Daughter leaves colleg & benefits dropped

gizmo111

Hammyman wrote: »

Oh aye, so it is. So she gets Child Tax Credit and would get childcare paid for. I'm quite sure that grandma and grandad would love to see their granddaughter for a week as well..

How can you be sure of that - do you know the OP's circumstances? When my daughter was age 13 both grandparents had passed away, I had very little option for childcare and like the OP was very reluctant to leave her by herself for days on end.

LittleVoice

concerned43 wrote: »

is not the number of hours per se its the amount earned.

It's the number of hours as far as being able to claim JSA is concerned. The amount earned affects how much JSA would be paid.

Numptytoes

Well personally I think you are all being very harsh on the OP. I don't know many 13 year olds who can look after themselves, in this day and age unfortunately we have to cotton wool wrap our children. You don't know where the OP lives? She may live somewhere where she doesn't want to leave her 13 year old to roam around. I think good for her for wanting to be there for her 13 year old after school personally!!! THe 19 year old should be out working FULL-TIME now and contributing to the house.

Oldernotwiser

Numptytoes wrote: »

I don't know many 13 year olds who can look after themselves, in this day and age unfortunately we have to cotton wool wrap our children. You don't know where the OP lives? She may live somewhere where she doesn't want to leave her 13 year old to roam around. I think good for her for wanting to be there for her 13 year old after school personally!!! THe 19 year old should be out working FULL-TIME now and contributing to the house.

If a 13 year old cannot look after her/himself, then that is the parent's fault.

If the family live in a rough are then the young person needs to stay indoors after school; an area doesn't become less rough because there's a parent at home!

sp1987

Oldernotwiser wrote: »

If a 13 year old cannot look after her/himself, then that is the parent's fault.

If the family live in a rough are then the young person needs to stay indoors after school; an area doesn't become less rough because there's a parent at home!

Plus, term time only jobs exist. If the OP just got a normal full time job they could take their holidays in the summer to coincide with some of the time her daughter is off.

When I was 13/14 my mother worked full time and it never hurt me. In fact I used to get some peace from 3.45pm-5.15 to do my homework. Not that I really ever did any at that age, but I had peace and quiet to have done it :rotfl:

The child doesn't even need to learn to cook, I just used to wait until 5.15 when someone came home if I wanted something that required cooking. Prior to that fruit/sandwiches/cereal/food I barely even had to stir or cut existed to keep me alive that long and gruelling hour and a half.

poet123

I have a 13 year old and whilst I am happy for him to be alone for a few hours after school if needed, I would not be happy for him to be left 8AM-5PM for the duration of the school holidays.

gizmo111

Oldernotwiser wrote: »

If a 13 year old cannot look after her/himself, then that is the parent's fault.

If the family live in a rough are then the young person needs to stay indoors after school; an area doesn't become less rough because there's a parent at home!

A 13 year old is a vulnerable child and still needs looking after - they are not expected to fend for themselves which is precisely why tax credit contributes to childcare until the age of 15 and child benefit lasts until the age of 19.

The area may not become less rough if a parent is home but the parent being home will aid the childs security and be a protective measure aganst bullying in the home etc whilst the child is alone.

idvi

most 13 year olds i know arent 'young and vulnrable'

theyre getting drunk and having sex :eek:

true though


13 = year 8. when i was in year 8, i used to be left at home whenever my parents went out and i didnt want to go, including when my mum worked in the school holidays etc

i spent all day sometimes out in town, got the bus back from school, made myself dinner etc

even then, id hardly say we were young and vulnrable, we were teenagers and had everything that goes with that...

im only in my 20's, but no wonder kids today cant do anything if they are being babysat til they are 16

Oldernotwiser

gizmo111 wrote: »

The area may not become less rough if a parent is home but the parent being home will aid the childs security and be a protective measure aganst bullying in the home etc whilst the child is alone.

If a child is alone at home, who is bullying him/her?

Oldernotwiser

idvi wrote: »

13 = year 8. when i was in year 8, i used to be left at home whenever my parents went out and i didnt want to go, including when my mum worked in the school holidays etc

When I was 11/12 we spent the whole of the day at the swimming pool with friends. Whether or not there was someone at home was irrelevent as we didn't have a phone.