Should I say or should I go ??

beverleyhills

That sounds like progress well done. Take small steps and keep working at it. It will be hard work but it will be worth it.

Good luck

Little_Miss_Winner

Yes i agree small steps matter!

Have you thought about how it is gonna work? WHat steps you are gonna take to make it like the "old days" - when you were hopelessy in love?

How about little things.

A little "I Love you" note, for her in the morning?
A nice "Lovey dovey" card? Should only cost about £1.

It's the little things she will appreciate......honest!!!

headcase

I sometimes wonder I we felt all those years ago when we were in love. Over the last two years, events as you know have taken a big dive. I, as a person have changed and my O.H has not muched changed. Anyway, we have talked alot over the weekend. Its either change/ do something about it or split up. One or the other. Deep down we are happy with each other, sort of grown up together and have simalier views, plans etc and we do love and care for each other. We have been living a life we do not want but feel powerless to do much about it.
Now, we have decided to say together and start sorting things out. We have been out last weekend. Presently we are sorting out the money things so we can get DFW. This will that 3 years to pay off stuff. You can see the headcase debt dairy on that front on the DFW board.
The little things have started now but will take time for her to feel that I love her truely and that I want to stay with her. I had felt cross with her as she expected me to do the changing and not her. this we are sorting out at presently and a few issiues with me too. Let you know whats happening soon..........

thriftmonster

Good luck - can I just say that it also takes a huge toll on the partner of someone suffering from depression - I am truly sorry for you and your troubles, but the strain on your wife must have been immense too - I know _ I've been there. I hope that if you can talk about how difficult it has been for both of you then maybe that could help.

headcase

i've sent her a lover letter this afternoon. To tell her have I feel.

ailuro2

good for you...sometimes when it's very hard to say how we feel,writing it down can say it better, and of course,without any stuttering or interupptions,or forgetting what we wanted to say....at least I find it that way. Women love to keep love letters too...something nice to look at when the washing machine just blew up,the kids need new shoes and it's three weeks to payday and the dog just threw up on the carpet:rolleyes: .

You do sound like you're all living at the bottom of the valley this past while.We all go through it at sometime. But your basic relationship does sound good-you're still friends despite everything that's happened, and your youngest especially will appreciate having parents who are trying to stay together too. Keep working,kepp climbing, and I hope you'll pull yourself up to the top soon and see the beautiful views once more:D

Little_Miss_Winner

How's it goin? headcase

headcase

I thought I'd give you an update on how things are going. Last posting was 20.09.06. Since then I'd giving lots of thought to were I am heading and what I can do. Well i was in a hole. I decided to make things better for ourselves but mainly for me. I started to excerise and now joined slimming world and lost about 1 stone. Started to lose before I joined but it helps to keep going. Fell much better and do loads of excercise too. I do jobs and finish them and work is much better. The main thing to be determined positive attitude and having the will power to change things. Overall our attitudes have changed and now its keeping it going.

victory

I really wish you the very best, keep it up xxxx

libra10

Wishing you the very best for the future