vent about some ( not most ) student

fly_dragon_fly

i have been today nattering to some of my "friends" who are students and it has started to annoy me.

when asked what do they intend to do with themselves now uni has finished most of the answers are oh get married or start a family!

now thats brillant but these are people who are 21 surely at 21 you should be enjoying your life, and living it to the max with no regrets about tomorrow.

i had my son at 16 and love him as i do, if i hadn't had had him at 16 i would have waited until i was 25/ 26 went to uni, got a amazing job, been stable in my life before bring a child into the world.

i'm 21 now and there is soo many things that i would have loved to done when i was a teenager.

i know i was the one who got themselve in the situation but its not about me lol

rant over.

Hermia

That's really bizarre! The majority of students I know either want to get stuck into a career, get a postgraduate degree or go and do charity work abroad.

bungle82

Most of the students I've ever known have wanted to be "career students" with one course after another ... anything to avoid the real world for as long as possible! ;-)

trumpton

Well, no offence to your friends, but due to the governments meddling in the education system, I think there are a lot of people who have gone on to university who 20 years ago would not have done so. I'm not saying that's a bad thing, but if a degree is easier to get then there is perhaps not so much of an incentive to do something with it.

In 2008/9, 45% of young people went to university that year. Higher education is not as tough to get into as it was, so inevitably many people will go just because it is expected of them or because they have the chance. Consequently, degrees are not as valued as they were, so I guess people don't feel obliged to do something with them.

Are they putting off their student loan repayments indefinitely then?

The fact is, you can't have everything at once. If they choose to have their children at 21, they will find themselves struggling to get a job later when other graduates are established in careers.

Your friends sound like they only see the cute things about having a young child, not the sacrifices and hard work. You sound like someone who is taking responsibility for their actions and would have appreciated the opportunities HE brings. I hope you get your chance.

tiggerkian

trumpton wrote: »

Well, no offence to your friends, but due to the governments meddling in the education system, I think there are a lot of people who have gone on to university who 20 years ago would not have done so. I'm not saying that's a bad thing, but if a degree is easier to get then there is perhaps not so much of an incentive to do something with it.

Are they putting off their student loan repayments indefinitely then?

not been funny but college after school is an easy way out for kids not to go work (not as though there are any jobs for them)....i mean they can't sign on until they are 18 so they get ema and there parents still get benefits and child support (if they are split up).......i'd place a bet on 85% would not go college if they could sign on.......

Alcmene

Out of interest, are they all on similar courses?

realised

On the flip side,

I am one of those people who would like to get married the year after I graduate from uni (Hopefully I will have gotten myself a job by then)

My reasons being, My OH is a lot older than me, he has finished uni, got his job and is ready to settle down. He's the one in our relationship that is currently stable. Although I'm not sure whether your friends have the stable, long term relationshp that I have, I'm glad I have my OH to fall back on as he will support me in the time it takes me to find myself a job.

It's not that I don't want to live my life to the max and find myself that amazing high flying job - I just need to comprimise to make my relationship work for the both of us. (Although my OH is doing a pretty good job of helping me live my life to the max! I've seem more parts of the world than I ever have!)

Children however is something I don't mind waiting for (Although OH says he would like to be young enough to be able to run around in the garden with them without feeling too tired :rotfl:)

Lokolo

I can't wait to graduate and start a career. It's what I enjoy.

I don't particularly enjoy travelling or having loads of time. I enjoy getting up at 8.30, going to work, doing something productive, coming home, having fun in the evenings and weekend.

I would love to get married a few years after and 'settle' down. Doesn't look promising at the moment though!

fly_dragon_fly

thank you for restoring my faith in students lol

one of friends took offence to me saying that she should enjoy life to the full and get a career before having kids.

whats the point of having a degree if you have no experience to show for it surely jobs aren't just gonna go oh she has a degree 10 years ago she's qualified for this job.

i didn't say the above but she has deleted me off of facebook oh well

RobertoMoir

one of friends took offence to me saying that she should enjoy life to the full and get a career before having kids.

Depending on how it was said, I can see why that might be taken as offensive to be honest. Isn't it up to them what they do with their lives? Now don't get me wrong, I'm more inclined to agree with your way of looking at things... but I don't agree with pushing that worldview onto other people.

KimYeovil

That is what happens when you try to throw 44% of the population rather than 4.4% of the population through tertiary education.