vent about some ( not most ) student

Kaleidoscope27

I'm a graduate (2008) and I have no plans to get married / settle down until at least 28/29 (I'm 23 at the moment). No kids until I'm on the other side of 30. It just doesn't appeal to me at all right now! My main aim is to save up as much money as possible over the next 3 years so I can go backpacking in the USA.

adandem

tiggerkian wrote: »

not been funny but college after school is an easy way out for kids not to go work (not as though there are any jobs for them)....i mean they can't sign on until they are 18 so they get ema and there parents still get benefits and child support (if they are split up).......i'd place a bet on 85% would not go college if they could sign on.......

Ema or not, I think it's soon to become a legal requirement, the same as statutory education.

My son graduated in 2008, neither he or his friends have wasted their degree.
One is in Australia working as a Geologist.
One is working in London (something to do with renewable enegy). His job has taken him all over the world.
Two are Teachers.
One is continuining with medical training.
My son is doing an M.Phil.

RadoJo

I'm disappointed that the fight for women to have choice in how they live their lives has resulted in a culture where some people feel it's ok to condemn women for wanting to have a family as 'wasting their lives'. Perhaps your friends want to have children while they are younger so that they will be able to establish themselves in career once they start school and not need to take a break at the peak of their careers. Perhaps they took offence to your judgemental appraisal of their life choices because they think that your having had a child at 16 doesn't necessarily qualify you to decide what constitutes a 'good' way to spend their 20s. Perhaps they consider marrying and having children as 'living their lives to the max' and resent your implication that they will regret their choices based on your own experiences, instead of being happy for them. I certainly don't think that their responses are based on the fact that they are students.

LemonGrove

Once I finish Uni there's no way I'm starting a family, gonna be a long time until that.

lincroft1710

I do wonder why some people bother going to uni.

I have worked with 5/6 graduates all were/are in jobs that don't require a degree and in a lower grade than myself and I didn't go to uni. The age range of these graduates is late 20s to 50s. I was disappointed that none of them had used their degrees and also it didn't seem to bother them.

Claire_Bear

I left uni last year, making me 22. One of the girls from my year at school is expecting her 4th child now, and while it seems odd to me, from her Facebook status updates about her family and children she seems really really happy just being a mum. Whereas I left uni with a degree and now I'm stuck in a terrible mimimum wage shop job which I hate. Priorities change, maybe these people can make something of their degree once their kids are older?

amandada

I got married the year I graduated (this was 1991 though!)....split 16 months later! lol

Blacksheep1979

Claire_Bear wrote: »

I left uni last year, making me 22. One of the girls from my year at school is expecting her 4th child now, and while it seems odd to me, from her Facebook status updates about her family and children she seems really really happy just being a mum. Whereas I left uni with a degree and now I'm stuck in a terrible mimimum wage shop job which I hate. Priorities change, maybe these people can make something of their degree once their kids are older?

Is she self sufficient or on benefits? If the latter then you're contributing far more to society than her and whilst you may be on a min wage job that's where a lot of people start and if you find something that interests you it can easily lead to other things.

fly_dragon_fly

update.

the friend on facebook admited it hit a raw nerve but i just wished her the best in life.

i realised she can live her life how she wants.

AsknAnswer2

I think it's the same as everything else really. All boils down to experience. You've experienced the reality of being a mum and the commitments that go with it. You've probably lost many opportunities and want to see your friends grab theirs, and you probably think how someone so bright can be so stupid and want to throw their potential down the toilet.

I was a swat at school. Always told by teachers that the world was my oyster. Oh, I had big dreams but left school at 16 to care for my mother. Fast forward I am 29 and a single parent to two children who I love dearly. Though I can provide adequately for them I cannot offer them half the things I want to, so as well as working full time I'm studying for my law degree part time so that I can go further in the world of employment. Earn a better wage, put more in their trust funds for their futures.

My teenage niece is getting married this year. She is a very intelligent girl and could do so much with her life, but has no common sense. My other niece went to Uni and dropped out 6 months into the course, marrying some bloke she's only just met. I just want to give the pair of them a bloody good shake and tell them to wake up.

My life experience tells me that my nieces are being very stupid. It tells me that one day they may realise just how much that they have thrown away. But it's their life, not mine. It's difficult when you can see what someone who has potential and opportunities is doing and you want to scream at them to grab every chance they can, but the reality of it is, you'll never make them see that. My nieces have watched me struggle and know it's bee a tough ride but they still wanted to jack in their potential for a different future.

The only thing that can make them see that is the direct experience itself.