Weekly Flylady Thread 10th May 2010

LameWolf

Notso big (((HUGS))) I sooo understand how you feel.

I think I'd be doing that myself, except I'm too tired to cry, if that makes sense.:(
The adrenaline has run out, and I'm keeping going now just on sheer bl00dy-mindedness. I want a coffee, but can't find the get-up-and-go to get up and make one. (Where's the Shruggy smilie when I need it?) If Mr LW was here, I'd go and do it because he'd have one too - doesn't seem worth the bother just for me.:(

Funnily enough, I had a PM from another Flylady yesterday asking for some info, and that gave me a bit of a temporary lift - as if being of use is a source of vitality. Does that sound totally weird?:o

I think what's got to me is Mr LW's pal and his wife splitting up - pal says he hadn't realised just how unhappy he'd become; now I'm just waiting for the other shoe to drop, and Mr LW to realise he doesn't want to be a disabled person's carer for the rest of his days. Except here it'd be me that'd have to move out, because Mr LW already had the bungalow when we got together, and I moved in with him.

On an intellectual level I know I'm being silly, but I've always had a tendency to see the worst-case scenario.:(

No good seeing GP; I'm on the highest dose of the last-ditch anti-d's I can have as it is - already been told there's nothing more they can do for my anxiety and depression.

Oh gods, somebody, preferably a fellow BD owner, please give me a good kick.:(

newlywed

I tend to do the worst case scenario thing too. I used to think when OH snapped at me or got in a huff that he was regretting marrying me, that he wished I wasn't there as I made a mess in his nice tidy flat etc.

This last year we've been through some pretty stressful times, my dad died suddenly, I got signed off because of it, later I had to go into hospital suddenly, got told I nearly died, was off work for over 2 months, got back to work and second day back got told I was going to be redundant, now unemployed. Thing is, through it all, we seem closer than ever and though I get black clouds, I don't wish I could just stop living (like I used to). I think it was seeing everyone's worried faces when I was in hospital. There's no longer any way I can convince myself that people don't care about me.

I've found flylady has helped. Believing that I deserve a nice tidy home, a clean toilet, and trying to stop grumping about having to clean and just getting on and doing it helps.

I too find comfort in knowing I've been useful to someone. That's partly why I really want to get back to work.

greenbee

Valli wrote: »

*Imagination goggles wildly at mental picture of f***ing marshmallows* it might be some time before I eat one again :rotfl:

see notso... even in the midst of your misery you're able to make us laugh

short_bird wrote: »

Eee, tell 'em about 5 inch floppies and they won't believe you! Are you sure somebody won't buy them?:rotfl:

Try selling them as antiques maybe?

LameWolf wrote: »

Notso big (((HUGS))) I sooo understand how you feel.

I think I'd be doing that myself, except I'm too tired to cry, if that makes sense.:(
The adrenaline has run out, and I'm keeping going now just on sheer bl00dy-mindedness. I want a coffee, but can't find the get-up-and-go to get up and make one. (Where's the Shruggy smilie when I need it?) If Mr LW was here, I'd go and do it because he'd have one too - doesn't seem worth the bother just for me.:(

Funnily enough, I had a PM from another Flylady yesterday asking for some info, and that gave me a bit of a temporary lift - as if being of use is a source of vitality. Does that sound totally weird?:o

I think what's got to me is Mr LW's pal and his wife splitting up - pal says he hadn't realised just how unhappy he'd become; now I'm just waiting for the other shoe to drop, and Mr LW to realise he doesn't want to be a disabled person's carer for the rest of his days. Except here it'd be me that'd have to move out, because Mr LW already had the bungalow when we got together, and I moved in with him.

On an intellectual level I know I'm being silly, but I've always had a tendency to see the worst-case scenario.:(

No good seeing GP; I'm on the highest dose of the last-ditch anti-d's I can have as it is - already been told there's nothing more they can do for my anxiety and depression.

Oh gods, somebody, preferably a fellow BD owner, please give me a good kick.:(

No its not strange to get a lift from feeling needed and useful. Give your BD a kick out of the door, then shut it firmly. You're needed on this thread too, and I'm sure Mr LW needs you too. Sounds as if you need some more doggy visitors to keep you company while he's out. Maybe we could get you a virtual dog to look after??

Those of you who can follow hex's example, give it a try. I've seen her pictures and it's lovely out there

determined_new_ms

Ok today is the last day on myt first week. Tbh I have found it difficult keeping up with this with everything that is going on for me atm! However I have found it helpful to keep me feeling sane (the older I've got a clean home = peaceful mind!) so I'm gonna go for it today - thanks for the encouragement! x

Monday ~ Kitchen and Dining room
Level One
Declutter and wipe marks off/sweep floor
Clear and wipe work surfaces
Level Two
Wipe units and large appliances
Give one small appliance a good clean! kettle! Thought I'd go easy as its my first day!
Bake a cake or find something new too cook.. see what you can make from your cupboard contents!!! made coconut basic cake to use up dessicated coconut I used to make coconut milk for a soup on Saturday

wipe off all the window sills!

