Budget - tougher for DLA claimants

krisskross

sh1305 wrote: »

I was rarely alone at uni.

Not even in bed?

ash4becks

krisskross wrote: »

How on earth did you manage at University? Surely no one provided constant supervision.

well thats excaltly what i had because of my mental health and dyslexia in lessons

Indie_Kid

krisskross wrote: »

Not even in bed?

Why does it matter so much to you? Do you have nothing better to do than basically accuse people of lying? That's exactly what you're doing with me.

krisskross

sh1305 wrote: »

Why does it matter so much to you? Do you have nothing better to do than basically accuse people of lying? That's exactly what you're doing with me.

Probably not exactly lying but I do think you exaggerate every little problem you have into something huge. And your problems are worse than anyone else's etc.

The country doesn't owe you a living for the rest of your life based on some minor physical and mental issues.

This attitude is what the government are determined to sort out.

Doom_and_Gloom

krisskross wrote: »

And there's me thinking these are things you would just do because I am ablebodied and he isn't. He is having cataract surgery on Tuesday. i thought i was going as moral support and because he is deaf and probably won't u hear everything, but no I am a 'carer'.

I'm a wife so have always done the cooking, washing up, washing and ironing etc. Gosh I have been a carer for decades and just didn't realise it.

We went shopping and for lunch out together on Friday so another 5 hours there. I seem to be putting in more hours than when I worked full time.

Before his disability he could cook, clean, care etc for himself yes? Well that is the difference as before he could have done it but didn't because you did it but now even if he did want to he most likely can't. This is the thing, before he would have been able to do those things if you had not but now what would he do if you didn't??

I used to be able to do everything for myself as I was a very independent person. However for nearly 2 years now my partner does those things for me. He is my carer because of this. Yes he loves me but that doesn't take away from the fact that he has to do it. He has to push me in the wheelchair because even though I can propell myself along sometimes I don't have the energy to do so all the time. If I'm on my crutches instead he may have to carry me home if I can't manage.

Just a question. Why do you constantly devalue what carers do? The fact that you said the following - "Doubt any 'carer' actually gives the caree a full 5 hours a day, unless you count time spent watching TV together etc" - says it all really. I really don't like the way you put across the word carer sarcastically or could be said unbelieving way as if they don't actually care for the person they are a carer for. Why don't you see that things normal people take for granted have to be done by a carer?

ash4becks

krisskross wrote: »

Probably not exactly lying but I do think you exaggerate every little problem you have into something huge. And your problems are worse than anyone else's etc.

The country doesn't owe you a living for the rest of your life based on some minor physical and mental issues.

This attitude is what the government are determined to sort out.

if only they were minor have you had mental health issues, have you barly been physical able to get out of because your in so much pain ,

and just what do you think is minor in your mind i wonder

Indie_Kid

ash4becks wrote: »

if only they were minor have you had mental health issues, have you barly been physical able to get out of because your in so much pain ,

and just what do you think is minor in your mind i wonder

Exactly. A few years ago, I went out for a few hours with friends of mine. By the end of the evening, (it was just a gig; so no constantly walking around or whatever) I could hardly move because I was in so much pain.

summerof0763

krisskross wrote: »

And there's me thinking these are things you would just do because I am ablebodied and he isn't. He is having cataract surgery on Tuesday. i thought i was going as moral support and because he is deaf and probably won't hear everything, but no I am a 'carer'.

I'm a wife so have always done the cooking, washing up, washing and ironing etc. Gosh I have been a carer for decades and just didn't realise it.

We went shopping and for lunch out together on Friday so another 5 hours there. I seem to be putting in more hours than when I worked full time.

i am profoundly deaf,i HAVE to cope.
you do nothing but nit pick everyones post,and you sure put 5hrs of time on comp,must be the only carer with so much free time

Doom_and_Gloom

summerof0763 wrote: »

you do nothing but nit pick everyones post,and you sure put 5hrs of time on comp,must be the only carer with so much free time

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl: Oh my goodness. I think your post has made my day :rotfl:.

krisskross

summerof0763 wrote: »

i am profoundly deaf,i HAVE to cope.
you do nothing but nit pick everyones post,and you sure put 5hrs of time on comp,must be the only carer with so much free time

But I'm not a 'carer'. I am a wife.

I do not claim any sort of carer's allowance.