Memorygirls - Make Do and Mend

boredofbeingathome

And that is serendipity at its best MG- What a fantastic outcome for the day

Memory_Girl

:eek::eek: whew!!!! that was a horror :eek::eek:

so i get up this morning - feeling pretty zippy. do the usual shower, bed making,breakfast ,laundry flurry and log on.............

..................to find i have literally been inundated by PM's from you lovely lot. having read them - well i had to take some time out and have a good hard think about how to respond.

omg!!! i hope i can find the words to say this properly.

Thank you for all your kind offers of help - financial and otherwise, but if you will bear with me i will try and explain my reasons for my decisions.

the ctx problem is annoying (understatement) but it did wake me up from my slowly plodding forward torpor of last week. Remember i have a fully stocked storecupboard and a working budget so although things are going to be tight it should be do-able, so never fear, those lovely kids of mine will NEVER go hungry.

But after my knee-jerk reaction of "but I can't accept charity" i gave myself a shake and realised that what you are all doing is not offering charity - but simply reaching out to help someone in need. You guys are so lovely to offer that to a stranger you have never met in the flesh - so i agree with the poster that said this is the best thread in the universe:D

so heres what i have come up with - after an hours ironing and listenning to gentleman jim reeves ( was in that kind of mood -sorry;))

i wholeheartedly accept your INTENTIONS to support me and the boys - but instead i would like to ask if you would be willing to help by donating a little of your time instead and answering this following proposition.

i have about 30 pm's asking for details of my old book from peeps wanting to help their kids with studying - or wanting to help themselves for that matter.

IF I were to list the books on amazon or something - could i direct those who are interested over to there so that they can get them? or would that get me into trouble with the mods??? maybe to play it safe i could send the particulars of the book by pm to those who are interested - would that be ok?

that way everyone who wants a book for their kids can get one easily and i make some pennies to cover the shortfall on the tax credits -does that make sense. A win/win because i will feel that i am exchanging something of value and be back on my way to start working again rather than just benefitting from your kind offers of help.

hope i am not breaking any rules in asking this question - but would appreciate your honest responses.

and thank you everyone who took time to pm me your support - i am truly touched and think you may all be named in my "killer keynote" when i talk about my "everyday angels":D

memorygirl

boredofbeingathome

sounds good to me

Memory_Girl

Firewalker wrote: »

Regarding old 'flame' - well you never know. Is he single at the moment? But I agree that hearing nice things makes you feel good and that is what matters at the end.

I am in my uniform of black baggy trousers and a white tee - cycled to work today. But I seccumbed to temptation in Sofia and got a new pair of basketball shoes - justifying it in terms of becoming my trade mark. Feeling very smart because of new shoes - and comfortable as well.

Firewalker

new shoes always put a spring in your step:D

as for the old flame - well i've never caught him between wives :rotfl: and he's on the third one now, so i'm not sitting here waiting my turn iyswim:rotfl: but it i always nice when someone tells you how kindly they still think of you. Should have made my move 20 years ago when i was irresistable:D

i will tell you all something i have never confessed before - but ds1's middle name is his, although i never told ds' dad why i agreed so easily to the choice at the time.

mg

Memory_Girl

cherisong wrote: »

Never say Never, I fell in love with my OH at the age of 15 when he ran past the girls changing rooms in his little shorts. We became friends at the age of 17 because he fancied my mate and he came to ask me about her So followed us becoming the best of friends, did lots together but I never plucked up the courage to tell him how I felt in case I lost his friendship. We did part ways in the end when I got married and was banned from keeping in touch. At the age of 43, I was visiting a friend who lived across the road from his Mum and Dad, just so happened he was visiting them that weekend and so (after a few glasses of wine) I left a note on his car. He text me that very night (2am in the morning) and we ended up talking on the phone until 6 am. 21/2 years later we are very happily together. :j:j

Awwww!!!! to quote flylady - that's left me in purple puddles :T

there's hope for us mad old birds in our forties yet then:rotfl:

mine will be perfect for me -did i tell you that already??:rotfl:

mg

Memory_Girl

Buffythedebtslayer wrote: »

Hello, not posted in ages, taking a semi break from the diaries! however wanted to tell you something my friend said to me.

