The cutting out/cutting down alcohol thread (part 7)

fedupandskint

graemecarter wrote: »

However, it was when I changed myself (rather than just my drinking) that I started to feel much better inside. The change inside means that for today I do not even want to drink. That to me is recovery

That rings a bell with me, although I never drank every day and no where near that point I can feel the difference for hardly drinking at all from March until now.

I feel better, feel better inside, I can feel the difference and I can feel the real me. And I like it

dotstar24

jo1972 wrote: »

Would anybody fancy joining.....



'Jo's 24 hour AF spectacular'



If you've not had a drink yet today then we are already 7 hours and 22 minutes into the event, which means only 16 hours and 38 minutes to go

COUNT ME IN!!! i have no booze in the house and no money to buy any so this is my 3rd AFD Sparkles xxx

Miss_Piggy_2

MORAL DILEMMA - I NEED YOUR HELP!

Guys, I need some advice please!

You know I do cleaning for my SIL and brother? Well, haven't done it for 4 weeks because of foot. Text SIL earlier to say did she want me to do it friday as I'd be able to do it as Mum has offered to come and help.

SIL text back to say brilliant, but please don't tell my brother as he's a bit funny about Mum doing it...doesn't like to feel his Mums clearing up after him!

I just feel really odd about this....lying by ommision to my mum, praying to god she doesn't mention it to my brother...plus I feel my brother is being incredibly selfish!(He knows I need the cleaning money and that I've been badly off since not doing it after breaking my foot on HIS stupid shaped stairs!!!)

Help! What do I do? I feel my SIL is being a bit unfair putting me in this position and I feel badly for my Mum as she's just trying to help me!

Why is my life never easy!?! Am I taking it all too seriously!?

Miss P
xx

ETA I fell out with my brother BIG TIME in my 20's and don't want to do it again over something as silly as this. He's just very odd about certain things and can have a bad temper :-(

OH feels I should just do it with my Mum and keep my mouth shut. Probably right...guess I worry too much :-(((

115K

Miss P - I'm not sure, that sounds like a bit of a weird situation for you.:(

Lurkio wrote: »

When did I get appointed Threadstarter (twisted threadstarter), hey?

:rotfl:

jo1972 wrote: »

Well I'm the threadkiller, so you might as well be the threadstarter

I'm sure you are not a threadkiller!:D

budget_babe

Miss_Piggy wrote: »

MORAL DILEMMA - I NEED YOUR HELP!

Guys, I need some advice please!

You know I do cleaning for my SIL and brother? Well, haven't done it for 4 weeks because of foot. Text SIL earlier to say did she want me to do it friday as I'd be able to do it as Mum has offered to come and help.

SIL text back to say brilliant, but please don't tell my brother as he's a bit funny about Mum doing it...doesn't like to feel his Mums clearing up after him!

I just feel really odd about this....lying by ommision to my mum, praying to god she doesn't mention it to my brother...plus I feel my brother is being incredibly selfish!(He knows I need the cleaning money and that I've been badly off since not doing it after breaking my foot on HIS stupid shaped stairs!!!)

Help! What do I do? I feel my SIL is being a bit unfair putting me in this position and I feel badly for my Mum as she's just trying to help me!

Why is my life never easy!?! Am I taking it all too seriously!?

Miss P
xx

ETA I fell out with my brother BIG TIME in my 20's and don't want to do it again over something as silly as this. He's just very odd about certain things and can have a bad temper :-(

OH feels I should just do it with my Mum and keep my mouth shut. Probably right...guess I worry too much :-(((

Hugs Miss P (()) and yes you do worry but then again so do I. Sometimes we can over think things and in the end drive ourselves mad.

I am an only child and as such do not have any experience of a brother/sister relationship.

However and this is my opinion only, if I had a friend let alone a family member that was in your position, I would have been paying them anyway. Your brother seems to be in a priviledged position to afford to pay you to do his cleaning. I feel that in the four weeks you have not been able to go, he could have helped more. Especially as he knows you need the money.

Sorry I don't want to sound harsh but your Dear Mum clearly wants to help you, and she is doing what she can. In this instance your brother should not mind this.

If he does then surely the problem lies with him. I agree that being deceitful is not the way forward. But look at it from another angle? If the shoe was on the other foot. (Sorry for the pun) but surely you would not mind?

Do what you feel is right and what you feel comfortable with.

Big hugs and please try not to worry :A
Budgie xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

365days

Not sure Miss P. If questioned you could always say Mum was there chilling in the garden whilst you cleaned to make sure you were ok to do it yourself and you were. (even if you weren't)

Still AF here. Just looked at date actually and it's 9 months and a day. Was lying in bed other night and thought 'I haven't thought about drinking for ages' and I haven't.

I don't know what advice I can give. But I do know that my life is and has changed dramatically for the better since giving up.

Good luck to all.

fedupandskint

Keep on running 3 laps to go!

July Summer AFD Challenge

Can I ask when you post your scores to make them large, bold and in colour to make it easier to track through the posts
Miss P 31 15 :j
December Baby 10 10 :j :happylove
Jo TF 5
YM TF 6
Sparkles 31 28 :j :T
Marru 31 28 :j :T
69chick 20 11 :j
maman TF 12 :j
SkintScottishGirl 20 26 :j :T :happylove
NewRoadAhead 10 12 :j :happylove
Peedie 30 26 :j :T
DebtMonkey1A 15 8
Lurkio TF 4
WannaBeeFree 8
StressedOutSue 25 19 :j
Honeybear TF
Budgie TF 2
115K 9
Mari 15 2
Fay TF 9
Shaggy 8 5
dotstar 5 3

Total AFD for July = lost count! will tot up on 31st

Key
:starmod: daily score
:j10 days
:T 20 days
:happyhear30 days
:happylovetarget reached

Marru

Hello,

Miss P: I would tell your mum, she sounds like a lovely lady and I am sure would understand and wouldn't let slip. Perhaps she could do the more communal areas and you the more intimate areas if that makes sense.

Oh buy the way are you free on Saturday morning on 21st?

Running again :jless than 12 weeks for Cardiff half :eek: 28 please Sparkles

newroadahead

Hi All

Just popping on to say sorry:o havent stayed AF.:(

Have this daft notion that if I drink all the wine STBEOH
bought back form France then there will be nothing in the house for me to drink....Yes I know it doesnt make sense....sorry


Hope everyone else is ok

Miss P ... (((((HUGS))))) do what you are comfortable with

HB... (((((HUGS))))) hope you are having a better day


JO.......Sorry, sorry sorry


Budgie...WB hope you had a great holidayxx

Going to hang head in shame and have an early night

Take care all


love

NRA xxxx

budget_babe

newroadahead wrote: »

Hi All

Just popping on to say sorry:o havent stayed AF.:(

Have this daft notion that if I drink all the wine STBEOH
bought back form France then there will be nothing in the house for me to drink....Yes I know it doesnt make sense....sorry


Hope everyone else is ok

Miss P ... (((((HUGS))))) do what you are comfortable with

HB... (((((HUGS))))) hope you are having a better day


JO.......Sorry, sorry sorry


Budgie...WB hope you had a great holidayxx

Going to hang head in shame and have an early night

Take care all


love

NRA xxxx

Hi Nra and no need to hang your head in shame matey, we have all been there and yes your anaology does make sense. We have all done the: well when its gone its gone thingy too.

I am sure our Darling Jo will be ok with it too :A

Tomorrow is another new day, if it helps I am doing crap too But thankyou I did have a very nice holiday

Its not an easy road we are travelling but hopefully together we will get to where we want and need to be?

BIg hugs sweetheart and take care
Budgie xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx