It's STILL tough and not getting better - so how are we coping?

kezlou

gailey wrote: »

Anyway a couple of families on private quite pricey estate we rent on have slightly different approach.
I guess it works as their houses fairly large but in other cultures its common thorough choice not money for extended familes .

The large asian house the grandparents and grown up children still live their possibly some grandkids too.

A lot of asian families live together in quite close knit quarters of grand parents, parents, children and grandchildren as its part of they culture. for instance if a man marries a woman in the local area then generally he moves with her. This is the same regarding a woman, its part of the initial celebration and getting to know one and another, as a lot of the marriages have been prearranged by there parents. The families where i am tend to live in a two / three bed house, 2 rooms downstairs , kitchen and bathroom, yard. In other words a town house like mine some are larger some are smaller. But some of them , i,.e people i know from the school are moving away from that as they want they own space and hate living so close together. So its a mixture as well some aspects of the culture relaxing and as well mutating slowly into the traditional british ideal of having own space i.e king of the castle mentality.

icelandic_queen

So much for stockpiling!! My mum has just come round and 'borrowed' a 4 pack of kitchen rolls, bottle of bleach and some loo rolls!! It's not a wee shop I'm running!!! :mad::mad: Will have to move my stash out of the utility room and find somewhere else!!! The reason she was actually round was for me to tumble dry her bedclothes!! :eek: I think not, out on the line they've gone.

alec_eiffel

gailey wrote: »

eiffel lots of wants but rarly buy.I changed so much.

It's a tough change, but the more you do the more you realise you can do (as you know already). The less time you spend looking at advertising, window shopping and all that you'll find your wants lessen and then eventually your wants will be distilled down to what you really want, not just things that turn your head. It's hard but it's really good, you don't even notice it's happening and then one day (usually in December ) you just realise you're tuning out a lot of the visual noise and it makes things easier.

kezlou

I was like that in town yesterday when i went to sort the car tax out. Lots i things i LIKED as i passed the shops but NOTHING i actually wanted. This time last year i was still at the maybe buy it stage.

In the end, how boring can one person be, bought some wool to practice with, two lots of thread for the curtains and dress i'm making and more sewing needles. I mean blooming heck what i have turned into. I'm 27 and i've turned into my grandmother.

I mean i could easily have bought the curtains for £70ish or more, but instead i'm thinking i can make that for cheaper.

alec_eiffel

kezlou wrote: »

I was like that in town yesterday when i went to sort the car tax out. Lots i things i LIKED as i passed the shops but NOTHING i actually wanted. This time last year i was still at the maybe buy it stage.

In the end, how boring can one person be, bought some wool to practice with, two lots of thread for the curtains and dress i'm making and more sewing needles. I mean blooming heck what i have turned into. I'm 27 and i've turned into my grandmother.

I mean i could easily have bought the curtains for £70ish or more, but instead i'm thinking i can make that for cheaper.

Is this not the point though? We wouldn't be saying it's sad if we'd made our wedding cake or prepared a really delicious meal that everyone loved or grown our own food. So why put down your efforts when talking about other things we create ourselves? People pay a fortune for made to measure curtains or an original piece of clothing, why not be happy to possess these great skills and to get exactly what we need in terms of stuff for the home?

Shop bought is not necessarily better and if there's something you like doing, or maybe not even like but something we can learn and achieve why not be happy?

kezlou

oh i not saying that, i think its great. I'm literally going to have made two pairs of curtains for a whopping £2.20 for materials and cotton. Best of all they in the colour and thick material that i WANTED.

I already have made another pair of curtains for a whopping 10p!! AS i already had the cotton, etc only just had to buy the material for 10p.

I'm more than happy making things, in fact i'm going to have a go at making my own bras using the wires from my broken old ones.

lilac_lady

Reading all the posts and feeling glad that this thread is still going because we're all on the same wave length and it's a wave that many others think of as a sign of being mean. We're not mean, we're sensible.

I'm going to follow the advice of whoever (sorry, can't remember) posted the tip of putting £5 a week aside for stockpiling then go and have a great day out spending money.

I'd rather have a stockpile than a designer handbag! (not that I've ever bought one - I wouldn't even if I won the lottery!).

Primrose

I have to confess that I can't even tell the difference between a designer handbag and one bought for a tenner in the local market, so it would be a pretty pointless activity spending hundreds of pounds on one!

katiegizmo

I'm 27 and i've turned into my grandmother.

:rotfl:Thats exactly how i feel (although I'm 29 now, boo!) I feel on a different planet to a lot of my friends sometimes but I can have in depth conversations about Os with my gran bless her!

katiegizmo

Primrose wrote: »

I have to confess that I can't even tell the difference between a designer handbag and one bought for a tenner in the local market, so it would be a pretty pointless activity spending hundreds of pounds on one!

I'm quite accident prone and it's upsetting enough to ruin a £10 bag, imagine how you'd feel if you'd spend hundreds on it (or more!) and then broke the pretty zip or got it stained or lost it!!!