Talk me into it?

InaPickle

Hi Lee :wave:

This guy who could be a flatmate - from what you know of him, do you think you could deal with the idea of living with him?

Financially, you've done brilliantly this past few years, but let's face it, it has been low on the fun factor.

Things had to be that way, but it has been at the expense of other areas of your life.

You are only 27, and need to get back out there enjoying life as a 27 year old does.

Your bad experiences have naturally made you cautious, and I think that is why you feel anxious about the idea of not having enough of a buffer in case things go wrong.

However, it could well be that now is the time to get back out there. I think once the initial anxiety has worn off and you can still see your savings increasing, you will love it!

Tip: if you do decide to move in with that guy, sit down and talk in blunt terms about house rules (particularly housework). You want things to be as crystal clear as possible, so that if any issues arise, you will have some framework to which the two of you can refer.

Just my opinion, but then again I'm a (non-dependant) 29 year old living at home (due to a long string of unfortunate circumstances over the past few years).

LeeSouthEast

Thanks, Pickle. I guess we both know where I'm coming from having recently caught up with your thread.

I don't think a house/flat share is suitable for me. I want my own space again, so I'll just keep hunting and try and find somewhere a little cheaper (and someone else was right, I don't need two bedrooms, so that'll help).

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InaPickle

LeeSouthEast wrote: »

I don't think a house/flat share is suitable for me. I want my own space again, so I'll just keep hunting and try and find somewhere a little cheaper (and someone else was right, I don't need two bedrooms, so that'll help).

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If you were me (and you are not, but nobody's perfect! ), then I would rent a 1 bedroom place and look to buy a 2 bedroom place as I think it would be easier to sell. (Non-qualified opinion as I know nothing about the property market, alas, but it's probably not a bad theory. )

Best of luck, but if nothing else, at least you know you want to go solo. :cool:

LeeSouthEast

I've decided that come the New Year, I will be moving out. It will be the 24 month anniversary since my life fell apart, and it seems a good point to move on again. I've since rebuilt my confidence, paid off all my debt, got into the habit of saving, and had the holiday of a lifetime with someone I care for very dearly.

So... all that remains is to pick an area, and I think I've settled on one. A one bedroom flat in nice areas is about £550-600/mo and that seems reasonable. I'm still thinking about the whole "share with a friend" idea (total outgoings for that would be £500) but I'm still not convinced I want to go that route.

Thanks to everyone who posted.

InaPickle

Yay! :j I'm glad you've made a decision. And you have the time to make your mind up on the share/not share things between now and then.

I hope it makes you very happy.