If My Pennies Were Pounds...

If_My_Pennies_Were_Pounds

Went out with my girls on Monday for tea, one has two kids aged 17 months and 5 months, the other has one aged 20 months and is pregnant with her second...made me feel really broody!

Wondering if someone can give me some fresh perspective on a tricky situation we currently have, the whole family is arguing about it...basically my sister is getting married in August, my uncle (Dad's brother) split with his wife last January and has a new partner (who also has 3 kids). My uncle was married to his wife for over 16 years and is arguing with us that she shouldn't be invited and that his new partner should have her place.

My sister and her fiance have said to him that while they welcome his partner and her kids to the evening reception there just isn't enough room in their day numbers unless my uncle can contribute to them coming....Oh and to add, my uncle has only been with his new partner for 5 months

What would your opinion be of this situation?

Woowoo

I think it is perfectly acceptable that they are only invited to the evening reception x

If_My_Pennies_Were_Pounds

I do too, but he is kicking off saying that we aren't accepting his new family and that they should have automatically been invited with him.

By the way we've only met his new partner and two of her three kids once, and that was after my Nana died so it wasn't really in the best circumstances.

Why would you pay for four strangers to come to your day when you have other people that you aren't able to invite because of numbers?!

Woowoo

Someone once told me when they were planning their wedding how they chose their guests - would I pay £50 to take this person out for a meal, if the answer is no then don't invite them!

He is being very selfish, it's not his place to dictate who comes to the day, if his new family wasn't being accepted they wouldn't have been invited at all.

If_My_Pennies_Were_Pounds

That's what I've been trying to say to him, but it just feels like I'm banging my head against a brick wall!

He came out with a cracker the other day, surely his new girlfriend could have his ex-wife's place?! :mad:

DebtFree2012

Totally agree with Woo and it's not his decision to make.

Perfectly reasonable for evening only. If he wants to make a fuss over it he can just not come and feel stupid in a months time when he regrets it. Don't let him ruin the day - it's not about him.

men!

x x x

If_My_Pennies_Were_Pounds

Well things are getting worse instead of better...he went running to his mummy (my gran) and all hell has broken loose!

My grandparents are blaming my Dad (!!!!!! he's had nothing to do with any of the decisions since it's not his wedding) but that doesn't seem to matter apparently.

Oh and it's all my fault, I've caused all this trouble even though it was my Uncle that dragged me in to it! :mad::(:mad::(:mad:

Woowoo

Oh no Pennies, why are they dragging everyone else into this when the only person to blame is your Uncle

Stand tall and refuse to discuss it, it's between your sister and him!

If_My_Pennies_Were_Pounds

Yeah except I now need to speak to my Gran as she thinks I've caused all this trouble...

Woowoo

Families are such hard work

Hope you work it all out x