Pulling my hair out with DD

LizD_2

vik6525 wrote:

when my ds went through a 'tantrum' phase i did two things, which both got him out of it. First off i started giving him fish oils which calmed him down no end, and secondly, and i only had to do this once, when he had a paddy in a supermarket, i actually sat on the floor and had a tantrum. he looked at me in disbelief, as if what i was doing was so so shocking, and never did it again. It took some guts mind you, but i realy was at the end of my tether! Never been back to that particular co op since.... ha ha

:rotfl:

Clearly worked for you though!

funky-footprints

((((((huge hugs))))) so long as i can have some back ..your post sounds exactly like this house.

My daughter just doesnt seem to want to understand the difference between what is right and what is wrong even though i persistently feel i am explaining to her. I dont remember having these problems with my son who is 2 years older. She even laughed in my face today when i in a moment of i cant cope ...I burst into tears.

roll on tomorrow when she goes back to nursery ..only 12 more months before she is full time ....i feel so sorry for her teacher !!!!

Lyndsay_21

((((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))))) to everyone who's posted and I just wanna say thanks to everyone and the thought i'm not alone with this situation i just really hope it does improve as it really is a nightmare espcially when i cant even go to the shops without her 'attitude' and i wants and paddies. its even worse when u get the looks from everyone else around the shops.
DS who is 2 is a lovely little boy which is worse as im finding him picking up
her bad behaviour.

Sarahjovi

When my son was naughty and disruptive, not really huge tantrums, but enough to really wind me up, i started a star chart, a star for anything good and a black mark for being naughty. If he got enough stars there was a reward at the end of the week and if he got a black mark, there was no reward! He would be really upset if I awarded a black mark, and when that started not to work I threatened to tell his teacher at pre-school when he was naughty and he really was upset to think I'd tell his teacher.

BUT.... you really have to stick to your guns, like on Supernanny, you give in for a moment and they'll know exactly what buttons to push. Stand no nonsense, you are the parent and they are the child, you are in charge!

One of my friends took her 3 year old son to a farm for a treat, he started to throw a tantrum over something not long after they got there, she picked him up took him back to the car and drove him home. He was so shocked that she'd done this, he apologised for his tantrum.

Sarah

Js_Other_Half

Has anything changed with you recently? You say you feel washed out and fed up?

I've seen children (admittedly with learning difficulties) whose behaviour drastically deteriorates when parents are going through a rough patch. You need to look after yourself too.

sticher

Children are very good at picking up on what winds you up and will do it more to get a reaction. If you can ignore it - hard as that may sound - your daughter will have no reason to do it. She will not get the desired reaction from you, so her behaviour will change.

How about suggesting she helps you get the shopping now she is a big girl? I tried this when my two youngest boys used to run riot in Tesco (all that space used to hype them up!) The couldn't wait to go and get stuff to put in the trolley. I have also used the 'star chart' and found that to be quite effective too.

Things will improve.

vik6525

LizD wrote:

:rotfl:

Clearly worked for you though!

oh honestly he never bloody did it again, thats for sure... worked a treat but you do need balls of steel to do it!

Melissa22_Mum

I can see I've got all this to come! Mine does it all the time, and she's only 18months! Asda seems to attract people who HAVE to say "oh dear" when the baby is going on one! Arghhh how frustrating

vik6525

Oh ignore them! I hated people who did that! Im sure they screamed blue murder in a supermarket when they were wee too!

Rachie_B

Lyndsay_21 wrote:

She started nursery in december so has already been going for a few months i have been tellking her over the last week she will be going back to nursery soon and preparing her for it that way.

Its not really tantrums she's having its more her rudeness if i ask her to do something she'll often poke her tongue out at me or pull a horrible face or fold her arms over her chest or turn her back to me or all of the above and its just sooo rude and she's been told to stop doing it and had time-outs etc but she just cant seem to help herself....



its been bad at the moment as i just dont seem to have the energy to want to cook i really really love cooking ang baking but just seem so exhausted at the moment. saying that although its 'bad' its not really unhealthy stuff like ready meals more stuff like tomato soup or sandwhiches or pasta bake :eek:

OMG you could be describing my son ! lol

he was 4 in april and can be soooooooooooo moody / rude / miserable

its really quite @ times

and i feel at the end of my tether sometimes

i work with children and so i should "know" how to deal with this

but its different when its your own :rotfl:

my eldest son who is 10 is / was nothing like this at all !

the main thing for my lil terror is the fact he has been off nursery for 6 weeks and he thrives on routine ( as most children do ) and he has been lost without that on going routine

he loved nursery and even though it was only mornings ,so suddenly not have to go really threw him out of sync

he starts fulltime school in a few weeks :eek: and so im hoping it will calm him down a bit

but then again it may make him worse :eek: :mad: :rolleyes: :rotfl: