Pulling my hair out with DD

Lyndsay_21

thankfully we've had a good morning this morning so far (finger crossed it will continue) i think she is missing out on her routine but her behaviour was going downhill before the summer started. i think i might start her behaviour chart again. I think now she's older she can have less warnings maybe 1 warning then after that its a cross on the chart or something.

Rachie_B

yeah i found the sticker chart works really well for my son

we have those tiny red and green "dot" stickers RED = "naughty" behaviour GREEN = "good"

he loves to show all the green stickers hes had ( although he does try and milk it and say look mum ive eaten all my tea can i have a green sticker ! etc lmao) and we choose a small treat at the end of the week if he has enough green stickers

a comic or pack of stickers or something

Lavender13

When my DS was little and threw a padddy in an American shopping mall,a woman I didn't know walked up to me (I was thinking OMG),and whispered in my ear "You are doing really well mum".;) The confidence that gave me was unbelieable.So now if I see something similiar,I will do the same and offer discreet encouragement,as a lot of us have been there. If people look away,it is probably due to the fact that they do not want to give the child attention,and in doing so are supporting the parent

Petal_3

Hi there

My DS is 4 and starts school p/t on Monday. Fortunately he is well behaved (so far) but any time he does something I don't like and want to discourage I completely ignore him - don't speak - no eye contact - sometimes just leave the room depending on where he is. He can't bear it. He will always come and apologise and ask for a hug.

I also think that diet has a lot to do with regard to behaviour...so giver her good food and then ignore her! lol

Seriously though, Good Luck with it all....it's tough being a Mum eh?

~x~

Mrs_Optimist

Interesting post. I too have a problem with DS who was 5 in July and has just started Year 1 at school today. I had to change schools because the teacher informed me that he was constantly rude, disruptive in fact the total opposite of DD who is nearly 8 and the teachers were also harping on about what a pleasure she was to teach. I dreaded picking him up from school and hnestly found it hard to believe that he behaved that way when he wouldn't dare do it at home. I am waiting with bated breath to see how he gets on today (fingers crossed for a good feedback) It is amazing how two children with the same upbringing can differ so much. DS whent to bed with no dinner lasdt night because he spent so long mucking about at the dinner table I warmed him 3 times that it would go in the bin. He called my bluff so I had to follow it through. Can't wait to see what happens tonight! If only babies were born with a guide book for parents.......

black-saturn

My DD1 started acting like this when she realised that DD2 who is 2 years younger than her was equal to her. In other words she was the only light of my life for 2 years. Then when DD2 was born she thought she was still the centre of attention for a while because babies don't do much except poo, drink milk and sleep. But when DD2 started being the same as her doing things like asking for things in the shop (and getting them), getting toys that DD1 liked for her birthday and all the other things that could make her jealous she started acting like it was a competition. So now that I have to divide my attention equally between two she sees it that she has to get my attention more than DD2. So the way she does this is by acting up. My 2 daughters are 11 and 9 now and it's still going on!!! The best thing you can do is ignore them when they are acting up and do things with them like watch TV and play a game when they are being good. Then they learn that being a pain doesn't get your attention at all. It works some of the time but not all.

I've also found that Omega 3 fish oil helps and so does a diet which eliminates all e numbers.

rls1973

just to say, thanks to the op and everyone on this thread, its been a great read, and its made me feel a bit more normal! :T

my dd2 is also 4 and very similar. i think the day they start full time school is when they start to calm down/grow up! roll on.........

yes, all those awful things they do make you feel such a failure dont they!

(much as you love them) so much for the childcare books, what do they know?!

all of us with 4 years olds will be on another post this time next year, talking about how we miss them now they're at school. (?)

ailuro2

Boredom from being away from nursery will probably come into this big style.

School kids are the same, for all they claim not to love school their behaviour improves immensely once back at school and they have something to keep them fully occupied (shopping with mum just isn't up there on interesting things list!)

I'd agree you need to llok at her foo, around the age of 4 or 5 we noticed our dd started having strops- then we figured out that each time it happened she'd had Smarties an hour before it happened.

No Smarties=dd back to her usual self.:T

Be firm,you're the boss,
mean what you say and say what you mean,
and always let them know they are loved no matter what
never ever run out of hugs,even when they're being naughty!