Is My Marriage Over?

gonzo127

i am so glad you are feeling better and more positive today

patchwork_cat

Mens sexual performance is very mind centered IYKWIM! I really do suggest that you sit down and talk to your DH about this and make him sit down and talk. The thing is impotence is not just about impotence, it is often a warning sign that things are not right physically and the Dr needs to assess him all. I am adding a link http://www.health.am/cardio/more/impotence_may_provide_a_warning_sign_of_coronary_heart_disease/ Can I ask an impertinent question is your DH overweight?

I am sure you have seen the advert 40 over 40, so OP your DH is not alone by any means.

However it may well be that he is physically fine and it is psychological. There are other things that you can do and I believe some sex therapists, once physical reasons are ruled out, actually ban penetration for a fortnight, but your homework is intimate touching.

Lara44

Threeteens, so glad you are feeling more positive. I agree that you need to get your OH sleeping back upstairs with you, and make it that he knows you can have hugs and physical intimacy without the need for sex.

Hopefully that will help to bring you closer and reassure you both about the relationship. Don't forget you can also go to see your own doctor about this for advice about the next steps. Or perhaps your OH would consent to a visit to the doctors together as a couple. Making sure he knows that you have got his back, and taking responsibility for your sexual health together might help.

Good luck

Argygirl

In some ways I am in a similiar position, although earlier days in the relationship, and am going to print this out so that he can see he really needs to get himself checked out and it's not an unusual problem.

I think it's very difficult for a couple to discuss, in practise, and to keep the right approach when emotions are involved on both sides.

Wishing you the very best of luck. He is very lucky to have you.