It's STILL tough and not getting better - so how are we coping?

ceridwen

Sammy

Cant find where I saw the bit about onions for colds = as I recall one slices the top (exposed) bit off each day.

Did find - chicken soup (homemade) is genuinely a good idea (?presume babies can drink well-liquidised soups?)????

To help keep mucus loose stay in moist, warm, well ventilated room. To keep air in room moist place bowls of water near radiator (in winter) or open the lid of electric kettle and let water boil, which will fill room with steam.

HTH

Many of the herbal remedies recommended take some weeks/months of advance planning - so too late for that on this occasion.

mardatha

I have an unusual "ask".... If there is anybody on here who has a subscription to the Times online ?? - could you look up the benefit announcement today and tell me if there is anything in it about Pension Credit or the over 60s ?? I did ask on another board but as usual they are all too busy bickering like school kids to answer me !

Fruball

mardatha wrote: »

Shove the baby in beside him, SK. Then make for the door fast, and pretend you're deaf.

Exactly what I would have done

anguk

Sammy,

My neice swears by Nasosal drops (I'm sure she gets it from Boots) when her littlies have cold, I think it's a saline solution that you drop up their nose to help clear congestion.

http://www.nasosal.co.uk/

I agree with the others, I wouldn't be hoping Owen wakes up I'd be telling him to get up and look after the little one so you didn't have to take her out in the rain. I'd also be telling him he wouldn't be going to his mams until I'd caught up on a couple of hours sleep. You're much more patient and understanding than I would be.

flowertotmum

Good morning all...sorry for those that have poorlies...hugs for those that need it..unfortunately i need a bit of advice...my nephew is being christened on sunday and my brother has chosen a church that is 4 miles away(we have no car),then the do after is another 3 miles on top of that...plus he told my elder dd's if they don't go to the church then they can't go to the after do..i told him i can't get to the church and all he said was ok see you at the do then...now i'm torn because i don't think its fair that i can't make it to either really yet he never said anything,but then told my girls they can't go...my hubby doesn't want to go and neither do i in all honesty...they make me feel like a charity case and my sister in laws all group together and i'm left out..my mum will be there being mum and gran of the yr again..i really hate these things and don't want to cause a rift but i don't think its right that i can go and my girls can't...i need to find a decent excuse that won't cause trouble...i thought about txting him and saying A,too far to walk in the bad weather it gives,B,can't afford it(its in a nightclub the do after)C,if my girls can't go then i'm not going either...please advise me,my hubby wants to ring but he is as subtle as brick through the window...what can i do?????????????

alec_eiffel

flowertotmum wrote: »

Good morning all...sorry for those that have poorlies...hugs for those that need it..unfortunately i need a bit of advice...my nephew is being christened on sunday and my brother has chosen a church that is 4 miles away(we have no car),then the do after is another 3 miles on top of that...plus he told my elder dd's if they don't go to the church then they can't go to the after do..i told him i can't get to the church and all he said was ok see you at the do then...now i'm torn because i don't think its fair that i can't make it to either really yet he never said anything,but then told my girls they can't go...my hubby doesn't want to go and neither do i in all honesty...they make me feel like a charity case and my sister in laws all group together and i'm left out..my mum will be there being mum and gran of the yr again..i really hate these things and don't want to cause a rift but i don't think its right that i can go and my girls can't...i need to find a decent excuse that won't cause trouble...i thought about txting him and saying A,too far to walk in the bad weather it gives,B,can't afford it(its in a nightclub the do after)C,if my girls can't go then i'm not going either...please advise me,my hubby wants to ring but he is as subtle as brick through the window...what can i do?????????????

If you did want to go I would suggest ringing round everyone to see if anyone you know could do you a big favour and give you a lift, just attend the ceremony but not the do. But as you don't want to go I would just say "no".

You don't need an excuse, you're an adult, you don't have to explain yourself and either lie or make yourself feel bad by saying you can't afford it. No is a possible answer, if it's something you don't want to do and you think would make you unhappy then exercise your right to say "thanks but now thanks, have a wonderful day". Maybe send a card and then make sure your family have a really nice day doing something you want to do together.

And at the other end of the spectrum...