1. Empty and wash out bins!
2. wipe marks off of hallway walls
3. wash marks off of hallway carpet (as its my day off better do today or it won't get done!
4. hc x 3 (2 hung out)
5. fold & put away weekends hc
6. wash marks off radiator in bedroom

will report back later

Yay all done :j

Tuesday - Master bedroom and landing
Level One
Open the window and let in some fresh air!
sort out your stash of slap.. what is past its best? Unworn? worn out?
vacuum/polish
Level Two
Clear the floor of clutter.. the landing too!
wipe skirting boards

Level Three

Dust all those spider webs away.. I don't care if they are your halloween decorations!

Wednesday - those frightening kids rooms and spare rooms
Level One
Clear away anything that isn't in it's place, clothes, toys, books etc
Make an appointment for some ME-time.. hairdressers? manicure? night out with friends? .. whatever just do it!went for a walk and a pint with oh
Level Two
Vacuum the floor
Dusting.. all those shelves and flat fluffy surfaces!! Don’t forget the light shade and curtain pole!!!
Strip beds, turn and vacuum mattresses!! and replace with fresh linen .. check if duvets need freshening up too!!

Extras

1. Find 5 things to ebay/freecycle
2. Wipe the radiators, skirtings and window & door frames!
3. repair leg of bed

:j

Thursday - Bathroom & study
Level One
Clear the floors of clutter
Level Two
Clean/vacuum the floors
Shine the bath,bog,basins etc
Twinkle the tiles
Level three
Clean the toilet seat germs off the telephone, keyboard, mouse, monitor, sockets and switches
declutter the pc desk
Sparkle the mirrors and windows in these rooms

Extras

1. Binbag dance
2. Throw out/get rid of 3 things from every room in your house!!
3. 15 minutes filing does 5 count???
4. HHG.. if your garden is already beautiful go out and enjoy it for half an hour!!

Friday ~ Living room, Hall, Stairs and Porch!
Level One
Declutter all the floors
Tidy away the coats and bags and shoes etc
Level Two
Vacuum all the floors, shake the muck out of any mats
Dust and polish any electricals
Wipe and water and plants
Level Three
Check all those smoke alarms!
straighten any books/CDs/DVDs etc on shelves
Tidy the understair cupboard


Extras

1. Wipe over sofas if needed
2. Wipe skirtings and dados and door frames!
   

helen_jelly

LW if its any help - I really enjoy reading your posts too - you always talk alot of sense and I often wish that I had thought of the things you post, you always seem so very good at putting the oral into the written, I'm about to have a coffee so how about we go and make one together

Helen x

"I really enjoy reading your posts too" - seem to be saying that alot says me, but there are some of you out there who make me laugh or who make so much sense or who's colour brightens the morning!!

helen_jelly

List

Wednesday - those frightening kids rooms and spare rooms
Level One
Level Two
Level Three
Clean 2 windows
Wipe any sticky marks off walls and doors

Thursday - Bathroom and Study
Level One
Level Two
Level three
Clean the toilet seat germs off the telephone, keyboard, mouse, monitor, sockets and switches
declutter the pc desk
Sparkle the mirrors and windows in these rooms


Friday ~ Living room, Hall, Stairs and Porch!
Level One
Level Two
Dust and polish any electricals
Level Three

Have also trimmed a bush in the garden, spoke to Mum, shampoo'd stairs, sofa and a mattress, WM x 1 (boil wash the whites] DWx1, S&S'd the kitchen, text sent to DH, spoke to ExKH, decluttered some mouldy sealant from around the bath ready for the new stuff to go on, drunk some coffee and need more now

LameWolf

greenbee wrote: »

No its not strange to get a lift from feeling needed and useful. Give your BD a kick out of the door, then shut it firmly. You're needed on this thread too, and I'm sure Mr LW needs you too. Sounds as if you need some more doggy visitors to keep you company while he's out. Maybe we could get you a virtual dog to look after??

As it happens, I do have a miniature Schnauzer coming next Friday for 11 days - so I have a week to get my head together and chuck BD into the outdoor virtual kennel.:o A virtual dog other than BD for the next week would be good though!:o

helen_jelly wrote: »

LW if its any help - I really enjoy reading your posts too - you always talk alot of sense and I often wish that I had thought of the things you post, you always seem so very good at putting the oral into the written, I'm about to have a coffee so how about we go and make one together

Helen x

Thank you.:A I was doing yet another online survey, but I will go and get a coffee now - maybe it'll wake me up a bit. Cheers:coffee:

Newlywed I'm so sorry to learn about your Dad, and all the stress you've been through. I hope things are more settled, and hope you find a job soon, that you enjoy.

greenbee

LameWolf wrote: »

As it happens, I do have a miniature Schnauzer coming next Friday for 11 days - so I have a week to get my head together and chuck BD into the outdoor virtual kennel.:o A virtual dog other than BD for the next week would be good though!:o

Try here

gratefulforhelp_2

LW there's always something they can do. Hugs for that, though. I've thrown the naughty woofer a stick. *chuck*

hex2

I put G n R 'Appetite for Destruction' on very loudly in the kitchen- this has several purposes:

1. It keeps the chickens out
2. It annoys George (cat) so much that she goes out
3. It STOPS me from thinking
4. I dont let myself stop cleaning till the CD finishes
5. Speakers on the top shelf of the pantry mean that the bass thumps the dust off the beams :cool:

Kitchen is now done, Monkees Greatest Hits for the Snug where we have a nice amp and lots of speakers. If I turn the subwoofer up enough I can do the rest of the ground floor beams before I hoover .

wonders off singing 'I thought love was only true in fairy tales.........'