Any old stylers given birth at home?

OrkneyStar

gizmodo wrote: »

Well I guess I won't have a choice if I have to have a caesarian. I didn't know you had to have an epidural with forceps. There's a lot I don't know. It's my first baby.

I don't think you always have to but it is offered in some cases.
Not meaning to scare you...I just think the best plan for first baby is to have an idea of what you want but be open to the fact that sometimes medical need can change it!
Don't assume lots will go wrong but be open to the fact that it can, and thankfully in this day and age we do have medical interventions that prevent some of the sad events of the past! Believe me it was not in my plan to have to travel to the mainland, to have to be induced or to have an elective section, but the bottom line is DS got here safe and well!
All the best by the way x

gizmodo_2

OrkneyStar wrote: »

I don't think you always have to but it is offered in some cases.
Not meaning to scare you...I just think the best plan for first baby is to have an idea of what you want but be open to the fact that sometimes medical need can change it!
Don't assume lots will go wrong but be open to the fact that it can, and thankfully in this day and age we do have medical interventions that prevent some of the sad events of the past! Believe me it was not in my plan to have to travel to the mainland, to have to be induced or to have an elective section, but the bottom line is DS got here safe and well!
All the best by the way x

Thanks. I am scared!! Watching One Born Every Minute probably didn't help things Still can't wait for the next series though.

I will try and remain open minded. I've already seen the stats that 40% of first time home births actually end up giving birth in hospital.

OrkneyStar

gizmodo wrote: »

Thanks. I am scared!! Watching One Born Every Minute probably didn't help things Still can't wait for the next series though.

I will try and remain open minded. I've already seen the stats that 40% of first time home births actually end up giving birth in hospital.

It is natural to be scared....but the human body can do wonderful things too! I sometimes wish DS had been more natural but as I was 2 weeks overdue it was getting to the stage where I just wanted him out! All the best x

OrkneyStar

weezl74 wrote: »

thanks

sadly mine don't actually count as water births despite spending 9 hrs and 2 hrs immersed respectively, cos it's where you actually push that counts IYSWIM?

But if asked what my chief analgesia was I'd definitely say lashings of hot, hot water. Hose meant that dh could point the hose right at the small of my back during contractions.

Oh and another thought, might be worth having your boiler serviced at about 36 weeks gestation. We did this, and had a diaphragm replaced, just in the nick of time

Although I did not have water or home births, it is well known that water can help ease pain (warm ideally!)....I have a recurring lower back pain and the two things that ease it most are a warm water bottle and directing the shower hose at the area of pain! Also great idea re boiler service weezl......always the practical lady you are . Hope your newest addition is settling in well x.

Ms_Piggy_2

gizmodo wrote: »

Thanks. I am scared!! Watching One Born Every Minute probably didn't help things

'One Born Every Minute' is meant to be 'entertainment', not an accurate representation of normal birth They feature lots of more interesting/complex births - coz otherwise it'd be boring to watch!

Woman's bodies are made to give birth! Have confidence in that. As PPs have said, we are *very* lucky that we do have the medical intervention that saves lives, but generally a woman's body does what it needs to!

Whether planning a HB or hospital birth, it makes sense to stay at home as long as possible. I planned a home water birth. A very extended second stage meant I transferred to hospital in the end, but it was still a very positive experience. I left hospital just a couple of hours later. I'm planning a HB again this time.

weezl74

gizmodo wrote: »

I will try and remain open minded. I've already seen the stats that 40% of first time home births actually end up giving birth in hospital.

this is true, although my midwife says this figure is reducing and in many trusts is now less than 30%.

they think this is because the more the MWs are familiar with HBs the more likely they are to continue to feel confident to stay with the woman at home rather than transferring in.

90-95% of the transfers in are to do with failure to progress, so a lot of it is about whether the woman and the attending midwives feel comfortable trying things out to help things progress at home if they are slowing.

Examples might be, offering a stretch and sweep, changes in position, going into/getting out of water, climbing stairs, star jumps (don't laugh I was doing 20 between contractions up til 1:5 ) artificial rupture of membranes, postural change, gentle bouncing on a swiss ball (OP-buy an argos cheapy exercise one unless you are taller than 5'6ish).

Anyhow I just wanted to add this because when you hear of a 40% transfer rate you often think, 'oh blimey a scary situation', which is pretty uncommon, and decreasing.

HTH

And thanks for the compliment orkney star

Savvy_Sue

neneromanova wrote: »

Did any of you ladies split when you were at home? What did you do about that?

With my first I tore quite a lot on the actual inside of the Vag which needed more than 10 stitches....Did this happen to anyone else and they then had a birth at home?

My MW called the GP who came and stitched me.

neneromanova wrote: »

Hmmmm, just asked OH what he thinks about a home birth. He hates the idea. I asked him and this was his reply: "obviously you get the final decision, you're the one doing it but from a male perspective i don't like the idea of it"

It's his first so he's not sure what to expect, whereas I've done this so know what to expect....But I don't want to be giving birth at home, and worrying about him worrying about me if something goes wrong....

Anyone else's OH like this?

Yup, mine was like that, and wouldn't let me have the first at home.

gizmodo wrote: »

Being my first time I'm more worried I might want more pain relief although I definitely won't have an epidural.

I DEFINITELY wasn't having an epidural. Until I had been in labour for 24 hours, just not 'established', and then started throwing up. Getting nowhere fast, completely exhausted.

At that point, an epidural sounded like a really good plan, and it was, even though it meant I didn't have the birth plan I'd written.

Had the second 2 at home, and was fine. But if I'd been throwing up, I'd have begged to go in for another epidural.

Ms_Piggy_2

weezl74 wrote: »

90-95% of the transfers in are to do with failure to progress, so a lot of it is about whether the woman and the attending midwives feel comfortable trying things out to help things progress at home if they are slowing.

Examples might be, offering a stretch and sweep, changes in position, going into/getting out of water, climbing stairs, star jumps (don't laugh I was doing 20 between contractions up til 1:5 ) artificial rupture of membranes, postural change, gentle bouncing on a swiss ball (OP-buy an argos cheapy exercise one unless you are taller than 5'6ish).

Yes - this was me! I tried ALL of those and after four+ hours of pushing he still wasn't there! :rotfl: He was compound presentation (a superman baby) in the end which held things up.

TBH though - my 'emergency ambulance transfer' wasn't scary at all. They put the sirens on because I aked, but it was a calm transfer.

Savvy_Sue

weezl74 wrote: »

kit you'll need: cheap seive, decent hose adaptors, thermometer, anglepoise lamp, table and clock with a secondhand all in the birth room, lamp table and clock for your MWs use.

Is that just if you have a birthing pool? Only I don't remember ANY of those being requsted for my two!

OrkneyStar

weezl74 wrote: »

And thanks for the compliment orkney star

Well you do often make a lot of sense you know!
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