A query...

DX2

speedster wrote: »

http://www.womensaid.org.uk/forum_login.asp?section=0001000100110016&destination=forums.asp%3Fsection%3D0001000100110016%26sectionTitle%3DMembers%2BForum

there you go. fill your boots. i'm sure there's a few on here who will looooooove the attitudes on there.

:TThanks maybe later on I will have a gander...

DX2

speedster wrote: »

you know what i meant!

i was referring to a PWC having to fight to see their child.

So in theory they wouldn't actually be a PWC then they would be a NRP.

speedster

Loopy_Girl wrote: »

'Some'...do you have the figures as opposed to 'some'?

Just seems strange that you are blaming the courts when in actual fact, that figure could represent 39% of NRP's that choose not to see their child. Might not but we'll never know...who knows who will be in the minority:D

Chip on shoulder eh?;)

you really are a muppet. i've seen some nit picking, pedantic idiots in my time, but you take pathetic to a new level.

you seriously need to step away from the keyboard sometime, remove your blinkers and sample a bit of the real world.

it's no wonder your ex wont have anything to do with you.

speedster

DX2 wrote: »

So in theory they wouldn't actually be a PWC then they would be a NRP.

finally, the penny drops!

that's exactly my point. hence pwc's dont have to fight to see their kids, unlike nrps.

but then, it is only a teeny weeny, miniscule minority of nrp's who face this.

DX2

speedster wrote: »

finally, the penny drops!

that's exactly my point. hence pwc's dont have to fight to see their kids, unlike nrps.

but then, it is only a teeny weeny, miniscule minority of nrp's who face this.

So there must just be a teeny weeny, miniscule minority of pwc's who actually want their NRP to have contact but that NRP refuses

AnxiousMum

speedster wrote: »

you seriously need to step away from the keyboard sometime, remove your blinkers and sample a bit of the real world.

Sometimes before giving advice to others, it helps if you could do the same thing yourself........

speedster

DX2 wrote: »

So there must just be a teeny weeny, miniscule minority of pwc's who actually want their NRP to have contact but that NRP refuses

there are loads of pwc in that position, but they're not the ones in the court system now, are they?

also, judging by a "minority" of the pwc i've come across, it's hardly any surprise that their exes wont have anything to do with them and have made a run for it.

chriszzz

I dont think it really matters if its the majority or minority of PWC blocking contact, its the fact that they can and some do.

In the meantime and for their own selfish reasons they damage any decent relationship between the father and child.

I will agree with speedster on this because it is reality it does happen, but speedster you should not be using words to suggest all PWC are the same, there are PWC out there who do put their childs interest first and foremost as their are NRPs who do too.

I wouldnt rise to the bait when some dont understand what your saying but you dont help yourself in these situations, respect is the key word.

chriszzz

billius wrote: »

Miss montana and PHB... Thank you for your posts!!! Miss montana, we didn't think it would take the CSA that quick to get in contact, so your experience sounds more likely!! We think she was hoping too get a double month off us at some point!! She went really unreasonable after her new partner starting living with her... (He unfortunately is one off those NRP's who the CSA was set up to get, but everytime he gets a job and they catch up with, goes back onto benefits!!! Not happy too pay for his own child, but happy too take my money!!!)
And PHB, I understand what you are saying... I would love more contact with my children!! But due to CSA payments, I need too work, which with my job, involves working away from home alot!! I use too see my boys at least once a week, but always at her house, I was never allowed to take them out!! Since her new partner has moved in I have to go through him!!! So now its in the hands of a solicitor!! Slowly but surely things are taking shape!! It's sad they won't meet their little brother/sister soon, still waiting on a reply to be able to write to the boys and send pictures... But as yet, nothing!!! (Which makes me laugh, their solicitor writes to us and demands an answer within 14days, ours write to them and we have to wait 6weeks!!! Everything is always on her terms!!!)
Thanks again, for the sensible replies!!!

It's a difficult time when you come up against a non compliant PWC, I know only too well!

I hope you get it sorted and get to see your children as you so rightly should.

pd001

Loopy_Girl wrote: »

Do you have statistical proof of this? Because I don't hence why I sYou answered PHB and it was nothing to do with what she had typed but you thought you would take the opportunity to put the same slaverings from last night.

LMAO
:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

I know speedster has a tendency to be (very) forceful when he puts a point of view....but 'slaverings from last night' made me laugh