Memorygirls - Make Do and Mend

groatie_queen

Re Mr Big's homework - I think it's good when we realise people can be with us for a reason or a season of our lives and that it can be healthy to let go.

I sent a letter some years ago to a toxic 'friend' who had gradually become difficult over a period of time, but I had persevered, but then there were several abusive phone calls from her, which were unwarranted and upsetting.

I said in the letter that I felt the friendship had passed its natural healthy lifespan and thanked her for everything she had been to me and for all that we had shared and the lessons learned. I wished her well and hoped that she would be happy. She sent a letter back, agreeing with what I had said and wishing me well.

It put closure on the friendship and I was glad I had written to her and allowed us both to say goodbye properly. However, there have been other people who were not as close to me, who I have simply not contacted again, when the friendship has run out of steam/we have moved in different directions. My instincts must have been right as these people did not persevere with me either!:rotfl::rotfl:

Cheery_Daff

GQ - how lovely that you could write a letter, and that the other person responded Sounds very grown up and sensible solution all round.

Claire - don't panic about the breadmaker blade!!! My friend did exactly the same, put off sorting out a new one for 18 months, was on the verge of chucking the breadmaker, and then one day just decided to ring the manufacturers - new blade was with her within a week, costing a grand total of £1.50... :rotfl: Worth a try And solid bread usually means too much liquid (or too hot, or too cold, so the yeast doesn't work) - I do it plenty of times

KC, no idea about the coaching programme! And I don't know if you're being wary - perhaps just sensible if it's going to cost a lot of money? Perhaps see what your instinct is after the phone call?

And a special thanks to Fantacee, who just very kindly and competently sorted out my slight technical issue Gosh I love this forum :T :T :T

clairewop

Cheery_Daff wrote: »

GQ - how lovely that you could write a letter, and that the other person responded Sounds very grown up and sensible solution all round.

Claire - don't panic about the breadmaker blade!!! My friend did exactly the same, put off sorting out a new one for 18 months, was on the verge of chucking the breadmaker, and then one day just decided to ring the manufacturers - new blade was with her within a week, costing a grand total of £1.50... :rotfl: Worth a try And solid bread usually means too much liquid (or too hot, or too cold, so the yeast doesn't work) - I do it plenty of times

KC, no idea about the coaching programme! And I don't know if you're being wary - perhaps just sensible if it's going to cost a lot of money? Perhaps see what your instinct is after the phone call?

And a special thanks to Fantacee, who just very kindly and competently sorted out my slight technical issue Gosh I love this forum :T :T :T

I found a new blade on ebay I can't believe it was thrown out :mad:

well Another lovely order on the website tonight for £46 and a commission I'm dead chuffed not much left on the website now so need to crack on and get more on there tomorrow

Cheery_Daff

Oh congratulations Claire! :T

MrsMoo2U

Wow, so much to catch up on. Thanks to everyone for all the positivity.
With regards to toxic people. I want to agree with those that have said it is time to move them out of your life. I spent years being friends with somebody who just drained my energies, one day I realised this and decided to extract them from my life. I explained to them that I was just too tired to deal with their negativity any longer, I needed some space and time to find positivity in my life and that I would contact them again as and when I felt ready to deal with their whining. I am sorry to say that I was that blunt as I had just been worn down. I am not proud that I handled it in that way and really wish that I had the foresight to have dealt with it as GQ did. However, I am not sorry that I removed them from my life.

Dirty Epic, I am sorry that you are feeling so upset by your job. Somebody said to me recently that there comes a time when, rather than doing what you think you should be doing, you will know what you shouldn't be doing . Perhaps that is the point that you have reached but you needed that breaking point. Read Mr Bigs challenge re the breaking point. It might help.

Off to read the challenges.

Memory_Girl

Cheery_Daff wrote: »

Mr Daffs refers to it as a 'Can Do Attitude' As demonstrated by pigeons (he likes pigeons). Cheerfully eat anything, make the best use of urban spaces, carry on regardless with only one leg... I think of it as being the very opposite to the 'Yes [that's all very well], but....' attitude - rather than thinking 'I can't do it', thinking 'what can we do to make this happen?'

The very essence of your challenges, I think! :T

Does that make us all "Daff's pigeons! ????

i kinda like that

MG

Memory_Girl

clairewop wrote: »

I'm going to have another go at sultaner bread, MG how much warm water is it? My last lot turned out like a solid lump.

2 cups flour
1 cup sultana
1 cup warm water
1 tsp each salt, sugar, yeast
1 tbsp mixed spice

Does that help hon?

MG

Memory_Girl

Karmacat wrote: »

Those rissoles are interesting - they sound very yum! I don't do much with veg other than cook them in a stew or stir fry, so this might be quite a new departure when my kitchen is actually up and running!

Note to self - pop into Karmakats for tea when on my "World Tour" :rotfl::rotfl:

MG

clairewop

Memory_Girl wrote: »

2 cups flour
1 cup sultana
1 cup warm water
1 tsp each salt, sugar, yeast
1 tbsp mixed spice

Does that help hon?

MG

thankyou will try again when my new blade arrives

Memory_Girl

Firewalker wrote: »

Does not take too long if you have already done the previous homework. Unfortunately this is the one I have not had the strength to approach - but will have to tackle very soon.

I have been staying away from negative people and places, though - this leaves very few people to be with but hey, quality is what counts.

MG, you are on my A list - and I suspect you will be there for a long time.

Firewalker

:j:j:jWoohoooo!!!!:j:j:j

MG