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pinkladyof66

benbenandme wrote: »

Dont get me wrong, he wasnt exactly jumping out of bed last night but I want to make sure I blow his socks off ... advice please!

LOL that is so funny i nearly !!!!ed myself laughing !!!!

benbenandme

Oi!!! I wasn't being funny, I mean it!! I'm just asking for opinions of the best way to make him want me more than her ... I think I did a pretty good job last night, just need him to want to come back for more

pinkladyof66

did a pretty good job then, see i knew you had it in you, he will be begging you for more, i can assure you

benbenandme

Morning all Sun is shining and ds was up at silly o'clock which is fine except I couldn't fall asleep last night and was still awake at 1, so feel knackered now, never mind :cool:

No idea what todays plan is yet, tomorrow we're going to Legoland or Chessington again I think, but today is a free day Probably end up down the beach me thinks

So oh wise ones, wheres my advice?? Most of you have partners, how d'ya keep 'em??

tigzem

I think from what you've said ie all the texts/emails you're exchanging that he does want to come back (and stay) just keep on reminding him what a good thing he has with you and maybe concentrate on blowing something else off rather than his socks!!!!!!

benbenandme

Lol Tigz, okay so that was a bad turn of phrase to have used :rotfl:
I know he will come back but he has huge commitment issues, (bigger than me :eek:) ... not that I'm sure that I even want a relationship, but *if* I do then I want to have the choice rather than him if that makes sense??

tigzem

Totally and I think you're scared of getting hurt again but I believe you're stronger now and wouldn't allow that. How often does he see the other girl? Maybe you could play the local card more? Send him sexy texts, men love that! Without hanging onto his every word, just be there without demands. The men I've come across are pretty basic and like food, sport and s*x and not always in that order!

And as for keeping my fella, sometimes I can't wait for him to go :rotfl:

benbenandme

Lol Tigz He doesn't see her much at all, every two or three weeks I think ... sexy texts are not a problem, been doing that bit for weeks
He doesn't really like sport although does go to the gym 4 or 5 times a week :T He's not massively a foodie, has various stuff he cant touch for health reasons, he does like sex though :rotfl:

He said just carry on as friends etc, so I said well on that basis I'm happy for him to meet ds as he knows all my other friends, but if theres a chance it will be more than just friends then I dont want ds involved ... he replied almost instantly saying its probably best he doesnt meet ds then :j

Keeping_Motivated

tigzem wrote: »

And as for keeping my fella, sometimes I can't wait for him to go :rotfl:

Joking apart I think this is it..men like independent women so Benben keep independent as you already are don't lose it. You can manage with out him he is just a bonus at the moment so treat him like a friend with benefits and anything else is a bonus. Keep going out with friends and keep him on his toes. If he thinks you are there for when he finally makes up his mind he will take all the time in the world and go with the one who he is most scared of losing I imagine and if you are very available (I'm not suggesting you are by the way) then he won't have any challenge and I believe men like the chase and the challenge (women too I'm not being sexist just repsonding from your perspective).

So get planning a girly night out and make sure he knows how excited you are

benbenandme

Already have planned one, spoke to another single mate last night and she has been dating a couple of guys so havent seen her for a few weeks, so we've arranged a night out over the bank holiday weekend to catch up on the gossip, compare notes and see who else is out and about