18 yr old mother

DX2

Juicyloo wrote: »

Actually a lovely couple, as are my son and his G/f.

Juicyloo wrote: »

Just wish A would come back here but cannot make him.

If they make a lovely couple and he is happy why would he want to come back home? Mummy dearest let him be you must let him make his own mistakes.

Juicyloo

Yup- that's why we are on damage limitation at the moment

But then I may be cynical and they may live happily ever after. X

sunnyone

Make sure that shes not claiming as single parent if you can, your son dosnt want dragging into something like that nor you when they come round asking if any letters for him come to your home.

divastrop

Juicyloo wrote: »

Yes my son knows what she is like but she is stunning and he is smitten- I'm just ready here to pick up pieces, but bothered about little boy as well, my son is also attached and bnever goes out etc. Little boy calls me Nana, and would love to be, and if I thought it would last then.. Scared to get attached.

Has he thought about adopting the little boy if the lad has no contact with his biological father and your son has a bond with him? Yes it would mean he would be responsible for him financially even if they split, but it sounds like your son is the kind of decent man who would be happy to contribute anyway, plus if it did all go t**s up the little boy would still have a relationship with the man he considers to be his dad.
It sounds like this girl is just immature and it may well be the case that she eventually grows up and the relationship may flourish.

Juicyloo

I really hope benefits are cut tomorrow- and this is from a person who is on carers allowance and income support as a carer/ single parent.

It has been the worst time of my life and hate being controlled by the system. Destroys self esteem.

Not sure how I will get a job, but will do anything as doing nothing is soul destroying. Will probably be voluntary for a while- any ideas?

Still caring for my parents full time though not sure how I can get around this

KeaneFan10

Juicyloo wrote: »

Just trying to paint the picture and pondering what it is bothering me - sorry if too much info.

I thought tax credits were for over 25's- my son is not father

Surely if he got with her he also took on her child as well they came as a package regardless