Accompanying a spouse on business trip

SandC

You are being sensible if you ask me. If you had not been unwell, taking taxis out and about would be fine, but I understand you would like to stay in one place and have a bit of pampering. If it is imperative because of business associates your husband stays in this particular hotel then there will always be other people he knows around, no long and lonely nights all on his own as is the case with many business trips.

You stick to your guns girl, if your accompanying visits are only very occasional anyway then you go on the ones where you will be staying somewhere that suits you and your needs (as you are the one spending entire days on your own) and the ones where he is going to be spending most evenings on his own.

Mojisola

Options: your OH stays with you in a better hotel and travels back daily to the other hotel; he stays in the business hotel and you stay in a nicer hotel and your OH comes to see you when he has time from business commitments; or you stay at home.

Perhaps your OH needs reminding that the arrangements have been changed and that you wouldn't have agreed to go on the trip if this hotel had been the original plan.

Chinkle

Your husband needs to be onsite - conferences are rarely 9-5 things and he probably has networking commitments. Is there nothing to do at the hotel - if it's a conference hotel it normal has some facilities?

As others have suggested I would research places you can go that aren't too taxing and then take a cab there. If you really feel this is too much then explain you'd rather be at home and forgo the airfare refund.

whitewing

I think you are being sensible. But sometimes you have to s*d sensible, so I think you should go.

*Louise*

Spirit wrote: »

He has to stay there as he will be amongst international associates. I have suggested paying and staying elsewhere – but it is a no go.

To me that says it is important for work reasons and I don't think it would be reasonable to expect him to move to another hotel.

If you don't want to go, then don't go. But no one says you have to stay in for all those days - surely there is somewhere locally you can go, and you can spend a couple of days in town rather than every day.

Pixiechic

Hi,

I can understand your dissapointment here but I can also see the other side too. My partner travels abroad for work and I have been with him too. We flew together and as he was on work, I was often left to my own devices for the whole day and sometimes into the evening. It sounds as though the hotel although not 5 star is catering for foreign customers which means you can at least expect a decent standard of accomodation for international associates.
If I were you I would go and do what I do. With the cash you save on a 5 star hotel, hire a driver for the duration. He/She would pick you up when you want, take you where you want to go, have local knowledge and if you book through the place you are staying at. They will no doubt use a decent service as they cater for international customers. You would be safer and have reliability. This is what I did and it was great. You say you are an experienced traveller so know the do's and don'ts so why not? You have the opportunity of a great experience all be it a different one than expected. It would be a shame to pass it up just because you feel the accomodation isn't what you wanted.
I am sure that there will be some places where you can relax in the conference hotel, there usually is. Also, its not really your husbands fault, he is there on business which is going to be the main point for him.
You could have and have a great time!

Any

OP, you are getting 2 different views on this...
Only you know how serious is your health condition really...

Oldernotwiser

Any wrote: »

I also completely understand why don't you want to be for 6 days locked in the room. The idea is ridiculous.

Nothing ridiculous about having a lie in reading for a couple of hours, a leisurely shower and getting dressed then amble down for lunch. Relax for an hour or so after your meal and then go for a mooch around the area, have a drink/coffee and then back to get ready for the evening.

Not terribly exciting and possibly boring towards the end of the period but very relaxing and hardly "6 days locked in the room"!

Any

Oldernotwiser wrote: »

Nothing ridiculous about having a lie in reading for a couple of hours, a leisurely shower and getting dressed then amble down for lunch. Relax for an hour or so after your meal and then go for a mooch around the area, have a drink/coffee and then back to get ready for the evening.

Not terribly exciting and possibly boring towards the end of the period but very relaxing and hardly "6 days locked in the room"!

I have been to these trips... It is most terrible torture imaginable in my eyes... But that is just my opinion;)

Also from the OP's post I understand that there isn't much of an "area" to mooch about really..

A day or two, I would say yes bite the bullet, but 6 days? That is a bit too much for me.

andrealm

I suppose a lot of it depends on how well you're feeling now, if you'd be able to travel from the hotel and sightsee? Is there nothing to do nearby the hotel? I would hate the thought of sitting in the hotel room on my own for 6 days. Even though I love reading I would feel a bit trapped and isolated. How much free time will your OH have to spend with you?