museumworker's quest to consign mortgage to history!

[Deleted User]

well done on your achievements!!
you are let off the exercise challenge as I have only managed 2 this week... an a couple of walks
have been a bit ill tho so thats my excuse- but do need to get back on the exercise bandwagon!
decluttering and re-mortgaging plans all sound good too!

museumworker

Hope you feel better soon, 2 plus walks sounds like a fair deal for my 1 + 1 hour . It is all good, I am trying to remind myself that by posting as at the moment just feel frustrated at state of house!

museumworker

Well, after pride comes a fall... just had a meeting at work, don't know what happened but I got frustrated and really let my feelings vent! One of my colleagues had a word with me after and just asked what was up, they had never seen me like that before. I was very direct and abrupt to the point of rudeness. They agreed with what I said, it was just the way I said it. I now feel awful, have been biting back the tears all the way home. How do other people deal with frustration in a meeting situation?

cha97michelle

I'd probably cry, although i am known for being a bit blunt too. My mum often says the exact same thing to me, it's not what you say....

Can you call the person and apologise? Or do so tomorrow. You don't have to retract what you said but apologise for being abrupt?

tootallulah

Hi MW, when younger I used to have the occasional "incident" of frustration in meetings etc. Please try not to stress about it, clearly it is very unusual and people will probably just be concerned that you are OK.
My view is always to apologise and explain why you were frustrated, as a manager I really appreciate people explaining out of character behaviour and I will try and resolve the frustration. That may not happen for you but museums are places people work for a long time it is best not to let things fester. PM me if I can help.

pammyj74

museumworker wrote: »

Weekly targets: ALL ACHIEVED
* Exercise 3 x week done, although slightly cheated by doing 1 hour session today and calling it 2 , hope tyo lets me off that, it is the first week after all!
* Get out of bed earlier (6.30) done 4 x this week
* Eliminate all migraine triggers and reintroduce slowly to see which if any are a trigger for me done this week, apart from malteser cupcake and victorian lemonade
* call one friend a week (52 x calling friends) called three :j
* declutter 1/2 hour a week (52 x decluttering sessions) done 5 hours :T

One of my thoughts was that I have free evening and weekend calls and I never use it so I need to make an effort to call friends but especially family!

museumworker wrote: »

Well, after pride comes a fall... just had a meeting at work, don't know what happened but I got frustrated and really let my feelings vent! One of my colleagues had a word with me after and just asked what was up, they had never seen me like that before. I was very direct and abrupt to the point of rudeness. They agreed with what I said, it was just the way I said it. I now feel awful, have been biting back the tears all the way home. How do other people deal with frustration in a meeting situation?

I get really annoyed at work and we are all having appraisals next friday so I need to sit down and write all the things that annoy me only its not as straight forward as that. I know that I will come out of there feeling frustrated as I wont say say what I want to in there. Its a family business and 2 of the workers are family.
I too get quite emotional to the point where I am angry and then I cry. Its pathetic really.

[Deleted User]

sorry you have had a tough day at work .. I agree that I would imagine people's first reaction as it is out of character would be concern that you are okay ...
sounds like it wasnt the content of what you were saying wasnt the issue so much as perhaps how it was said- Im sure a lot of us have not bitten our tongue in such situations and all you can do perhaps is go back to the person and say something like "on having time to reflect Ive thought about the conversation/meeting yesterday and though I felt strongly about what I said Im sorry if it came accross as perhaps too abrupt" - I think they would take it well as a pre-emptive measure and youll probably feel better once youve said it

truly- my usual tactic dealing with frustration is to bite my tongue - but am in a pretty difficult work situation at the moment so that is definitely safer!! other times with a more healthy working environment I may raise it with the person involved individually as sometimes a team/group environment can feel like it puts people on the spot more...

dont beat yourself up too much though - easier said than done I know!

no more exercise done yet so at least you can comfort yourself with the fact you are doing better than me :rotfl:

SeriouslySeekingtoSave

museumworker wrote: »

* [STRIKE]check get out fee of mortgage[/STRIKE] is £1800 :eek::eek:
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OUCH!

Still I guess if the calculations work out that it is cheaper to take that hit and recoup with a better interest rate in the long run...

SeriouslySeekingtoSave

museumworker wrote: »

Well, after pride comes a fall... just had a meeting at work, don't know what happened but I got frustrated and really let my feelings vent! One of my colleagues had a word with me after and just asked what was up, they had never seen me like that before. I was very direct and abrupt to the point of rudeness. They agreed with what I said, it was just the way I said it. I now feel awful, have been biting back the tears all the way home. How do other people deal with frustration in a meeting situation?

I do it as well. A lot less as I've gotten older thank heavens! I get all passionate and angry and then my brain vs tongue communication seems to get circumvented.

How I deal with it is: I think about what people said and how I feel. Once I've cooled down I usually agree that I was out of line and I go and apologise for what I've said. Once that's out of the way I feel a million times better.

That might not work for you or in this situation though, but however you deal with it remember that it is just a blip and try not to let it overshadow things.

Chin up!

:happylove

museumworker

Thanks everyone for your supportive messages, it really does make me feel a whole lot better and help put it in perspective. You are all :A:A:A. I have really upset myself over this, but need to accept it and move on. I will definitely speak to the person concerned and apologise, however I am out of the main office now until next week so won't see them - should I give them a call or an email, or wait until next week? We've never spoken on the phone before.