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benbenandme

£5 from quidco chucked into the mortgage pot and this months mortgage payment has gone out, signature has been adjusted accordingly

benbenandme

Postie has brought the cheque details from the bank, and yes I did pay £175 not £25 as my landlord is saying, so that means I need to pay £525 to bring it up to date instead of the £675 he asked for :beer: Glad I checked it, lucky I'm financially obsessed or I could have ended up just paying up again, clearly he's not so financially organised as me

chevalier

benbenandme wrote: »

Postie has brought the cheque details from the bank, and yes I did pay £175 not £25 as my landlord is saying, so that means I need to pay £525 to bring it up to date instead of the £675 he asked for :beer: Glad I checked it, lucky I'm financially obsessed or I could have ended up just paying up again, clearly he's not so financially organised as me

Sorry i am far more cynical than you and think he was just chancing his arm to see if he could get extra out of you....
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benbenandme

You are very probably right Chev, but once I've paid it I will be badgering him to fix our stairs, we have industrial metal stairs outside and as we are so close to the sea, the salt in the air corrodes them really quickly and we now have a few holes appearing in them where you can see straight through to the floor below :eek:

benbenandme

Evening all, an afternoon down the beach, one lot of ds homeowrk done, a trip to Sainsburys (£31), then mums for the rest of the afternoon and didn't get home until 9.30ish as dad was away with the fairies tonight and mum wanted me to stay a bit as he was just bonkers

benbenandme

£4 from a p*cone survey :beer:

pennywisepoundstupid

Sorry to hear about your dad, has your mum come to any decisions about what she is going to do?

I used to work with the elderly a long time a go and always remember that they seemed worse, more confused and anxious in the evening, could your mum get extra help in the evening a carer coming in to give her a bit of a break, really feel for her, i was in my twenties when i worked with them and was shattered after an evening shift, your mum must be exhausted, sending hugs.

benbenandme

Thankyou Penny, that may be an option; she took him to the doctors this week about the incontinence and they want to investiagte it more to see if its anything more sinister than just the dementia as its happening several times a day now She is also going to see another home this week thats a bit closer to home. Financially if he goes in permanently she loses all his disability allowance / her carers allowance / his pensions / and they use all his savings until they are below a certain level. While this makes sense in some ways it also seems unfair as they are their life savings but the majority of them have always have been in his name so she get left for her retirement on very little Pants, pants,pants ....

dangers

Tell me about it - have a look at continued health care though. He may not qualify but it may be worth investigating. There is a very long thread on the over 50s part of the forum.

benbenandme

Thankyou Dangers, have never been on that board before but theres some very very useful stuff ... we're off to mums in a bit and I am going to find out exactly what financial help he gets and then make it a project to find out more Mum won't touch a computer "I have a typewriter, what could I poossibly want a computer for" :cool: :rotfl:so I will do it for her