I am in love with the world at the minute :j The date of DH's restructure has been delayed AGAIN so we don't know if he's going to be made redundant or not. Which on the one hand is awful but on the other hand gives us more time to save up. But it has been great for our relationship, really pulling together and getting our priorities straight. I have fallen in love with cooking, the house, making things instead of buying things and just getting my hands dirty. I hope redundancy doesn't happen obviously but this period of preparation has done wonders for us and I hope it lasts even when things are a little more secure.

Best wishes to everyone.

kidcat

Frugal wrote: »

Exactly what I would have done

Not me, I would have got him to take Ben to school and gone back to bed with baby:)


I have so much to do and am way too sick to manage anything, its driving me crazy. Desperately want to get to Ikea to buy fleeces for the curtains but leaving the sofa is not currently an option, got big retirement party for mum tomorrow and do not have anything to wear or any idea how I will manage to get there feeling like this, just hoping that if I stay still today I can get myself moving tomorrow and nip out to buy a top or something. Doesnt help that its her employer throwing the party and I have a strained relationship with them as is, havent seen most of them for almost two years since i walked out. Tbh am stressed at the idea of going and seeing all the faces of people who stabbed me in the back and were incredibly horrible to me, so to be not 100% is gutting. In a very vain way I wanted to turn up looking great and show them that they hadnt got to me.

Stupid I know.

Sammy - have you asked HV about nose drops - one of ours was given saline drops that cleared the nose - in turn made breathing easier and therefore sleeping too!!

DD15 - had a cookery lesson yesterday and her teacher had her make jam tarts and calzone pizza using a scone mix. She had mentioned that the teacher had told them this, but I had explained that scone mix wouldnt work for calzone and needed to be proper dough. So she had them use it yesterday and it fell to pieces and was a disaster- all that food wasted :mad::mad::mad: I offered proper recipe and ingredients as well.

flowertotmum

alec_eiffel wrote: »

If you did want to go I would suggest ringing round everyone to see if anyone you know could do you a big favour and give you a lift, just attend the ceremony but not the do. But as you don't want to go I would just say "no".

You don't need an excuse, you're an adult, you don't have to explain yourself and either lie or make yourself feel bad by saying you can't afford it. No is a possible answer, if it's something you don't want to do and you think would make you unhappy then exercise your right to say "thanks but now thanks, have a wonderful day". Maybe send a card and then make sure your family have a really nice day doing something you want to do together.

And at the other end of the spectrum...

I am in love with the world at the minute :j The date of DH's restructure has been delayed AGAIN so we don't know if he's going to be made redundant or not. Which on the one hand is awful but on the other hand gives us more time to save up. But it has been great for our relationship, really pulling together and getting our priorities straight. I have fallen in love with cooking, the house, making things instead of buying things and just getting my hands dirty. I hope redundancy doesn't happen obviously but this period of preparation has done wonders for us and I hope it lasts even when things are a little more secure.

Best wishes to everyone.

Hi your right i should just bite the bullet and be honest..i don't want to go..i don't like family gatherings as i get left out...and so do my girls and son..i' afraid its my family that are the black sheep because we don't bow down to my mum...
I love cooking and baking too..its so cathartic..and satisfying..i follow 2 blogs and they are amazing and full of hints and tips on how to do the simplest things and get pleasure from them..its awful the not knowing on the job front..we didn't get that pleasure he went to work on monday as normal then came home again an hour later...poor chap he had been with them since leaving school...not fair but then thats life...thanks for the advice ..take care

alec_eiffel

flowertotmum wrote: »

Hi your right i should just bite the bullet and be honest..i don't want to go..i don't like family gatherings as i get left out...and so do my girls and son..i' afraid its my family that are the black sheep because we don't bow down to my mum...
I love cooking and baking too..its so cathartic..and satisfying..i follow 2 blogs and they are amazing and full of hints and tips on how to do the simplest things and get pleasure from them..its awful the not knowing on the job front..we didn't get that pleasure he went to work on monday as normal then came home again an hour later...poor chap he had been with them since leaving school...not fair but then thats life...thanks for the advice ..take care

Ikwym. Until this year I was always the black sheep, never fit in, don't really have anything in common with my family - especially the women. But then a teeny tiny thing happened and my parents all of a sudden realised that they may not agree with me, I may want to have a different life to what they wanted but at least I care about people. And that's what matters. But it isn't pleasant to feel left out at a time everyone's meant to be together.

kidcat

As its family I would take the easy route and make up some excuse if you really dont want to go, but if you do want to go then maybe give your brother a call and ask if he can arrange any transport for you.