I have loved a guy for about 8 years, we did date but it was messy, he was getting a divorce when we first met, I was the rebound girl who he got more involved with then he wanted to and I was "difficult" This rather akward situation carried on for far too long and I broke it off with him (drunken text oh so classy!) over two years ago.

I was broken hearted and havent dated since to be honest (too obssessed with debt busting work and my friends/family).

Any how he made quite an effort to get in touch over the last few months.

I resisted for a bit - been there done that! but gave in and went to see him. I had such hopes and it was lovely to see him again, the warmth the smile the banter the looks. It was honestly great.

However he didn't suggest we meet up or anything and actually after the intial high I was devastated. I did the typical thing of moaning to my girlfriends why did he bother? what was I thinking? Whine whine etc.

And then I spoke to another friend, who just said to me. He is going to ask you out - that man will ask you out. I laughed and said how do you know? And she said how do you know he won't?

Either position is kinda ridiculous really so if I am going to pick a ridiculous position I may as well pick the one that puts a smile on my face! And so that is what I am going to do!

Any how just thought I'd share.

xxx

thats brilliant buffy - always make the choice that puts the smile on your face seems like a brilliantly simple philosophy to live by.

Big smiles

mg

Memory_Girl

RubySewSew wrote: »

Meant to say, look for my tax credits thread on the benefits forum. I got some really useful replies with alternative phone numbers.

Thanks ruby - i will head over there soon armed with a pad and pencil.

mg

Memory_Girl

cherisong wrote: »

Thanks, quite a few people have said that. Maybe if I finish work in a few weeks I might just start writing. It has been a lifetime ambition to write a novel or short stories. Who knows.

MG, just wanted to say thanks for the muffins recipe, just scoffing my latest batch

so how many hints do you want from the univese then gf???????:D:D

You've got alovely "voice" when writing so i think you should go for it too.

mg

make more muffins too - for the mummies at the swim party ds1 is at this afternnoon. i figured i could buy a coffee and we could share the home baking so keep it fairly low spend

Memory_Girl

nattypants wrote: »

Ooohh....should have added to my post last night that I hope all gets sorted on the money front toot suite for you MG:o

ps. In Tayport tomorrow doing that long-awaited car-boot-sale...if you're in the vicinity, you must say to each and every car-booter "nattypants?":D you never know by some cosmic intervention we may be able to identify one another.......causing of course the Tayporters some concern that we are infact part of a Scottish spy espionage ring by communicating in code name only!

Okay...of I pop to sort through the clutter cupboard into nice wee piles of, soon to be pennies:)

NPX

if i go around asking "nattypants" of the stall holders i think i will either get

1. a bob on the nose

2. and asbo

3. an offer of drinks and dinner :rotfl::rotfl:

i will pm you my moby - if the weather is ok i might take the boys up for a mooch - would be great to meet up

mg

nattypants

Memory_Girl wrote: »

Now i was just pondering win/win solutions this very morning - let me back-track a little.

"what message is the universe sending me?? what has the screw up with money this week shown me?"

well where i got too is - i am hanging on to the safety of benefits and that is holding me back from going out and developping something wonderful. The universe has just sent me a message loud and clear that the "safety" of benefits is anything but. so step up, step out young lady and go and provide for your children......

.....the pure serendipity-doo-dah of a speaker turning up at my door on the day i make a decision at the depths of my soul to go back to work is just breathtaking.

long and short of it is

1. he wants me to take his course and create a mind-map of it that they can use instead of a manual.

2. he wants me to come - for free - to his course in nov and mind map it live for selling in the future

3. he has been told my story over the last year by his brother and thinks that although my mind mapping training is "five star" - that i should also consider crafting a killer keynote of my story to use as a motivational experience for others.

so i went to bed last night thiking - ok, in the morning i have loads to share with my MSE mates (and you are, even though you are in virtual space). deep in every fibre of my being i know i have made a shaft and am ready now to go and create a business out of nothing.

MG

Whooohooo:T:T:T
Perfect perfect conclusion MG......not only are you back on track, but are on full steam ahead!!
I would confidently say that your future's looking pretty darned rosy - remember good things happen to good people, and as you are one of life's GREAT people this is only the beginning:T:T:T
NPX