Group therapy!

moozie_2

crawley_girl wrote:

I was about to go and get chocolate but this guy I know turned up on my door and I ended up having a snog with him instead... smiles all round and for free!!!

:heartpuls CG :heartpuls

I was just about to say reward yourself with some chocolate, you deserve it but....definitely indulge in more kissing! Far better for the waistline, the purse and the general feeling of well being and happiness! :rotfl:

vodkabarbie

hope you are feeling a bit less blue now!
I've eaten too much and don't get paid till the 12th...very skint now and very fed up
SO I empathise....but I am also jealous of your doughnut

moozie_2

vodkabarbie wrote:

hope you are feeling a bit less blue now!
I've eaten too much and don't get paid till the 12th...very skint now and very fed up
SO I empathise....but I am also jealous of your doughnut

Thank you very much. Feeling less blue for sure but have eatne too much too and have £17 until the 15th (payday) or else it's overdraft. So you are skint in company

Please don't be jelous about the doughnut, I nearly cried on the scales tonight

Tiff_2

Hi Moozie and Everyone.
Purely FYI, there's a great little thread over on the Health Board called Depression and the posters give free hugs and advice. Many people get depressed or feel low due to being in debt and whereas learning how to clear your debts is helped wonderfully on here, some people might feel the need for a bit more emotional support which is so hard to find when you're in debt and can't see a way out. Just a thought...

lynzpower

Im so aaaargh in need of group therapy!!! Just feel like screaming

I just cant stop listing in my head all the things that are wrong such as
1. about to get the sack for being ill
2. being ill
3.flat is an utter s***hole - everything is covered in paint, sticky, disgusting glossy mess
4. Im fat, there really is no pretneding otherwise
5. none of my clothes fit and i look like a tramp
6. I have NO MONEY for clothes, haircut, eyebrow wax or other general self-care. ( these budgets were culled when i went on half pay) and I just feel really canine LOL
7. as of the 20th October Im going to get 0 income.
8.oh is djing tonight and im going to look like his troggy bird again, GAH why cant i be sexy & glam like I used to be???
9. all the painting that Ive done is rubbish- or maybe im being too critical :rolleyes:
I got turned down for a CC for my moving fees, and god knows why, i never have before and im worrying about that.

PLus points of life
OH is just about still wanting to be with me, although god knows why, I cant see the appeal of me at the mo!
Parents are coming this weekend and bringing me loads of stuff for the flat and hopefully a nice massive box of veg.
seen a job im going to apply for, probably get rejected but hey ho.
I have only had 6 cigarettes since sunday morning. I think im going to get one of those nicorette inhalators, as Im not physically craving, just emotionally habitually craving.Im telling myself even if I dont give up, then Ive saved myself 20 this week ( not that i had it but there you are) and thats a good thing. babysteps.

mrs_mug_2

Oh Lynz, I'm having one of those sorts of days too. I started a job on Saturday but tonight is my first proper shift and I don't want to do it. I finish at 8.30 (and 9 on a Friday) and I will either have to walk a mile home in the dark or get a taxi and hope that I do finish on time and hope that it doesn't cost too much. It'll work out ok I suppose.

And well done on only have 6 cigarettes. My mum used the inhalator thingy and it really worked for her. She's been given up for 7 years now - she was a very heavy smoker before.

lynzpower

Im going to phone the quitline that I got the no from my gp the other day :A and see if i can get an inhaltor on the cheap

What job have you got Mrs M

LJD1_2

Good luck with the stopping smoking Lynz. Hope today gets better too. I'm trying to feel happy and positive but I have bl**dy awful toothache and feel sorry for myself. I hate feeling like this. I'm going to take the children to school and take the dog for a very long walk.
Catch you all later and hugs to anyone who needs them. xx

ZTD

lynzpower wrote:

Im so aaaargh in need of group therapy!!! Just feel like screaming

I think you need to take a look at your own sig. God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can,and the wisdom to know the difference.

lynzpower wrote:

I just cant stop listing in my head all the things that are wrong such as
1. about to get the sack for being ill
2. being ill

You can't do anything about being ill. I don't doubt that you've done stuff to try to diagnose yourself, chivvy your doctors along, and ameliorate the symptoms - so this is where your serenity kicks in. You've been better before, you will get better again.

lynzpower wrote:

3.flat is an utter s***hole - everything is covered in paint, sticky, disgusting glossy mess

What can you do about that? Now start doing it. Being on here is not doing it...

lynzpower wrote:

4. Im fat, there really is no pretneding otherwise
5. none of my clothes fit and i look like a tramp
6. I have NO MONEY for clothes, haircut, eyebrow wax or other general self-care. ( these budgets were culled when i went on half pay) and I just feel really canine LOL

These are all kind of related aren't they? From what you've said in other threads, you're comfort eating. Comfort eating does make you fat. If you don't buy the comfort food, you can't eat it.

If you get out and walk around your neighbourhood (assuming it's a safe one):

1. It's free
2. It's exercise
3. You can't comfort eat
4. The fresh air and light will make you feel better

lynzpower wrote:

7. as of the 20th October Im going to get 0 income.

That's not neccesarily true. You can make some money from things like surveys, AQA, mystery shopping and the like. Also entering competitions and selling the prizes.

lynzpower wrote:

8.oh is djing tonight and im going to look like his troggy bird again, GAH why cant i be sexy & glam like I used to be???

Is this not part of 4,5,6 ?

lynzpower wrote:

9. all the painting that Ive done is rubbish- or maybe im being too critical :rolleyes:

What's wrong with it, and what can you do about fixing it?

lynzpower wrote:

I got turned down for a CC for my moving fees, and god knows why, i never have before and im worrying about that.

This may be a start of a credit contraction. Ask older people about the seventies where you had to dress up in Sunday's best to beg the bank manager for a loan.

lynzpower wrote:

PLus points of life
OH is just about still wanting to be with me, although god knows why, I cant see the appeal of me at the mo!

But he can. So accept it - this is where you serenity comes in again.

lynzpower wrote:

I have only had 6 cigarettes since sunday morning. I think im going to get one of those nicorette inhalators, as Im not physically craving, just emotionally habitually craving.Im telling myself even if I dont give up, then Ive saved myself 20 this week ( not that i had it but there you are) and thats a good thing. babysteps.

Continuous improvement - onwards and upwards...

lynzpower

ZTD, you are the wisest person on MSE i swear it.

I dunno, I think im OK today, being a bit sarky with myself I think, im not crying today ( yet!) which is a start.

I asked about the painting on the in my home section, must see if theres any answers.gloss on doors gone drippy & wavy. I dont think it helped when i rang my dad to ask his advice and he just went oh youve obviously put too much paint on youll never salvage it :mad: cheers pop, youve made me feel a real sucess!! :rotfl:

I dont tihnk it helps that I have a bit of a clean hands thing- its not an obsession but I do like it when my hands arnt covered in sticky gloss. Even OH who is pretty laid back on the hygiene front went GOD everythings sticky in here, I hate it.

So IM going round the corner to buy more cleaning stuff in a bit and will get on with it. But really i think im sick of cleaning. I did 4 hours of cleaning yesterday and feel like im going backwards. And im thoroughly exhausted from it all. mum says, well thats decorating for you you just have to accept it. I did remind her that she siad that she couldnt take any more last week ( they are having work done at thier place too!) wonder where I get it from. I love order, and this is disorder. I just feel like Mrs bloody mop.

just stubbed my 1st fag of the day out after 1 drag. this is good.

last penguin eaten yesterday. Point taken