Worried about sister with new fella + her kids!

gottodothis_2

I was in the same position as you.. Desperatly worried about the "new" man in my sisters life. She took the children away from me, moved houses and schools several times took me ages to track them down. He too had previous children that he was not allowed to see. His previous girlfriend had had hers removed by social services and it still didnt ring alarm bells for her.

No one would listen about my concerns. I ended up reporting it to social services three times. Each time they removed the children but then sent them back. Each time it was worse.

The third time i applied to be their kinship carer. The children now live with me and are blosoming, all my family have turned against me for reporting my own sister. I have stolen her children cos i can't have any of my own!

My view is if i didnt i was just as responsible as their parents for what they were going through.

If they have nothing to hide then they have nothing to worry about. Its better to report it and be wrong than to not report it and something dreadful happens.

Good luck

bugbabe1970

Well done.

Chase it up in a couple of days though. Social Services are so busy that they might not have acted on your information. It wouldn't harm to maybe ring the school and have a chat with your niece and nephews head teacher about your concerns.

Good Luck

bugbabe1970

gottodothis wrote: »

I was in the same position as you.. Desperatly worried about the "new" man in my sisters life. She took the children away from me, moved houses and schools several times took me ages to track them down. He too had previous children that he was not allowed to see. His previous girlfriend had had hers removed by social services and it still didnt ring alarm bells for her.

No one would listen about my concerns. I ended up reporting it to social services three times. Each time they removed the children but then sent them back. Each time it was worse.

The third time i applied to be their kinship carer. The children now live with me and are blosoming, all my family have turned against me for reporting my own sister. I have stolen her children cos i can't have any of my own!

My view is if i didnt i was just as responsible as their parents for what they were going through.

If they have nothing to hide then they have nothing to worry about. Its better to report it and be wrong than to not report it and something dreadful happens.

Good luck

You should be proud of what you have done. You supported and helped these children when no one else was prepared to. Good for you. It really gives me faith in others when I hear stories like this. x

gottodothis_2

bugbabe1970 wrote: »

You should be proud of what you have done. You supported and helped these children when no one else was prepared to. Good for you. It really gives me faith in others when I hear stories like this. x

Thank you, I find it amazing that a complete stranger can see why i did it yet my own family (who i am better off and happier without) Can't

Its hard especially financially when you have four extra mouths to feed but totally worth it!

gizmo111

gottodothis wrote: »

Thank you, I find it amazing that a complete stranger can see why i did it yet my own family (who i am better off and happier without) Can't

Its hard especially financially when you have four extra mouths to feed but totally worth it!

Are you not receiving kinship payments? If not are you getting the child benefit and tax credits?

gottodothis_2

I don't have PR so no child benefit, I earn too much for Tax credits and i have to have pr for those too (parental responsibility) and the kinship payment is a token amount.

The financial difficultly arose when they arrived on my door step with just the clothes they stood up in (i had to burn them)

I have had to buy a much bigger house (with a much bigger mortgage) a bigger car and basically everything they own.

SS said as i am their aunty I don't qualify for funding (my MP is dealing with this) Its saving them thousands as all three kids have special needs a local authority foster carer would receive much much more.

But for me is wasn't about the money

LouiseSA

Didn't want to read and run but wanted to echo what everyone else has said and to reassure you that you have done the right thing.

Mojisola

gottodothis wrote: »

I don't have PR so no child benefit, I earn too much for Tax credits and the kinship payment is a token amount.

I don't want to side-track this thread but I'm sure this is wrong. Child benefit goes to the person who is looking after the children.

gizmo111

gottodothis wrote: »

I don't have PR so no child benefit, I earn too much for Tax credits and i have to have pr for those too (parental responsibility) and the kinship payment is a token amount.

The financial difficultly arose when they arrived on my door step with just the clothes they stood up in (i had to burn them)

I have had to buy a much bigger house (with a much bigger mortgage) a bigger car and basically everything they own.

SS said as i am their aunty I don't qualify for funding (my MP is dealing with this) Its saving them thousands as all three kids have special needs a local authority foster carer would receive much much more.

But for me is wasn't about the money

On what legal basis are they living with you? What orders are in place?

peachyprice

Mojisola wrote: »

I don't want to side-track this thread but I'm sure this is wrong. Child benefit goes to the person who is looking after the children.

I agree with Moji here, you should still get CB, it's not about PR, but who they are living with.

The forms and guidance notes are here, and it clealry states you do not need to be a parent to claim http://www.hmrc.gov.uk/menus/child_benefit.htm


HTH