Mum accusing Dad of signing her up for junk mail etc.

ailuro2

delain wrote: »

I get random things like that all the time! There's a really really trashy one called wickedelic or something, full of undies that would make you look like cher's even more trashy !!!!!! star cousin

I'd never wear any of it and god knows how they got my name and other info! I just have a good old giggle that some people really would wear crotchless/boobless lace bodysuits that look like they are made from dyed-black flowery net curtains (some things in alarmingly large sizes :eek:) and then I chuck the little book in the bin.

hey, don't knock it till you've tried it......:rotfl:








OP, sounds like your mother's bed company has sold on her contact details, she needs to get in touch with them (maybe it's targeted marketing going from a king size to a single bed:p)

Hannah_10

Wkdwill wrote: »

Now am I right about the company possibly selling her details on, will the Police just send her away?

Yes you are and yes you will, how horribly sad for you to be caught in the middle of this.

On another note, I have an oddball-ex who has a bit of a vendetta thing going on. He feels I left him unfairly and would like to make his hurt feelings known. He's had me sent things by post, and sent me "fetish" type pictures so disgusting I was nearly sick. Clearly he's just not quite thought of combining the two and adding me to any adult mailing lists- an amazing oversight given his previous! Y'know what though? It's just a sign of how incredily pathetic a person he is and every time he's done something like this it's like a little reminder for me of how right a decision it was to break up with him. The response I naturally feel inclined to offer isn't retaliation, it's pity. I've never taken it up with the police, because he's trying to upset me, so the way to take that away from him is to not let it, not rise to it. At the end of the day he's the real loser because he's the one waiting for days with baited breath for the response that never comes while I'm off sunning myself on the beach without a second thought. He's nothing to me, and so he gets nothing of a reaction, naturally.

I wonder if your mum is perhaps angry at your dad but still loves him and can't express that for whatever reason and so it manifests this way instead. Her reaction doesn't suggest to me that your dad can't get over her, it suggests to me like she can't get over your dad.

Wkdwill

Thanks for the replies, ive tried telling her it could be any company she has used, and that if she doesn't tick that little box then shes leaving herself open to anything, but no "ITS YOUR DAD", im begining to think it doesn't matter what goes wrong its going to end up being his fault no matter what, I never usually pick sides, but my mum is just being pathetic.

If it was me and it had been sent in my name, I would wonder where it had come from but I wouldn't go round accusing people, id have a laugh about it and no doubt a look through, then it would go in the bin. Is it really that hard to do?

On another note ive had no phone call, although my landline is out of action, up until 9.05pm apparently.

Ooooo if only life was that simple that all you had to worry about was a bit of junk mail.

Errata

Next time she says 'It's your dad' offer to drive her down to the police station right that minute - it's a very, very serious matter

jamespir

oh my god id string him up name and shame thats what id do as soon as this menace is off the streets the better ................................not

your'e mum to me seems like that she still has a lot of animosity towards your dad and blames him for everything which is such a shame perhaps she just needs to talk to somone to help her through this

Bufger

i'd let your mother believe what she wants. if she wants to ring the police about it then let her as it will be her that gets a harsh awakening about wasting police time.

I would just support your dad rather than try and sort any of it out. She's clearly very bitter and twisted so you wont actually be able to solve anything.

Ignore her and all rumours/ramblings. Only listen or even show you're listening when shes not moaning and you will have a better relationship.

Mely

Op...stay out of it and let your mum get on with her nonsense. Id expect an apology off her too, if i was you!

Savvy_Sue

You might have to decide whether or not you're willing to forego the apology to maintain the relationship.

Nothing quite like this, but my mother has not always behaved very well towards me or my DH, when we first got engaged she took against him (for standing up to her!) and she said she'd never forgiven me for something I'd done a few years previously (which was hugely liberating, as it was possibly the best thing I'd ever done up to then, and was certainly instrumental in getting together with DH!)

Anyway, she didn't speak to me for quite a while, and if I'd insisted on an apology she still wouldn't be speaking to me. As it was, I decided to ignore the fact that she wasn't speaking to me, and just spoke normally whenever I saw her, especially when other people were around. She couldn't 'lose face' by not speaking to me in front of other people.

We've had a couple of similar 'incidents' since then, and if I let them get to me we'd probably never speak again. So I make sure my siblings know she's playing silly games, so she can't play them off against me, and just carry on as if nothing had happened.

Now, you wouldn't guess we don't have a perfectly loving relationship, but she's never apologised, and I don't suppose she would if I reminded her of the worst incident.

With something like this, I might smile sweetly and do the 'yes mum, no mum, whatever you think best mum' routine, and get in touch as normal when I needed to. If you refuse to contact her until she's apologised, and she can't see that she's done anything wrong, you'll have a long wait. She is probably waiting for you to apologise - you don't need to do that (although saying "I'm sorry you've been upset by this" might pass for an apology!) - just carry on as if this hadn't happened.

Same with your sister: she thinks it's your dad, she always takes on board whatever mum says, so do the "Yes sis, no sis, whatever you say sis" routine to her as well, because there are some people who just don't have your sensible head!

Wkdwill

Savvy_Sue - I do understand where you are coming from, but I refuse to be spoken to like something on the bottom of her shoe, when she rung me she was all guns blazing as soon as I answered the phone, and because I was on my way out (had the kids sat in the pushchair outside waiting) she got huff on, so I offered to ring her back, which I did, she answered the phone all happy until she realised it was me, then she started again, wouldn't listen to reason, then started shouting at me, calling me a liar, blaiming me saying I told my dad about the bed, which I didn't, I mean why would I? Also as I dont live nearby I dont see her often anyway so other than phone calls (which was always me ringing her anyway) there is no way to speak to her normally without me phoning her in the first place.

Ive always said before due to the problems with my sister and my dad that I refuse to be involved in any disputes/complaints etc, but yet she chose to get me involved again, I have enough problems in my life without having to listen to her raving about junk mail and making accusations.

On another note, ive had no contact from her since, its my birthday today, so she obviously isn't interested.

At the end of the day, she has more to lose than I do, my children are her only grandchildren and although I dont want to keep my kids away from her, I also dont want her attitude and bitterness around them either, my daughter may only be 3 but she picks up on things very quickly.

Mupette

Happy Birthday, hope you have a great day.

It's still early give her time, it's on just gone 10 in the morning.


I'd really consider telling your mum in front of sister that because sister uses the card then the likelyhood it is possibly sister..