Any old stylers given birth at home?

JBD

neneromanova wrote: »

Oh sorry, I didn't mean it was a problem with home births. My First was in hospital and I'm seeing what the options are with regards to this birth in 8 weeks....:eek: It's just I wanted to know if I tore again what they would do about it...It's not like they even stiched me up properly anyway.

If you do need stitches I think it may be safer to have them done at home as there is less risk of infection.
Also I do know there is a trend nowadays to let smaller tears heal naturally as they often heal better in this way. So you may not need stitching at all, even if you do tear. It is possible that you will stretch more easily this time, also the birth of the head may be controlled better. As I'm sure you're aware there are lots of variables with all births! Best of luck with whatever you decide.

Jo_R_2

Okay, so I haven't actually given birth at home but I'm a homebirther at heart LOL!

DD1 straightforward delivery in hospital, midwives commented I would be an "ideal candidate for a home birth" next time.

DD2 booked in as a HB no probs - you just tell them you want one and they take it as given if they foresee no particular issues. They come round about 36 weeks and do a risk assessment, which basically involves seeing if they can fit in your bathroom with you and that an ambulance can have access should it be needed, and a chat about arrangements (eg who you plan to have there, where any older kids will be, that sort of thing.)

DD2 was awkward (and continues to remain that way!) and was three weeks late. Midwives don't like this for a HB as it brings up various worries for them, 41 weeks they seem to tolerate but get past that and they start to gently suggest hospital as a viable option 'just in case' (worries about heartbeat, placenta getting old and starting to fail.) In my case I opted for regular monitoring and when it appeared that the placenta was calcifying at nearly 43 weeks, I opted for induction so she was born in hospital.

DS was again booked in as a homebirth - it happened very similarly to DD2 except after regular monitoring the midwives were concerned there was hardly any fluid around him so I booked in for induction the following day (very sadly.) I actually went into labour that next day, again at 43 weeks, but despite my best intentions, the on-call midwives (the ones who come and assess you when you think you're in labour and want a HB) said very politely that they'd much prefer me in hospital. Whilst I could have laboured at home and they would have attended me, I didn't feel comfortable with the perceived risk, and that they wouldn't feel comfortable IYSWIM? So off I went to hospital and had him there.

And the thing about the fluid? Ahem I've never seen so much amniotic fluid gush out - they got that wrong:D

This baby is booked in for a HB but I'm cursed - they will book it but they think this baby is going to be huge - and late - no idea where they got that from:rotfl: So not counting on it but would prefer it.

So basically it's easy to book for a HB with no contraindications, you don't really have to convince them. But do be aware that things may arise along the way - hopefully they won't, but I do highly recommend checking out the website mentioned already, www.homebirth.org because it's brilliant and goes through every aspect.

neneromanova

Hmmmm, just asked OH what he thinks about a home birth. He hates the idea. I asked him and this was his reply: "obviously you get the final decision, you're the one doing it but from a male perspective i don't like the idea of it"

It's his first so he's not sure what to expect, whereas I've done this so know what to expect....But I don't want to be giving birth at home, and worrying about him worrying about me if something goes wrong....

Anyone else's OH like this?

Kelinik

My littlest was born at home after 2 miserable hospital births. My only real problem was nearly running out of gas, apparently I have a freakish lung capacity LOL! I wasn't aware of it at the time, thank goodness, but hubby and the midwives were exchanging worried glances whilst the last canister went down as they weren't sure it was going to last until the extras my midwife had phoned for were dropped off. As it turned out bubs decided to arrive all in one go (breaking my waters as he came down) and the extra canisters turned up about 10 minutes later. I was advised not to take up scuba diving!

The mess wasn't pleasant tbh, we pretty much covered the places in shower curtains and bed mats but there were still a few stains on the carpet and sheets to deal with and blood from the cord splattered up my wardrobe door which was nice (sorry if tmi!). My poor hubby is pretty squeamish but ended up cleaning that up, love him. Also sorting out the bathroom after that first shower was a bit grim, no way I'd have expected hubby to do that and the midwives had left by then as they only stayed an hour after.

That was the only downside for me though, being in my own environment was great, having space to roam about and the freedom to choose where and how to deliver was liberating. And cuddling up in my own bed with my fantastic hubby and our 2 hour old son is a memory I'll treasure for the rest of my life, words can't describe. :heart2:

I would definitely go for a homebirth again if we do have a 4th in few years time, especially if we're still in this house as we are only a 10 minute drive from the hospital incase of transfer.

Hope all goes well for those of you expecting. x

JBD

My OH persuaded me to go into hospital for my 2nd birth. As a result the baby was nearly born in the car. When it came to the 3rd I didn't even consult him, just went ahead and booked a homebirth [we were seperated by then, but wouldn't have consulted him anyway].
As it happens I wouldn't have made it to the hospital in time anyway. My daughter was born in morning rush hour in an area that has a lot of traffic problems. Traffic was really bad that day and the midwife only made it through with minutes to spare.
It is upto you how much you want to consider your OH's opinion, it is your relationship after all. I do think some men worry more than they need to though. For some of us giving birth is pretty straightforward, to me it was no big deal and I wanted a minimum of fuss.
In relation to mess, I didn't really have any, other than what went straight into the washing machine.

Any

My sister had her second at home and I was there all the way.

She preferred it as someone else said, you are in control of your surroundings, other people who are not in pain and moving much easier are running to you rather you running (or trying) to run after them - ie get to the car, get out of the car, wait in a waiting room etc etc...

It was fab, unless you have such a stupid MIL like her who insisted that she comes down for dinner 2 hrs after giving birth - no idea why probably as she has guests and it would be rude not to.

I tell you - I was near telling her something really nasty but my sister insisted I let it go.. I am still angry about it though (unusual for me) so I am sure I will still tell her what I think about the full functioning of her brain one day...

Any

neneromanova wrote: »

Hmmmm, just asked OH what he thinks about a home birth. He hates the idea. I asked him and this was his reply: "obviously you get the final decision, you're the one doing it but from a male perspective i don't like the idea of it"

It's his first so he's not sure what to expect, whereas I've done this so know what to expect....But I don't want to be giving birth at home, and worrying about him worrying about me if something goes wrong....

Anyone else's OH like this?

What male perspective??
I don't understand that logic at all..

nonnatus

OP - you're an ideal candidate for a home birth (provided there are no other health issues you aren't revealing...)

I'm a midwife and REALLY enjoy the home births. Much better quality coffee for a start :rotfl:. And it's lovely and relaxed. And your other children can get involved. A large number of men don't like the idea though, they like the gadgets in a hospital delivery room and the fact there are loads of doctors milling around outside, just waiting to intervene!

Go for it, I bet your midwives will be really positive

(And have fun!)

neneromanova

Oooooh, a devon Midwife. Where do you cover?

gizmodo_2

neneromanova wrote: »

Hmmmm, just asked OH what he thinks about a home birth. He hates the idea. I asked him and this was his reply: "obviously you get the final decision, you're the one doing it but from a male perspective i don't like the idea of it"

It's his first so he's not sure what to expect, whereas I've done this so know what to expect....But I don't want to be giving birth at home, and worrying about him worrying about me if something goes wrong....

Anyone else's OH like this?

I'm having my first baby and am considering a home birth (water birth). My OH isn't keen on the idea. In fact it was an outright "no you're not" when I first brought it up. I think he's scared something might go wrong with me or the baby.

He's slowly coming round now though and wants to talk to the midwife about it. Me on the other hand - I keep getting wobbles Being my first time I'm more worried I might want more pain relief although I definitely won't have an epidural. Still, there's plenty of time yet to make up my mind.