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what qualifies you as being disabled?

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  • I was diagnosed with Asperger's when I was 33.

    I honestly believed being diagnosed would help me but all it has done is hinder me.

    You are constantly told what you can't won't be able to do & in the end you believe them.

    My GP told me today that maybe in 5 years time I might be able to get a little part time job doing something that i'm interested in but that i'll never be able to work full time or in a factory/warehouse environment.

    I was gutted, I honestly thought that I would be able to overcome my difficulties but my GP doesn't think I will as her brother has Asperger's so she has alot of experience.

    Maybe it's people telling us that we are disabled/have a disability that makes us think we are/do.
    I'd rather regret the things I've done than regret the things I haven't done.
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  • nannytone_2
    nannytone_2 Posts: 13,003 Forumite
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    thats silly BCS.
    your doctor may have his own opinion but surely you dont need him to tell you what you are capable of? dont you think for yourself?
    the specialists tell me that i am incapable of any work for which 'eyesight is essential'
    i work in the local garage, and no one has managed to run off without me seeing them yet!

    ok i wouldnt be a very good store detective, or bus driver, but i know i am capable of working and prefer to rely on my own judgement rather than what the 'experts' tell me!
  • Oldernotwiser
    Oldernotwiser Posts: 37,425 Forumite
    missile wrote: »
    Your disability has to be permanent.
    .

    No it doesn't.
  • summerof0763
    summerof0763 Posts: 825 Forumite
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    krisskross wrote: »
    I have just this second asked my husband if he considers himself disabled.

    Now this is a chap that has severe rheumatoid arthritis which means he sometimes needs to use a wheelchair, cannot do up buttons or cut up his own food. He is also profoundly deaf needing 2 hearing aids. And until Tuesday was effectively blind because of cataracts.

    And the answer very loudly was that of course he isn't 'a disabled person'. He honestly never expects anyone to give him special treatment. So I think it must lie with self perception how not quite perfect people see themselves and how they wish others to see them.
    nit picking again,why come to the disability forums? your not disabled.your hubby not disabled.so leave others alone,you have no idea how disability affects different people!!
    i came into the world with nothing,and guess what? i still have it!!!:p
  • nannytone wrote: »
    thats silly BCS.
    your doctor may have his own opinion but surely you dont need him to tell you what you are capable of? dont you think for yourself?
    the specialists tell me that i am incapable of any work for which 'eyesight is essential'
    i work in the local garage, and no one has managed to run off without me seeing them yet!

    ok i wouldnt be a very good store detective, or bus driver, but i know i am capable of working and prefer to rely on my own judgement rather than what the 'experts' tell me!

    I'm hoping to be able to prove her wrong.

    I'm feeling really stressed & low at the moment so i'd probably believe anything anyone said. :(
    I'd rather regret the things I've done than regret the things I haven't done.
    Lucille Ball
  • Indie_Kid
    Indie_Kid Posts: 23,097 Forumite
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    _shel wrote: »
    Sh1305, stop biting back and just give the legal and unarguable definition!

    I did this in my first post.

    That long term thing doesn't apply to cancer and I think, AIDS.
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  • cyclonebri1
    cyclonebri1 Posts: 12,827 Forumite
    dcmbarton wrote: »
    I'm sure that many people don't want to be labelled as 'disabled' because of the attitudes which go with that - clearly displayed here once again. There seems to be this attitude in society that if you're disabled, you're out for money, benefits and sympathy. That simply isn't true.


    Exactly. I'm no expert on this but I'm sure the act was intended to ensure that anyone who needed help in the workplace to carry out normal employment got?? That might be the need for a swivel chair. It might be the understanding that occaisionaly the person would be late or miss work, or even that certain lifting tasks were beyond the person concerned. Doesn't cost a fortune, the individual is ussually willing to make time up etc.

    Here's the example. From the company I worked for for 38 years.

    A person could be sacked for taking 6 days sick in 2 years.

    It went something like this;

    At the 3rd individual (self cert or doctor note) absence the individual was councilled/cautioned.

    The next time it would be a verbal warning.

    The next time it was a final verbal warning

    One more and it was written notice of termination

    :eek::eek::eek::eek:

    How can anyone with a serious health problem fight such barbaric company rules without the aid of the disabled tag.

    PS.

    I've told this tale to many people when I was at work at various seminars and courses, they found it hard to belive, but I can scan the company handbook for anyone that doesn't think I'm being serious.
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  • Owain_Moneysaver
    Owain_Moneysaver Posts: 11,393 Forumite
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    Savvy_Sue wrote: »
    My grandad used to just hail all the buses and then ask the driver what number they were.

    I tried to hail an ambulance once, thought it was a Dunblane bus.
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  • DX2
    DX2 Posts: 8,275 Forumite
    A re run of the budget thread...How long for this one to be locked :think:
    *SIGH*
    :D
  • Indie_Kid
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