home schooling

7891368

Does your son actually want to be home schooled?

I would not have liked to have had my Mum teaching me, I think it would affect our 'home' relationship too much.

Perhaps trial it for a few weeks over summer before pulling him out of school.

No offence he might decide he hates the idea of you teaching him/missing out with all his mates at school/not being able to go to school football club etc and might try and 'lose' him reputation when he goes back.

Don't say he can't make up his mind, he's 12 or so. He must have some kind of opinion.

Fang_3

fedupnow wrote: »

Maybe you're right - maybe he is bad through and through but that is not what the OP posted.

No, you're right. She asked for advice because those evil teachers wouldn't let a bad kid start afresh. Boo. Bloody. Hoo.

I'm sorry but if the parent refuses to teach that there are consequences to actions, then the school must. And if the parent doesn't like that, then she can remove her son and save the better kids a lot of hassle from a badly behaved, and disgusting waste of space.

fedupnow

Fang wrote: »

No, you're right.

I know .

Fang_3

fedupnow wrote: »

I know .

Do try to not become overwhelmed. It must be frightening to be right for once. Try not to let it go to your head. You wouldn't want to say silly things. Again.

fedupnow

Fang wrote: »

Do try to not become overwhelmed. It must be frightening to be right for once. Try not to let it go to your head. You wouldn't want to say silly things. Again.

Try not to mate. Thanks for your advice, I appreciate it.

righter

patchwork_cat wrote: »

Yes this is a worry, but would they be any different if they were home schooled? My DS and DD are not as I have said homeschooled or privately educated and they certainly don't talk like that. Before anyone says you just don't know, yes I do!

you are right,its down to family values primarily,but the year she attended High school,she found the general topics of conversation ..well,there is no easy way to say it...moronic.

She floated between "the popular clique " and "freaks and geeks" (not my terms..kids terms.)

She found the nastiness,bullying re image,chopping and changing of friends really unpleasant. perhaps its something about children en mass.

The op makes the point that the child is unable to escape ,a now obsolete reputation.

teachers are human,and do "pick" on some children or treat others as favourites. try fighting it,schools close ranks.

See the recent reports on how many "bad" teachers have actually been given the boot over the past 20 odd years...18 wasn`t it ?...as if
Having said that,I remember very good,inspirational teachers,they have a huge impact on children`s lives.

Home schooling is not for the faint hearted,so i would advise looking at a different school first.

7891368

righter wrote: »

The op makes the point that the child is unable to escape ,a now obsolete reputation.

Home schooling is not for the faint hearted,so i would advise looking at a different school first.

Is that their own fault though? Everyone likes to think they've got their own little angel; my parents included!

Definitely agree, I changed schools; best decision I made, home schooling wasn't an option.

righter

7891368 wrote: »

Is that their own fault though? Everyone likes to think they've got their own little angel; my parents included!

well we can`t know,can we? it could be that the op is oblivious to their child's behaviour or they could be being discriminated against.

Mine are certainly not angels...one got into trouble by climbing on the school roof...destroying tiles ....took him a long time to pay that off with his pocket money,he had to get a Saturday job...did him good in the end.
action= consequences....not all parents make their kids understand this.
i have worked in schools and have heard first hand the " you have no right to tell my little jimmy.....etc"

patchwork_cat

fedupnow wrote: »

See? We can find common ground. I totally agree. :T

And, to answer your other question. No we did not go into it lightly - agonised over it ... researched some ... and then some more. That is what the OP is doing. She is guaging the opinion on a public forum. I'm quite sure she won't make the decision based entirely on mine or yours.

I hope she reads those sites I linked to. Speaks to others in her area, see what local support is available and make her decision based on what is best for her son.

I was never under illusion the that we didn't :D.

However I really do think home schooling should be approached with more than a fair amount of caution, and that many people should not consider it. As a result I would never encourage another person to do it as it would take a very particular child and parent to make a success of it and I fear too many don't adequately consider all options and before I made the decision to home school I certainly would try a good 2 or 3 other schools first, which I am not convinced the OP ( who is notable by their absence!) has.

marrbett

I've been very surprised how anti home education alot of the posters have been. We have 4 children who have never been to school, the oldest is 15 and is going to sit a mixture of GCSEs,O Levels and OU exams over the next year. It's not easy and I feel as if I should be taking the exams alongside him(!) as I'm learning it all as he does!! That's the difference I see- I'm helping him to learn for himself-I facilitate it (and learn it too!!)
I'm always being complimented on how lovely my kids are, how kind they are to little ones. I'm not saying this to blow my own trumpet, just to try to re-dress abit about what's important in life. Education goes on through the whole of life, it's not all over and done with at school and my children do seem to have the attitude that if they don't know the answer to something, they'll go and find out.... they will do well in life I hope because employers like to employ people who are willing to learn.
My children have lots of friends who go to school,and they do feel abit different sometimes, but only because they can't understand why they can't sit next to a boy, cause he's a boy(!!!) etc.They manage perfectly well otherwise, and are really nice to be around.(OK, now I know I'm sounding my kids' trumpets)
To the OP I'd say, if you and your son want to give it a try, there is nothing to lose and possibly (hopefully) much to gain. He can always go back into school if it doesn't work for him.