Toilet problems with 3 yr old.

snapping_crocodile

Deleted_User wrote: »

He's not on the movicol anymore, we've managed to get away from it, but it did help with his emotional state when he was too scared to poo last year. Now as i've said he just doesn't want to stop playing. If we catchh him hiding behind the hall curtain or under the table, we know exactly what's going on, but obv its harder when he's playing out in the garden and i'm not so aware of a lurking smell.

If he is not on the movicol anymore do you think he could still be constipated? Sometimes smearing in the pants is actually overflow, in the sense that the poo is backed up and hard in the bowel, and the smearing is the liquid stuff that slips out, which the child cant control. When he is actually going is it normal soft poo or is it hard?

[Deleted User]

Thanks for the thought but its not overflow and he's definitely not constipated he does go properly every day or every other, its just where he does it that is my problem now.

He does his fruit and veg and i make sure he has some prunes on the third day if he has held on, but that not often now.

The smearing is just from holding on and just not being able to do it for long. Other times he completely empties his bowels in his pants, but once i get him to the toilet he does what he's supposed to do.

laurel7172

Just....relax.

They do it when they're ready, and it has nothing to do with your training or parenting skills. Toilet training is about giving them the opportunity to ditch nappies, and they WILL take up the opportunity when they can. Wouldn't you? Don't look at the calendar, don't get stressed, just ride it out.

Praise for potty use, say no more than "Oops", when he makes a mistake. It's not a competition, even if some idiots at mother and toddler group will try to make it one. He won't be in nappies when he's 15.

McKneff

he gets promptly marched up the stairs,


oh dear !!!!

[Deleted User]

Ok the above has been taken out of context, but its something similar to this:-

Boy hiding under table, i asked if he's doing a poo, he says no, i ask if he's sure, he says no, smells wafts to me and i say i think we should go upstairs to the bathroom, total denial of a poo, so i insist he goes up and promptly find messed pants and he then finishes poo on toilet.

Wouldn't you find that very frustrating when i know he knows exactly what he's doing?

In fact its just happened again but hiding under his duvet, we did ask him to remove his clothes and wipe himself, we didn't get annoyed, just stayed matter of fact.

Maybe typing on forums is similar to texting, things can be easily taken out of context when not face to face with someone.