Blue Badge 'police'

darknesshayz

I have been told, I can get a BB, but I am worried about it.

only_mee

darknesshayz wrote: »

I have been told, I can get a BB, but I am worried about it.

Sod what others think, i don't.
Life goes on

Ginger_Poodle

darknesshayz wrote: »

I have been told, I can get a BB, but I am worried about it.

Made a HUGE difference to my sister's life, and she has only had it a few weeks. You wouldn't be offered it if you didn't need it, so dont let meanies put you off!

lyniced

kusadasi040667 wrote: »

My friend was using a BB parked in a disabled bay whilst taking her disabled father to do his weekly food shopping. She had to go back to her car as they had forgotten the reusable bags as she was walking back into the supermarket she glanced up as she had that funny feeling that you get when someone is watching you. To her astonishment she could see a man who was parked in a D-bay go over and scratch her car !! The police were obviously called,when they viewed the CCTV the man in question could clearly be seen going to his car reach in pick up an implement and then boldly walk over and scratched her car from one end to the other.In his statement he reported that he'd acted this way as the lady obviously (in his opinion) wasn't disabled and stranger that she was too young (this however my friend loved as she is 54 yrs old ha ) and that he hadn't realised the man on the scooter in front of her had come from that car, he had failed to notice this fact as he was parking. He was made to write a letter of apology and pay the £1000 repair bill. Maybe he won't be so quick to judge next time.
With re to the older generation giving out more grief over the BB yes I have to agree it often seems to be BUT also I have to balance that with - when I'm using my hoist to put my powerchair away many , many, more older people come over to ask if they can help,which I always let them know how much I appreciate them asking as may sound corny but it always makes me feel happier that somebody took time out to care & also if I'm honest sometimes humbled when the gesture is from someone who is not much more able than myself . So thank you to them :T

How awful - so far nothing like this happened to me, but it does worry me.

sheeps68

Just read this thread on another forum and I think it says a lot. http://www.cftrust.org.uk/forum/viewtopic.php?t=20631


Also think it shows how we should be able to rise above it.

bestpud

SingleSue wrote: »

Ooopss, I am guilty of saying "Watch out for the lady/man" but in my defence, I say it for wheelchair users, crutch users, stick users and non disabled people when the children are not looking where they are going or in a world of their own.

So it is used for everyone......maybe other parents are the same.

Same as others on here, I often tell my dd(8) to watch out for people!!

I don't do so because the person has a disability though; I say it because she has very little spacial awareness and tends to bump into things/people all the time!! That coupled with her attention span of a gnat means I have to remind her many times while in somewhere like a supermarket!!

She fell flat on her face, over her own feet, in the middle of an empty aisle last time her dad took her to Asda so you can imagine what it is like getting her safely down the vegetable aisle!!

I'm quite shocked that you would think I am patronising you!!

It's probably not wise to say this here but some of you seem to be quite angry...? :cool:

Children will stare when they see something new to them - it's not malicious for goodness sake!

Adults should have more tact but this thread make me wonder if we parents can do right for doing wrong tbh.

It seems wrong to say nothing, wrong to tell them not to stare - what are we supposed to do?

Lots of us get stared at, for all sorts of reasons, so could I tentatively suggest some people with disabilities are too touchy, or analyse other people too much?

These are genuine questions btw - I'm not having a go!

lyniced

bestpud wrote: »

Same as others on here, I often tell my dd(8) to watch out for people!!

I don't do so because the person has a disability though; I say it because she has very little spacial awareness and tends to bump into things/people all the time!! That coupled with her attention span of a gnat means I have to remind her many times while in somewhere like a supermarket!!

She fell flat on her face, over her own feet, in the middle of an empty aisle last time her dad took her to Asda so you can imagine what it is like getting her safely down the vegetable aisle!!

I'm quite shocked that you would think I am patronising you!!

It's probably not wise to say this here but some of you seem to be quite angry...? :cool:

Children will stare when they see something new to them - it's not malicious for goodness sake!

Adults should have more tact but this thread make me wonder if we parents can do right for doing wrong tbh.

It seems wrong to say nothing, wrong to tell them not to stare - what are we supposed to do?

Lots of us get stared at, for all sorts of reasons, so could I tentatively suggest some people with disabilities are too touchy, or analyse other people too much?

These are genuine questions btw - I'm not having a go!

Actually you raise some very good points.

1. Kids will be kids, we all know that, and they do stare at people in wheelchairs/scooter etc. Instead of yanking the child out of the way and saying to them'don't stare' I think it would be nicer for the parent to say to me 'oh sorry, they don't mean to stare' to me and actually I don't feel like a lump of poo that someone is about to step in.

2. As far as kids go, walking into me, I'm actually more concerned for their saftey than mine. They would come off worse if I'm in my scooter, so I tend to look out for them. Personally its not the kids that worry me, its the adults who turn around and don't look down and almost fall on top of me - now I'm not sure who'd come of worse in that situation?!

bestpud

lyniced wrote: »

Actually you raise some very good points.

1. Kids will be kids, we all know that, and they do stare at people in wheelchairs/scooter etc. Instead of yanking the child out of the way and saying to them'don't stare' I think it would be nicer for the parent to say to me 'oh sorry, they don't mean to stare' to me and actually I don't feel like a lump of poo that someone is about to step in.

2. As far as kids go, walking into me, I'm actually more concerned for their saftey than mine. They would come off worse if I'm in my scooter, so I tend to look out for them. Personally its not the kids that worry me, its the adults who turn around and don't look down and almost fall on top of me - now I'm not sure who'd come of worse in that situation?!

So apologising for them is the way to go? That is actually what I'd do but I also tell dd it makes people uncomfortable when we stare.

I see all people the same so I wouldn't assume a person in a wheelchair may be offended by me telling dd to be careful or not to stare any more than a young person in odd clothing, or with a mohican haircut for example.

Tbh, I worry a lot about dd when there is people in mobility scooters about as some of them are erratic to say the least, and so is dd!!

mumps

I had a bit of a funnyt moment in supermarket carpark yesterday. I was sitting in my car opposite disabled spaces waiting for DIL to do some shopping. I had taken my glasses off and was sitting staring into space and not seeing things very clearly when I suddenly noticed two young men at car opposite. They were parked in disabled space, I have no idea if they had blue badge. They were looking at me and one suddenly pulled his shirt up and started fiddling with some sort of large dressing on his abdomen. I suddenly thought of this thread and thought "Oh no, they are going to go and say some old bag was glaring at us because we were in disabled space, not all disabilities are obvious so I pulled my shirt up to show her I am disabled."

So if you see someone around 60 "glaring at you" it might be a slightly shortsighted me not particularly aware that you are there. In case you are worried i can see fine when I put my specs on, I was giving my eyes a break.

serious_saver

My father has problems because he doesn't look disabled. It's strange because no one comments if my mum is with him as she looks disbabled even though she doesn't qualify for a badge (waiting for knee replacements and therefore has real difficulty walking).

People don't realise that in the region of 80% of disabilities are none visible. Ok, not all of those affect your mobility but a lot do.

I did once see a ferrari parked in the supermarket car park, diagonal across 2 bays!!!