Do you ever stop worrying about your kids?

Savvy_Sue

Can you not email him or IM him? Or does he have a Facebook page? (and would he let you be your friend? mine won't!) Or does he tweet?

I rarely speak to my lot when they're away, but I do keep an eye on them via Twitter. Going to have to open negotiations with the youngest soon, before he goes to Uni, he seems to have changed his name on MSN (or he's stopped going on, I wonder which!) and if he blogs he hasn't let on where.

So it's either letting me know where I can touch base with him, or putting up with a weekly phone call from me! :rotfl:

aliasojo

He's not on Facebook SS. In fact he very likely doesn't have internet access at all where he is and he's not the type to bother so he wouldn't be looking for an internet cafe etc.

I'm embarrassed to admit I can't for the life of me remember his girlfriend's second name so cant even find out the flat phone number to see if she's heard from him although I could drive out there which I may do if much longer passes.

rumncoke

Up until DS went to uni I had never bothered with FB, but now find it brill. I do not do much on it myself but find it great for knowing that he is OK. As long as I can see he has been on I know he is OK. (& also for keeping an eye on who DD is in touch with)

aliasojo- it must be very worrying not to have any way of contacting him. I am sure he is OK & just enjoying life with no thought for how worried you are not to have heard from him. I hope you here something soon.


"It's up to you if you wish to subsidise your son but ask yourself what this is teaching him? Friends of mine who were hugely subsidised with large amounts of cash, constant 'top ups', cars and holidays paid for etc, have grown up totally unable to manage money and pay bills and many of them have racked up huge debts due to growing up with an overwhelming sense of entitlement."

I totally agree with this. We have been very fortunate to be able to put money aside for both of them to subsidise them at uni. The £400 we sent has come out of this fund. The intention being that at the end of the 3 years any money remaining in the pot would pay off some of student loan. However it has been made plain to him that this money is for his education & not holidays. Last summer he managed fine as he had been working PT while in sixth form & he even had enough to cover booking flight home when he missed his original flight.

While we are away I have asked him to work out what he would consider a reasonable weekly budget if he is not working. We will then sit down together to discuss it. I will be basing my budget on what he would receive on benefits as a non working adult living in rented accmmodation. I know there will be extras for books etc which I have no problem with.

I will also be telling him that should his GF come over here again there will be no top ups from us. & that before he can consider booking a flight again I will want to see proof that he has enough spending money for how long he is intending to go for. (His passport is kept here anyway for safe keeping)

I have always been pretty good with money & thought I had instilled this into him but obviously not. Should he not find work he is going to find life much tougher this year! He has now admitted that he didn't get paid as much from his weeks work at Easter as he thought, but by then he had already booked the flight!

Hopefully he will learn from this experience that you have to work for what you want.

aliasojo

Well after me voicing my concerns yesterday, son emailed me today. He'd got a quick shot of someone's laptop.

He's doing loads of overtime and has only had 1 day off in weeks so he's knackered and just falls into bed after work and doesn't think about anything. He'll be home in a couple of weeks so I'll see him then. I'm just happy I know he's still breathing, lol.

nanto3girls

ariba10 wrote: »

You never stop.

And it gets more so with Grandchildren.

Just what i was going to say.

ManOnTheMoon

I don't think you ever stop worrying. It's a parents prerogative.

Better to over worry than not at all.

jackieglasgow

Completely OT MOTM, but congrats on the new baby!

candygirl

No I never stop worrying about my DD, even though she's 23 with her own baby:(:(

ManOnTheMoon

jackieglasgow wrote: »

Completely OT MOTM, but congrats on the new baby!

Thanks Jackie.

Been there done it all before, but still nervous as anything and it's nearly 9 months away

candygirl

ManOnTheMoon wrote: »

Thanks Jackie.

Been there done it all before, but still nervous as anything and it's nearly 9 months away

OOh congrats MOTH:j:j:jARE you mad?:eek::eek::eek:;)