Mum accusing Dad of signing her up for junk mail etc.

Wkdwill

Mupette wrote: »

Happy Birthday, hope you have a great day.

It's still early give her time, it's on just gone 10 in the morning.


I'd really consider telling your mum in front of sister that because sister uses the card then the likelyhood it is possibly sister..

Thanks

The only reason I said she hasn't phoned is because shes a morning caller, she only seems to phone people on a morning, then she will spend the rest of the day out shopping or in the garden, ive never known her to phone any other time.

I would say something about my sister but it would only cause more trouble, my sister is just like my mum, she tends to blow things way out of proportion and go off on one big time.

Turtle

Happy Birthday! Shame your mother's got nothing better to concern herself with, don't know what's up with some people.

On a different note, I hope all these people saying they'd throw the mag in the bin mean the recycling bin and not just the normal bin!

Savvy_Sue

Many happy returns

Wkdwill wrote: »

Savvy_Sue - I do understand where you are coming from, but I refuse to be spoken to like something on the bottom of her shoe,

Well, I wouldn't be spoken to like that either, and maybe you won't get any normal kind of contact to respond to either.

With me it all had to wait until I saw her anyway, because she has rarely used the phone for years, because she's very deaf, but I made sure that she got cards at the appropriate times, and would phone my dad to get him to wish her a happy whatever, and let her thaw gradually.

She still plays games, tells me how one sibling has or hasn't done this that or the other for her, and the sun will always shine out of the rear end of my brothers. but I just keep smiling sweetly!

mrcow

Oh my goodness - I've just read this and am shocked that your mother would chose to not contact you on your birthday over something so pathetic.

I really hope that she's seen sense and has picked up the phone.

Happy Birthday from us anyway!

:bdaycake::bdaycake::bdaycake::bdaycake::bdaycake:

Wkdwill

Just thought I would post a quick reply, not a word from my mum yesterday, my sister didn't even bother saying Happy Birthday either and she was on FB at the same time as me yesterday, telling me about her new piercing, I decided not to bother saying anything, I would rather someone wished me a Happy Birthday because they wanted to, not because they had to.

Im going to be going over to my mums today, not to see her but to drop off my brothers birthday present, as it was his birthday the other day too. I will probably have to speak to her at some point while im there as I have to drop off some items for a friend of hers whose daughter is having a baby, I will update later on how it goes.

Thanks for the birthday messages and yes Turtle always in the recycling bin.

Wkdwill

Right an update!

Went round yesterday, spoke to her as I normally would, I didnt get above 2 words from her, after I left I opened a card which I assumed was from my brother as it was with a present he got me, but the card was actually from my mum with some money in it, so this morning I rung her to thank her for the card and money, as I am not going to be ungreatful, regardless of any problems between us.

After I thanked her, she did appologise for speaking to me like she did, but she also said that she didnt like the way I spoke to her or the fact that I hung up on her, I explained that the way I was speaking to her wasn't been nasty at all I was merely defending myself, after been shouted at and called a liar and if I hadn't have hung up the phone then no doubt we wouldn't have been having this phone call at all, she has agreed that anything regarding my dad will not be spoken about with me in future.

While on the phone I mentioned that my sister hadn't wished me a Happy Birthday, she said she didn't know, then just now on FB my sister came online and said "reason why i didnt say happy birthday or anything was because i didnt like how you treated my mum." I replied saying that maybe so but the conversation between me and my mum had nothing to do with her, she said "yeah but i am 18 and if im not happy about something i'll act upon it.", I honestly feel like saying something to her along the lines of the fact that she let a conversation that had absolutely nothing to do with her, make her not want to wish her own sister a happy birthday just shows that she isnt as mature as she really thinks she is, but I shall refrain myself as it will cause more bother than it is worth.

mrcow

It's good that you've mad up with your Mum - although I still maintain that that was absolutely rotten to not have called you on your birthday. Whatever she feels about your Dad, it's not your fault.

As with many things, you need to learn from this. Learn that if your mother is saying things about your Dad, to just play it down with "I don't really know" or "I don't really want to talk about that". Keep it at arm's length - I can assure you, from the sounds of it, the animosity won't be disappearing anytime soon and will be rearing its head again in the years to come.

As for your sister, you're right - it's none of her business. If you engage in conversation with her over it, you're making it her business, so don't. If she raises it again, just say "Well you don't really know the whole story and we've moved on now anyway" and leave it at that.

Primrose

Why don't you persuade your mother to sign up for the Mailing Preference Service then she wouldn't get all kind of junk mail?
I don't think the police or the legal authorities will be interested in this kind of complaint. They have far more important issues to deal with.
Your mother sounds as if she's got a long term chip on her shoulder regarding your father. Why don't you just leave her severely alone for a while to give her time to reflect on the damage she's causing by behaving so spitefully.