November Wedding Guest

spongebabs

I think the dress is lovely, and I wouldn't be at all bothered about someone wearing it to my wedding, BUT..i'd be very annoyed if someone tried to co-ordinate with the bridal party. Our best mans girlfriend, who was a bit vocal about not being asked to be a bridesmaid, even though we've not known her very long and she's our friends' girlfriend rather than our friend, mentioned that she wanted to match her dress with what he was wearing and it took remarkable restraint not to fling my tea over her lol! So, yeah the dress is lovely, but trying to coordinate with the bridal party I would consider to be a bit off..:)

clarabell1984

bigmomma051204 wrote: »

Hope you want an honest answer ... i think it DOES look like a bridesmaid dress and will do even MORE if you match the kilt colours.... you will ALSO risk looking as if you are maid of honour as you will match the wedding party, be wearing what looks very much like a BM dress as brides often put their chief bridesmaid in a different colour to still match the party BUT different to the normal bridesmaids.....

I would personally as a bride to be, be rather miffed that you have tried to "co-ordinate" yourself with the wedding party.... maybe i am being bridezilla....depends on the bride i guess!

To be honest, as a prom dress, or whatever i still think it is rather over the top as a normal wedding guest and personally i would never wear anything that showy to someones wedding!!!

But its each to their own - just hope u have an easy going bride lol....i think the colour would be fine just NOT that particular dress. And yeah, dark colours are fine... lots of people wear black to weddings and accessorize etc

Again, sorry if u are offended by my answer etc!

:cool:

Wow that's me told lol

The main colour of most kilts is blue background. Maybe I mislead people by saying that I wanted to 'match' my partner and stupidly mentioned the bridal party. All I meant was that i didn't want to clash. He is only going to be wearing same taran as the groom and best man but not same solour tie. He's basically a guest like me but they have asked him to do a reading since he isn't the best man.

I went for the prom style dress as I will be able to wear it again at xmas parties etc and get more than one wear out of it.

clarabell1984

ok well looks like i'll just be returning the dress, that doubt is there now

bigmomma051204

umm why ask if you had already bought it.... also, i obviously didnt make u have that doubt, it was already there, else why ask on here??? Its only my opinion lol - just wear it, whats the worst that can happen, lol!

floss2

clarabell1984 wrote: »

ok well looks like i'll just be returning the dress, that doubt is there now

Don't return it, it is a gorgeous dress, it is not only a bridesmaids dress it is an occasion dress, and a winter wedding is an occasion.

You won't look any more like a member of the wedding party than I would if I was going, as my winter-wedding-guest-dress is also midnight blue!!

Why not ask your OH to check with the bride - if it were me (and I have recently been asked this question by a guest) I wouldn't be offended by someone asking the "is this colour outfit OK" question.

And apart from anything else, you got it in the sale! :money:

P.S. At least it ain't going to clash horribly like orange or fuschia pink

clarabell1984

I asked because I wanted the opinon on the colour. I did post that I hadI bought it because it was sale and looks like it was pretty much the last one of it. Yes the doubt was there about the colour not the actual dress itself.

I didn't think that the dress looked overly showy, nothing compared to previous bridesmaid dresses that I have had the pleasure of wearing but as i have not been to many weddings i am not sure.

I don't post that often and just had the urge to ask what people thought.

floss2

clarabell1984 wrote: »

...I don't post that often and just had the urge to ask what people thought.

You have learnt the hard way that online opinions come across differently to face-to-face.....take everyone's comments with a pinch of salt, try it on for your OH and ask him to check with the bride - simples!

clarabell1984

floss2 wrote: »

Don't return it, it is a gorgeous dress, it is not only a bridesmaids dress it is an occasion dress, and a winter wedding is an occasion.

You won't look any more like a member of the wedding party than I would if I was going, as my winter-wedding-guest-dress is also midnight blue!!

Why not ask your OH to check with the bride - if it were me (and I have recently been asked this question by a guest) I wouldn't be offended by someone asking the "is this colour outfit OK" question.

And apart from anything else, you got it in the sale! :money:

P.S. At least it ain't going to clash horribly like orange or fuschia pink

Thanks, your p.s part is exactly what I didn't want to happen! lol

The OH and the groom both like it (but what do men know :rotfl:).
I have emailed the bride a pic and asked her approval.

Knowing my luck it won't fit anyway! :rotfl:

Dizzie77

I don't think that dark colours are an issue for weddings anymore....I had the same query about whether I could wear a black dress to a wedding (with colourful accessories) as I didn't want to look morbid - but I was assured that it would be fine (in the end I wore something else, but ALL of my girly friends said it would be fine).

The dress you have bought is lovely - and it shows that you've made an effort for the wedding - which is surely what brides want on their big day??

Wait and see what the bride says - but I'm sure she won't mind if it's not the same colour as the bridesmaids.

spongebabs

Don't be sad Clarabell, and don't send it back it's a lovely dress, you're doing the right thing to check with the bride, and I bet she'll be fine with it