Off sick for 4 weeks boss insisting on visiting me at home.

PaulusCliftus

dmg24 wrote: »

Sometimes you find yourself in a situation that, no matter what you do, you can't make it better. Sometimes 'winning' is being the bigger person and walking away. If you do resign, it would be worth asking your GP to refer you for some counselling to go through your work issues, and hopefully enable you to put them aside.

Yeah, maybe I should concentrate on getting better and not on the fact that I feel he has contributed towards my situation. I need to think long and hard about it before my next appointment in just over a weeks time.

After all, my mental health is more important than that muppet. :T

Uncertain

SueC wrote: »

By your own reasoning your logic is flawed.

Sick notes issued before April didn't have the 'third' option (ie. a "maybe fit..." box).

That doesn't mean that all employees who were signed off before April were completely unfit for work, or that there were no employees who may have been fit for work had reasonable adjustments been made, it just means that box wasn't on the form!

Oh for heaven's sake READ what I said - don't put words into my mouth then object to them!

I said "not completely fit otherwise he would not have a sick note!" which is exactly the point you are trying to make.

In other words he wouldn't have a sick note if he was COMPLETELY fit! Yes he may be half way and on the new form the Dr may have suggested certain adjustments - although from what the OP has said that doesn't seem likely!

SueC_2

Uncertain wrote: »

Oh for heaven's sake READ what I said - don't put words into my mouth then object to them!

I could say the same to you, I used the expression "ie. you are either completely fit or completely unfit for work" to explain what I meant by "binary", not to imply that I thought the OP was completely fit. I think if you read back through my posts it's pretty clear that that's not what I think.

But anyway, I'm not going to get into a fight. All I've been advising all along is that the OP does what is good for their health whilst at the same time communicating with their employer. I stand by both pieces of advice.

dukesy_2

Sit tight, string it out and wait to be pushed (and maybe make claim if not done properly).

as long as people advise things like this, and other people TAKE that advice and adopt that mentality, is it any wonder why businesses (especially smaller ones) are reluctant to assist people ??????

People who act in this manner are pratically (if grey legally) unemployable......

CLAIM CLAIM CLAIM

Rather than work around problems and have/demonstrate some flexibility, or at LEAST some communication and work WITH the employer ( arranging cover etc)

Its frustrating when SOME people think they are doing an employer a favour by being a burden, rather than acknowledging that an employer is at the top of the tree....not the bottom...

But hey...if you disagree that much, theres always JSA

Ewarwoowar2

You also have to accept that you being off sick is probably putting him under a lot of stress. You work for a very small company and you being off must be a complete nightmare for your employer.

I know from experience, that having a person down can cripple a small business.

He only wants to meet to discuss your problems. He's not demanding that you come back to work.

Uncertain

dukesy wrote: »

as long as people advise things like this, and other people TAKE that advice and adopt that mentality, is it any wonder why businesses (especially smaller ones) are reluctant to assist people ??????

You picked out one sentence from a list of three. The other two were actually much more along the lines that you favour!

What I said was....

Meanwhile, choose between:-

Resign and move on.

or

Sit tight, string it out and wait to be pushed (and maybe make claim if not done properly).

or

Make one last effort to see if problems can be resolved.

However, unlike you and quite a few others on here I try to help people by pointing out ALL their options and not simply expounding my own point of view.

You might like to give it a try sometime!