

PMSL @ hethmar :rotfl::rotfl:Lucky for me he doesnt iron often so no creases...........YET (But I wouldnt put it passed him!!!!!!)

@ Geri 1965 Thanks for you 2p worth :eek: but I think you are getting it a little twisted, How can u tell he is Clearly Happy? And that it's *out of order to Nag him and get angry*???? It maybe your opinion but *You have simply 'tried' to create a situation that doesnt exist.

I think thats what annoys me sometimes about this forum now, any thread over a couple of posts long theres always some bright spark to add something with no actual reference to the subject.:(:(

Hermia

freejunkie wrote: »

Yes I think it is a confidence thing, he is used to what he wears and is comfortable wearing them, but I would soooooo wish to see my man wearing trendy in his age group clothes before he's gets too old to experiment * sighs *

Maybe he doesn't want to experiment or be trendy. I think of lot of people (both men and women, but more often men) just don't care about clothes. They don't care about being fashionable and they don't view clothes as a way to express themselves.

I think all you can do is compliment him when he looks nice etc. Other than that I don't think there is much you can do. If you keep buying him clothes and talking to him about it there is a danger he will dig his heels in even more. I know that if a boyfriend kept buying me clothes and telling me they didn't like what I wore I would wear the worst clothes I could possibly find!