Do you ever stop worrying about your kids?

*Louise*

Nothing wrong with worrying, it shows you care.

I echo the worrying about parents - since us kids all left home they are now holidaying here there and everywhere and causing US worry now!! :rotfl:

And with due cause....they were in New York when the twin towers came down (had been up the towers a few days previously:eek:) they were in Florida when a tornado was on its way, they were in Austria when they had severe floods...I have told them they should consider holidaying at the local caravan park :rotfl:

beachbeth

No, you never stop worrying and being a "mum" or "dad" no matter how old the child. Right up until my MIL died she still gave my OH holiday money before he went on holiday - usually £10-20, whatever she could afford (a pensioner on a tight budget). He was 40 when she died and still saw him as her little boy I think! It was quite sweet. He would make sure he took that money and did something really nice with it - a meal or drink out. He appreciated the gesture.

I also remember after just getting married for our first Christmas my mum gave my OH a Christmas stocking for him to give me on Christmas morning. A proper stocking with little treats in just like I would have got if I was still at home!

Fang_3

Why does it strike me that you're more worried about your own holiday than anything else?

rumncoke

Yes, I will admit that I was concerned our holiday may be in jeopardy although the safe return of DS was obviously my main concern. Just to explain though we have saved hard for 5 years for this holiday to celebrate our Silver Wedding whereas DS is at uni & has only done 1 weeks work during Easter, has not really tried that hard to get part time work. DH also has health issues & is on strong pain killers & awaiting hospital referral, plus an extremely stressful job, so this is a much needed break for him. This is in addition to normal family holidays that we have enjoyed over the last 5 years. As well as supporting DS through uni (monthly allowance)

The only reason he went to the States was because he was left £500 when his Grandma died earlier this year, which paid for the flight & his spending money was supposed to be from his weeks work. What we did not realise was that he would book to go for 5 weeks & plan all sorts of things while there (Trip to New York, going to a show etc) His GF is also an out of work student & they really did not have the money for all this. I just do not see why we should pay for him to have expensive holidays, which IMO are luxuries, when he is not making the effort to earn it. We have worked hard to be able to afford our lifestyle & trying to instill this into him.


Anyway he should now be almost in Cardiff & home within half an hour (traffic permitting) Just looking forward to giving him a big hug when he gets in.

mountainofdebt

No I don't think you ever stop worrying about your children......I know I was bouncing when I went to pick up Junior (17) from the airport last week so much so OH told me he would hide the car keys if I didn't calm down!

As far as my mum is concerned I know (gawd forbid) I should come own with something nasty I would only be able to tell her once a) I knew exactly what was wrong b) what the docs were going to do and c) the outlook.......otherwise she would worry herself into an early grave

****kara****

I would say you never stop worrying. I know I won't lol

I accidently switched off my home phone and my mum was trying to ring me all night. When I noticed it was off I switched it back on and she rang again. She had a right go at me. She said she was just about to phoning around the hospitals :rotfl:

I'm 28 btw with a hubby and 2 kids

Savvy_Sue

donnaessex wrote: »

I still have to ring my mum when I get in if I have a (rare) night out. I havent lived with her for 10 years and have 2 children and a husband!

Pathetic! I'm 31 by the way!!!

I wouldn't tell mine, in that case ...

****kara**** wrote: »

I would say you never stop worrying. I know I won't lol

I accidently switched off my home phone and my mum was trying to ring me all night. When I noticed it was off I switched it back on and she rang again. She had a right go at me. She said she was just about to phoning around the hospitals :rotfl:

I'm 28 btw with a hubby and 2 kids

Why would she think your hubby wouldn't let her know if there was a problem? My mother barely speaks to DH, but I think she'd trust him to be in touch if necessary ...

Fortunately, I've inherited from MY mother the gene which lets you not worry if they're not at home. So I have very little worrying left to do!

rumncoke

Had a nice evening last night. When he got in he gave me a big hug & apologised for stressing us out. Just great to have him home. He spent quite a bit of time chatting to DD who he says seems to have grown up so much since he last saw her at the beginning of May. He has promised us he will be looking for work once he goes back (probably mid August to beat this years students)

Hopefully he has learnt a valuable lesson & realises now that you have to work for what you want.

chomsky_2

I'm glad your son is back safe and sound. I have had problems for years with my hugely over protective mother worrying about me, I have lived away a lot and travelled a fair bit and she still worries about me to this day. The main difference is that I have always worked and have paid every single penny of my travelling. I would never dream of taking £400 of my parents even if they had the money.

It amazes me how much young people sponge off their parents these days. I know people well into their late 20's still using the bank of mum and dad. I think it's natural for parents to worry about their kids but young people need to have a sense of independence and that includes earning their own money and paying for their own trips and experiences.

It's up to you if you wish to subsidise your son but ask yourself what this is teaching him? Friends of mine who were hugely subsidised with large amounts of cash, constant 'top ups', cars and holidays paid for etc, have grown up totally unable to manage money and pay bills and many of them have racked up huge debts due to growing up with an overwhelming sense of entitlement.

From what you have said I think he really needs to get a job, I appreciate times are hard but many universities have services that help students find jobs so he should be able to get some hours somewhere.

aliasojo

I have an issue at the moment with my 21 year old son so I sympathised with your thoughts OP.

Mine is working in Norway, has been away for weeks and I've had one text from him. I'm beginning to get slightly concerned as he hasn't replied to my texts which is unusual. I'm working on the basis of ...his phone battery is dead and he forgot to take his charger...or...he's lost his phone (not unheard of).

If I don't hear something soon, I'll be working on the basis of...he's been mugged and has been left for dead in a ditch or back street somewhere. :undecided

It's all payback.....I wasn't the most considerate person to my own Mother when I was his age, things always seemed to get in the way of making time for a phone call. What goes around comes around as they say.