really dont know what to do :o(

GEEGEE8

We had lodgers when I was a kid, from age of 8-11, it was great! Got them from the local college, some were French, German, Venzuelan and Indonesian. I have very fond memories of those students! One stayed with us for 3 yrs!

AnxiousMum

It doesn't matter whether your OH has children from a first relationship or not. The father/s of your two children are entitled to support and maintenance from both of their parents, not just you. It also doesn't matter if you are married or not - though if you were, you could've gone for ancillary relief if it was decided you would work part time to help in looking after the children.

RAS

Your marriage or otherwise is not relevent to the amount of CSA you get.

kelloggs36

Does he pay maintenance via the CSA for the other children?

Hammyman

rimme wrote: »

weve decided to split up and things are getting very very nasty. hes refusing to pay the mortgage in full, hes said he will pay half of everything and that i have to find the other half.

Seems fair so I don't see how that's been nasty. You've only got half the running costs of one home to find. He's got your other half plus his own. He could force a sale and that may be the best way out of it because if he chooses not to pay the mortgage at all then if its in joint names, you're liable for the lot.

rimme

Hammyman wrote: »

Seems fair so I don't see how that's been nasty. You've only got half the running costs of one home to find. He's got your other half plus his own. He could force a sale and that may be the best way out of it because if he chooses not to pay the mortgage at all then if its in joint names, you're liable for the lot.

hes only paying his half whilst he is here. he knows i dont have half the money to cover the bills which is why hes doing it, to cause me stress. once he leaves the house he wont pay a bean towards the mortgage, his words, not mine.
i cant claim anything whilst hes still here except the cb that im already getting.

he wouldnt force a sale because we dont have any equity in the house, we put our offer in on the house and when the mortgage etc was accepted etc the housing market crashed majorly.
from the advise ive been given, because hes already paying csa for 2 children, hers may go down but i would get a very small amount.

rimme

ive just checked the csa calculator and it says that he should pay me 66 per week but i dont think it works like that because of the other amount hes already paying as that is quite high

julie03

does he realise if he doesnt pay the mortgage and the house gets repossed he is still liable for any shortfull and will have ccj's against him

rimme

julie03 wrote: »

does he realise if he doesnt pay the mortgage and the house gets repossed he is still liable for any shortfull and will have ccj's against him

yes unfortunately
he just doesnt care anymore

rimme

taken from csa website, see highlighted





We can then adjust the child maintenance based on:

• the number of other children who are living with the non-resident parent, who they or their partner get Child Benefit for (a regular payment made to anyone bringing up children)
• the number of children the non-resident parent needs to pay child maintenance for
• whether the child stays with the non-resident parent at least one night each week.