Where can a 17 year old make friends?

Mupette

http://www.raf.mod.uk/aircadets/ ATC for girls as well as boys.

Savvy_Sue

What would she like to do about this?

What are her longer term plans, is there anything obvious which could help with those?

Would she be interested in Rangers / Venture Scouts? Helping with a Brownie Pack (you don't have to have been involved in Guides before this)?

If she likes animals, is there a city farm or an animal shelter anywhere near where she might be able to help out? She won't have to talk to the animals but she might find that an easier situation than having to interact with people as customers, IYSWIM.

nickj_2

my eldest daughter used to be like this when she was 13, she is now 15 , all she would do at weekends / evenings was stay in her bedroom . i kept telling her that she only has this time the once and that she should be out there doing stuff and enjoying herself . she became really friendly with a girl from school ,and now she has changed totally , her friend has sisters who are 8-9 yrs older ,so they hang out with them and their friends , they are all going to tenerife in a few weeks time along with friends mum . my dd has also got 2 jobs - she works at a hotel doing a bit of waitressing etc and she also works at a place that sells animal feed etc . she is a totally transformed person , it can be done , but you can only keep suggesting , they have got to want to do it and sort themselves out ,
i would have thought a job would be the best way forward - she might be working with people older than herself and her own age if she can find the right place and have money as well , it will build up her confidence and will hopefully lead to joining clubs and going out with friends
good luck

Oldernotwiser

nickj wrote: »

my eldest daughter used to be like this when she was 13, she is now 15 , all she would do at weekends / evenings was stay in her bedroom . i kept telling her that she only has this time the once and that she should be out there doing stuff and enjoying herself . she became really friendly with a girl from school ,and now she has changed totally , her friend has sisters who are 8-9 yrs older ,so they hang out with them and their friends ,

Sorry, but :eek::eek::eek::eek:

magpiecottage

Savvy_Sue wrote: »

What would she like to do about this?
Would she be interested in Rangers / Venture Scouts? Helping with a Brownie Pack (you don't have to have been involved in Guides before this)?

Scouting has Explorer Scouts rather than Ventures nowadays. It runs to age 18 but after that there is something called Scout Network which runs to 25.

In most parts of the country they will welcome her with open arms.

She can make enquiries here.

nickj_2

Oldernotwiser wrote: »

Sorry, but :eek::eek::eek::eek:

i take it you have a problem with that ?
i think you will find that if my d hung around with kids of her own age , then it is them who are getting v drunk , drugs etc , she doesn't have any trouble at all hanging out with older girls ,they are not going in pubs , getting drunk , they take extremely good care of her and their sister .

Savvy_Sue

magpiecottage wrote: »

Scouting has Explorer Scouts rather than Ventures nowadays. It runs to age 18 but after that there is something called Scout Network which runs to 25.

In most parts of the country they will welcome her with open arms.

She can make enquiries here.

Ah yes, I did know that, but DS2 left a while ago and I regressed to my youff ... :rotfl:

Oldernotwiser

nickj wrote: »

i take it you have a problem with that ?
i think you will find that if my d hung around with kids of her own age , then it is them who are getting v drunk , drugs etc , she doesn't have any trouble at all hanging out with older girls ,they are not going in pubs , getting drunk , they take extremely good care of her and their sister .

I would be horrified if my 15 year old daughter was hanging out with young women of 23 and 24 and would far rather see her spend her time in her bedroom (studying?). In addition, working not one but two jobs when under age (presumably to keep up with these women's spending patterns) strikes me being detrimental to her education.

tightgit_2

focus888 wrote: »

she could joined some groups or activities that the college run? or could she maybe get a part time job?

There few things that are going on at college don't seem to be very well attended.

tightgit_2

AmandaAyrshire wrote: »

Is she unhappy/does she want friends?

I wouldn't say she's unhappy but she would like to go out more.