Feeling Sad & Lonely

Paisley_3

deedee71 wrote: »

I've posted this link before and it seems to be well represented around the country, judging by the responses - www.meetup.com.

I would remove any facebook contact etc regarding your old group. They have all moved on and so have you.

Be glad you have an OH and look at the good things you have - careers, a new home, new opportunities and MSE tendencies lol !

When I split with my ex 4 years ago I lost every single one of my friends, and have yet to make a new one . At least meetup means I can have a bit of a social life.

DeeDee I just wanted to say an extra thanks for this link, I've been on there five minutes and already found some groups I will be attending with hubby! :T

escortg3

perhaps if you say which areas you are from people may be able to help a little more, or perhaps they feel lonely and are in your area and you could chat etc:j

chelleybelley

escortg3 wrote: »

perhaps if you say which areas you are from people may be able to help a little more, or perhaps they feel lonely and are in your area and you could chat etc:j

yes i agree!!:D

Wilma33

Paisley wrote: »

I just think, you know, how come this girl who was so awful to me is pregnant and happy with hundreds of mates. What happened to Karma.

How do you know she is happy? People project whatever image they like on facebook. She might have got pregnant accidently by a loser on a one night stand and be devastated about it. Having hundreds of "friends" on facebook doesn't mean she has hundreds of friends.

People looking at your facebook page would probably be jealous that you are loved up and married with a good job and nice flat

RedBern

agree you should delete all the references to this group on facebook - they're not your friends! Karma sometimes takes a long time - but eventually what goes around comes around - keep that in your head - and rise above any bitter feelings, they're not productive.

If you're confident and outgoing in work, is it possible people think you don't want/need their friendship? So you may have to make the first move.

Emmzi

I second meetup.com - there are book groups, knitting groups, cinema, philosophy, cooking, blethering, business skills, religious, political, writers...all sorts! Go have a browse, be brave, and email one of the groups.

mummy_Jay

Let me tell you a little about conversation I had with an old friend last weekend, we were talking about whats gone on since uni.

He has a large group of friends, good job, nice car and always seems to be going out, going on holiday with all his mates and having loads of fun. Me on the other hand I'm a single mum, I don't get to see my friends much any more (as most of them don't have kids, so the novelty wore off after a year or two) but I do have a reasonably good job. I was quite taken back when he sat there telling me how jealous he was of me, how he would happily give everything up in an instant to have a family and a quiet happy life like mine.

So what I'm trying to say, you have a happy loved up marriage, just think how many people are going to be jealous of what you have. Hey I've been single for 6 years, I'm jealous you have this wonderful relationship.

Bad people quite often seems to get to have it all, but people see through them eventually and they end up being detached from everything as they have harden themselves to be able to be so mean in the first place. They don't get to appreciate or enjoy what they end up with. And what you see as something wonderful if it happened to you, they might see as not see in such a positive light, so don't let it bother you.

Don't look backwards, you can't change the past but the future has still to be written.

As for friends, you've had some great advise, just go out, talk to people and don't be affraid to let someone in.

poorbutrich

Paisley wrote: »

Hi All


I don't have any real friends

I think this is actually more common than you would think. I for one know how you feel. Over the years I have lots of great friends who have moved abroad, died or have become mothers. Although I don't feel particularly lonely, I do miss having someone special to talk to about silly things and chew the fat with, and like you, I would say that my partner is my best friend, so that's definitely one thing to be grateful for!

Whereabouts are you based? If you're near me, I would gladly buy you a coffee! :money:

ladybez

Just one thing that has not been mentioned so far, What about trying you local Church? Even if you/hubby are not overly religious, things are much lighter and interesting than they were years ago, most also have a lot of Social Activities which you could go along to. Guides, Brownies, Cubs and Scouts are always looking for helpers, if you enjoy working with children. Good luck with whatever you find.

Bobby1982

Hi Paisely, Just wanted to send a hug. I know what its like to have gone through having a close set of friends and losing them & you cant help but miss them (even if they dont deserve it maybe) and longing to have that in your life. I know its hard, but remember you have your husband and you will make new friends, decent, good ones. Its sad that sometimes in life some people seem to be the popular ones with lots of seemingly close friends, when they arent good people..are they just superficial friends maybe.

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