The giving up/cutting down alcohol support thread Part 8!

yellowmonkey

:o:o:o:o Sorry not awake... 13 please Shaggy counted today as a full day when it has only just started :o:o:o:o:o:o

yellowmonkey

jo1972 wrote: »

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randomname_3

Morning all.

Broadband has been a bit iffy for ths past couple of days so I will need to try and catch up. Anyway. af has been ok so please put me down for 8 please Shaggydoo.

cazzasmazza

Morning everyone!

This is just a quickie, as I am now in the "uni all day and working in the evenings" zone, so it feels like I have no time to even scratch my backside, LOL!

2 more AFD's please Shaggy! Yeah! :j

No more viewings yet on the house and I am trying not to feel despondent about things - it's easy to slide down that slippery slope of dispair and I don't want to do it.

I am so utterly busy now, for the next week, that I've no time for a drink, which is BRILLIANT!

And bizarrely, I had a phone call from my (ex) sister in law who said she and my brother in law (who is my ex's brother) would like to see me and my little nephews would like to see me too, so I am going down there on Sunday!! I was really really surprised as I thought they wouldn't bother with me now I have split from my ex (and my ex still goes down to see them).

So I am nervous but happy, for Sunday.

Have a great day all. I will get on line when I can.

Hugs
Caz
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mumofboys_2

Morning all. Well book club down and no wine consumed. What really surprised me was that no-one actually commented about it. I am usually always with a glass in my hand, and I really felt I was going to get "the look" - are you pregnant, or are you an imposter - but nothing.....That made me feel quite good. I worry sometimes that "me" is so aligned with having a drink and a laugh, that "me" without might be seen as a different and less fun person. I know in my head that's not true, but there is a chunk of my heart that worries about that.

Oh gosh - that's the heavy stuff over.

Anyway this morning I have been out for a fresh, blowy, and sunny romp with the dog across the fields and am now settling down to some work. Good start to the day. Previously I would have had the "I can't be bothered" attitude and made myself a coffee rather than getting out the door.

Feel like I'm rambling. Have a good day everyone.

MOB

Pippilongstocking

Morning all

tough one yesterday massive row with my childrens evil stepmother - via email - really wanted wine, didn't have any in house nor did we go out for any - ate nibbles and drank elderflower cordial - no one can think killer thoughts when drinking elderflower cordial.

shaggy I'm on 12 now

Waves hello to all - how everyone today.................................?

Ps cazz great news xx

graemecarter

mumofboys wrote: »

Morning all. Well book club down and no wine consumed. What really surprised me was that no-one actually commented about it. I am usually always with a glass in my hand, and I really felt I was going to get "the look" - are you pregnant, or are you an imposter - but nothing.....That made me feel quite good. I worry sometimes that "me" is so aligned with having a drink and a laugh, that "me" without might be seen as a different and less fun person. I know in my head that's not true, but there is a chunk of my heart that worries about that.

Oh gosh - that's the heavy stuff over.

Anyway this morning I have been out for a fresh, blowy, and sunny romp with the dog across the fields and am now settling down to some work. Good start to the day. Previously I would have had the "I can't be bothered" attitude and made myself a coffee rather than getting out the door.

Feel like I'm rambling. Have a good day everyone.

MOB

I know exactly what you mean. Sometimes I feel boring, and I worry that people think I am boring. I don't like feeling like that. It does happen though.

I have to remind myself that while I could be fun to be around , they didn't have to live with the consequences (wet bed, angry wife, self loathing, anxiety attacks, low self-worth).

On the whole, people have been full of praise and supportive about me not drinking. They are real friends. The ones who distanced themselves from me in sobriety were drinking buddies, not true friends.

brokepaolo

Good Afternoon,

hope you're all well.

Things have started to get better for me compared to how they were at the start of the month, I found myself a fantastic new flat to live and I'll be moving in next Monday. It really is a gem of a place, it's an attic with a massive lounge area with a nice kitchen at the end, then there's a separate bedroom with amazing views over all of Bristol and a separate bathroom with a really good shower. best of all though is that it only costs £475 per month inclusive of all bills, yep, ALL of them. It's a private let and the slightly unconventional thing about it is that I will be living on the top floor of a family household consisting of a couple and their 15 year old son. I've met them all and they're all lovely people and the only part of the house I share with them will be the stairs to get to my flat.
What a godsend, I really was starting to panic about being homeless by next monday what with the rip offs I was viewing earlier.

so that's all good but another bit of good news is that my bank have started refunding me the £700 that the payday loan companies had cleared out of my account last month. Today they refunded me £200 which is a good start but I'm still waiting on the big single transaction of £500 which they are still looking into. fingers crossed!

It's been one hell of a month, really awful but it looks like it's all sorting itself out and I can look forward to making a fresh start in my new flat.

next monday is quite a momentous day. My DMP with Payplan starts, I move into my new flat and my salary(+ a twice yearly bonus we get depending on performance) gets paid into my new account(because if Santander think I'm going to trust them with my wages ever again, they're having a laugh).

also, although probably due to having no money whatsoever since sunday, 2 AFDs done. and very much needed they were too, it was my birthday on Saturday so I needed a good detox.

DecemberBaby_2

fayjmck wrote: »

tough one yesterday massive row with my childrens evil stepmother - via email - really wanted wine, didn't have any in house nor did we go out for any - ate nibbles and drank elderflower cordial - no one can think killer thoughts when drinking elderflower cordial.

Hiya Fay - well done you! I will have to try this elderflower cordial

Also glad to hear about your flat BP.

Working from home today as my car is in the garage:eek: . Having a full service, brake pads and 2 tyres so that will cost a bob or 2.

DB x

ETA: Good news that they want to see you Cazza. It can be really tricky when you split up as you have been part of that person's family too.

DecemberBaby_2

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