Divorce - You NEVER know!!

chaosweddings

before me and dh married his mum died and left a large amount of money, we sat down and talked about what we would do with it but also spoke about marriage.

when we finally set a date for the wedding we also made a appointment with the solicitors to sort out a pre-nup.

if we divorce i get half the house and half of anything we have bought like cars/caravan ect but he gets to keep the inheritance.

it was his mums money not mine, and there is also a clause in the pre nup stating that if i came into a inheritance and we divorce then i get to keep it but if we win money we share it.

dh mum worked really hard for that money and wouldnt expect to take any of it, obviously we have spent some and shared a bit out but its his not mine.

now if we didnt have a pre-nup and dh hid money other than inheritance that would be another thing !!!! lol

Steel_2

I know one thing. If you hoard and hide money from your OH you will be divorced and then you'll end up losing half of it in the divorce settlement anyway. And rightly so. I wonder if your wife that you care so little for has sacrificed her career and pension to stay at home and bring up your children, or spent her free time cooking and cleaning and looking after your sorry !!!!.

Some of the attitudes towards marriage on this forum shock me. What happened to shared visions, dreams and goals? I'm not surprised there's a high divorce rate when people think me, me,me.

What happened to us, us us?

Personally any money that comes into our marriage is shared money. An inheritance would get us towards our goals faster. It would also help if one of us became disabled and unable to work. It would protect us both and keep us safe.

REDMADCURLS

What an endearing post Crakkers!!:o

If I got any money - it automatically becomes our money, and DH would do the same - that is why we are married to each other, we have the same morals, waying of thinking, whatever way you want to put it.

If DH wanted to buy something that only he would use with money he inherited, that too would be fine.

If DH hid money/situations/thoughts from me, that would be so not fine!

Newly_retired

I have inherited money from my parents during our marriage. DH said straight away that it is mine, not ours. He knows I am happy to spend it if we need to eg if we move house or need to adapt a house etc. However in my will it is left to the children. Fortunately there is money for DH as well.
In the case of divorce I guess it would have to be split, though if I thought that was likely I reckon I would put it in trust for the children.

pinknfluffy0

I think if your married it becomes ours, well thats how it works for us.

haydonwynter

It's not a case of what's yours is ours and what's mine is my own.

You may not want to get a devorce, but your wife might if she reads this :P

Running_Horse

In the unlikely event one of us ever inherited a large sum, it would go on shared stuff like the house, or a car. It sounds bizzare that one half of the partnership would consider it their money, to be spent on them alone and kept by them in the case of divorce. Makes you wonder why some people get married.

Gingham_Ribbon

ceridwen

Well - my viewpoint has always been:

What's his is his, what's mine is mine - what's ours is ours.

So - the money O.P. refers to is his - and I wouldn't expect to touch it if I were his O.H.

If he chose to share any of it with me - then, of course, I wouldn't "look a gift horse in the mouth".:D

However - I have never regarded being married to someone as an excuse to get my hands on their money - or vice-versa.

crakkers

Quite obviously a massive gender issue here!

I did not realise woman can be so veminous and see its as a right not to work for a living and sponge off hubby, often using children as the excuse!!


As I said, NOT getting divorced, but I'm glad I NOT married to some of the woman in this thread as we would not have lasted half as long as I have with my wife!!!! I hope those concerned win the lotto and give their winnings to their OH straight away!! FAT CHANCE it sounds!

Although many magnaminous females who are very nubile!!

Oh well, I wonder what nag:rotfl: is running in the 3:30 at Kepmton, might as well have a go eh!