The giving up/cutting down alcohol support thread Part 8!

Bismarck

graemecarter wrote: »

Regretting the past and fearing the future is a quick route to unhappiness for me.

I may not be able to reverse ALL the damage I did to myself and others when I drank (be it physical, mental, emotional, financial), however I can ensure I don't do any more damage today by not picking up a drink.

Well said.

I'm doing my best to do the right thing now. That will do for me.

If things don't work out the way I want them to it won't be for lack of trying.

I do find Friday evening the part of the week as I'm looking for the switch and don't quite know what to do with myself...it really is hard to explain. Almost like I don't have a purpose...weird...

Right, off to make tea.

take care all!

Bis

budget_babe

graemecarter wrote: »

Great post BB.

I needed to change how I was internally, and part of the way I did this was changing what I did (outside)

Thankyou as always Graeme for your words of encouragement :A I always respect your opinion and read your posts intently. What you say always makes so much sense, I realise what I have to do and I am going to try my very best to do it. Big hugs matey as always (()) xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Also Bis and Heath thankyou for your posts too :A (()) xxxxxxxxxxxxx

Sparkles my Dear you have come such a long way, very well done angel :T You seem so much better and much much brighter. I guess you have the frame of mind which we all need to adopt. As ever hugs and take care (()) xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

365 well done to you too for not drinking even though life seems to be dealing you a rough hand at the moment, take care and hugs (()) xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

SSG well done too on your fantastic achievement, big hugs (()) xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

On a brighter note, my Ds has been mentioning: "his Friend" hey I even have a name and get this I have seen a pic Still don't know alot of info but much more than I did

He even mentioned to his Grandad that: "his friend" wished him Happy Birthday.

Well you all know what a nosey Budgie I am

Hugs guys and take care, btw Sim hoping you are ok mate after your post the other day? (()) xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Oh and Hi Fay seems ages since I have seen you sweetheart, hugs (()) xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Budgie says bye xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Miss_Piggy_2

Evening all

((hugs)) Budgie. Must be so lovely to see your DS but awful to see him go again. Am sure you will see him again soon.

I'm going to have to have a go at that Pork recipe I think. Must admit though my tea tonight was lovely - jacket pot, coleslaw, smoked mackerel and salad. Yum yum....

:wave: to 365

Miss P
xx

budget_babe

Miss_Piggy wrote: »

Evening all

((hugs)) Budgie. Must be so lovely to see your DS but awful to see him go again. Am sure you will see him again soon.

I'm going to have to have a go at that Pork recipe I think. Must admit though my tea tonight was lovely - jacket pot, coleslaw, smoked mackerel and salad. Yum yum....

:wave: to 365

Miss P
xx

:eek::eek::eek::eek::eek:Miss Piggy just what has come over you :eek::eek::eek::eek::eek: its wrong so wrong you know

Seriously sweetheart thanks for the hugs :A you know what its like: having an only one ...................... and yes I miss him sooooooooo much, but most of the time I'm ok with it. Its just he seems so far away and he has moved on so much in his life.

I guess its hard when your little boy grows up.

Hey ho big hugs to you and our adorable piglet. (()) xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Different_Corner

DB
Big hugs and go with it. What a sad, sad situation for the family.
Don't keep it in, there's no need, getting it out is cathartic.

budget_babe

Oh DB sweetheart that is so very, very sad. What words can you say at a time like this?

It is just too awful to think about.

To lose a child in any situation is in itself heartbreaking but to then have history repeat itself, then this is surely too cruel.

Goodness knows how anyone could move forward from this, I only hope that they will be able to get through the dark days ahead. What an absolute shock for you to take such a telephone call, big hugs DB, I really don't know what else to say?

No words could make a difference, but please take care and try and be strong for your friends. They will need all the help and support that people can give them now and far into the future.

It really is so very sad........................

Thinking of you
Budgie xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

newroadahead

Dear DB so sorry to hear the news of your friend. Thinking of you both ((((((BIG HUGS)))))).:grouphug:

Dont bereate yourself if you have a drink we all deal with things differently and if that is what
you need to help you through then so be it.

lots of love


NRA xxxx

DecemberBaby_2

Thank you DC and Budgie. I'm trying to write a letter but its not easy to find the words. No words will help as you say but I just want her to know how much I love her and care.

DB x

ETA: thanks NRA

Miss_Piggy_2

Oh DB, thats just awful! Your poor friend and her family. As Budgie says, to lose a child must be absolutely terrible. I would imagine its every parents worst nightmare. ((hugs))

Miss P
xx

budget_babe

DecemberBaby wrote: »

Thank you DC and Budgie. I'm trying to write a letter but its not easy to find the words. No words will help as you say but I just want her to know how much I love her and care.

DB x

ETA: thanks NRA

Then DB I am sure that you will find the words that you need :A

If we do things with love in our hearts and with good intentions then this will in itself be the right way.

But one suggestion if you don't mind me saying, is to write your letter and then tomorrow re-read it before sending it. I always find that sometimes if we are feeling emotional, it is better to do this.

But take care hunny and your friend is very lucky to have you :A

God Bless
Budgie xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx