The cutting out/cutting down alcohol thread (part 7)

brokepaolo

skintscottishgirl wrote: »

Aw that's a shame for the wee dog, and you too, good for you telling her that.

I would hate to be in that position.

Was she ok about you saying?

yeah she was fine and apologised again, she knew she'd done wrong.

The thing is, she has ME and is almost always at home in bed and the dog stays with her so is used to being looked after and in her owner's company pretty much 24/7, so if and when she does go out, the dog has a bit of a breakdown. My housemate went on holiday last month and asked a friend to look after the dog while she away but this friend of hers didn't exactly live up to his promise and after 2 days, the dog was back at the house and we had to look after it at the weekend which wasn't too bad because we were there and the weather was nice so it was nice to take the dog for a walk. But on the sunday night, the dog kept crying all night and in the morning the following day, when I went downstairs to make my breakfast, I was greeted by the dog and all the pooh it had left all around the kitchen.

I was seriously unimpressed then and mentioned it to the owner that maybe she should have put her in kennels for the time she was away but she said that she couldn't because the dog would probably go mental in kennels.

oh well, but mucking up our house is fine then is it?

anyway, suffice to say that each day that goes by I am yearning more and more for a place of my own..

skintscottishgirl

brokepaolo wrote: »

yeah she was fine and apologised again, she knew she'd done wrong.

The thing is, she has ME and is almost always at home in bed and the dog stays with her so is used to being looked after and in her owner's company pretty much 24/7, so if and when she does go out, the dog has a bit of a breakdown. My housemate went on holiday last month and asked a friend to look after the dog while she away but this friend of hers didn't exactly live up to his promise and after 2 days, the dog was back at the house and we had to look after it at the weekend which wasn't too bad because we were there and the weather was nice so it was nice to take the dog for a walk. But on the sunday night, the dog kept crying all night and in the morning the following day, when I went downstairs to make my breakfast, I was greeted by the dog and all the pooh it had left all around the kitchen.

I was seriously unimpressed then and mentioned it to the owner that maybe she should have put her in kennels for the time she was away but she said that she couldn't because the dog would probably go mental in kennels.

oh well, but mucking up our house is fine then is it?

anyway, suffice to say that each day that goes by I am yearning more and more for a place of my own..

Aw life's a b1tch at times isn't it

Maybe it would be worth the extra, just to have control over your own space.

I live on my own and wouldn't change it for the world even though it's tough at times the benefits outweigh all that.

honeybear_2

treepotato1 wrote: »

mmm.....you are already thinking of yourself as single? And available? Do you not need/are you not going to have...a grieving period?

I'm not asking for any other reason than I am genuinely interested...I'm not ..I have no other agenda.....

I wish you strength.

Do you mean the lack of texts from your ex?

I fail to see how not being in a relationship any longer could mean I am anything other than single. However I do not appreciate the implication that single equals available.

I also think my posts have clearly indicated there is a level of grieving going on, much more so than I choose to share on any public forum, so i find your question somewhat insensitive.

skintscottishgirl

Thanks for your words TP1

As Sim says maybe you could get some voluntary work to just get out there for a little while, i am sure from your post you would be good at it.

take care of yourself and do what you have to do, i know the internet isn't everything but it's a lifeline of sorts to myself anyway.

On a lighter note, i have managed to galvanise myself into action and have changed the bedding ( super king size what a chore!) put a washing on and got dressed! Not planning on going out in a hurry though......

XX

honeybear_2

Just found THIS on the BBC site - it's not nice reading, I warn you now

skintscottishgirl

treepotato1 wrote: »

It isn't doing much for me either...... :rotfl:

B0llocks worth a try though....:rotfl:

skintscottishgirl

treepotato1 wrote: »

I have agoraphobia and sociophobia so....for me, going out is the most terrifying experience you can possibly imagine.

But...when I am strong enough, I will start to get back to work with voluntary work. I did that for some time before I eventually got full employment in social care.

Thank you so much for your post - it is the most personal one anyone ever sent me here.

Good luck TP1, and you will get strong enough, just take it nice and easy and soon enough you will get there:A

honeybear_2

treepotato1 wrote: »

Fine. I did not intend it to be insensitive at all. If you thought it so insensitive, why did you thank me for it? "Trying to hit singledom head on" was what made me, respectfuly, ask you a question. If you don't want to answer my questions then you can !!!! off. I couldn't care less.

And - HB - if you find ME insensitive, then good luck to you. When my partner died I had a period of grieving and never really considered myself single and available....for two years..

Whatever you want...

Welcome to my bozo bin.

I did answer your question and explain why I answered as I had.

There has only been a couple of posts on here ever that I haven't thanked, due to them being spam, as I find the thanks on here a huge part of the support we all offer each other.

I didn't know anything about your circumstances when I said I found your comments insensitive. I'm incredibly sorry that you went through something so awful. However I still found insensitive.

Finally, the abusive PM was out of order and has truly upset me

brokepaolo

Chillax people...it is monday after all..

and on that note, my monday slavery has finished so I'm off out on a bike ride to nowhere in particular.

Marru

Hello,

Just to say that it is 5 for me please Sparkles, need a quiet night tonight me thinks...