MSE Parents Club Part 12

SusanC_2

redmel1621 wrote: »

Haha, the VAT thing is quite funny really...when Labour cut it to 15% everyone was saying what a waste of time it was and 2.5% is such a small decrease it won't make a difference to peoples spending habits.....

But now that it has gone up by 2.5% it is being classed as a HUUUUGE increase and we won't be able to cope with it going up that much!!!!

I guess partly it's because people are comparing 20 with 15 rather than with 17.5.

Evansangel

SusanC wrote: »

Sorry - I hope it didn't sound like I thought you were being dishonest. I meant that if she had said she was only off for a few days then she may not have been entirely honest.

I probably didn't word it very well either.

Thats why the story doesn't add up. If she is lying, i cant understand why??


Im off now, my sister is here and we are going to paint the kitchen

Bye x

edit: My friend had her first scan today and everything is ok!!! Im sooo excited. I love other peoples pregnancys when im not pregnant

redmel1621

SusanC wrote: »

I guess partly it's because people are comparing 20 with 15 rather than with 17.5.

True, and on thinking further, it is likely that it will stay as 20% and only rise further as the years go on.......before we know it we will be paying 30% VAT!!

I just found it mildly amusing that the same 2.5% is viewed so dfferently whether it is an increase or a decrease:)

Personally I don't think much else about the budget will affect me as we are on such a small income anyway, atm. Once we have completed our degrees and have the ability to earn a decent salary I may rant a lot more;):p

tiamai_d

My boys are giggling now thanks to Beanies DS

BeenieCat

Ooh just seen a job Mon - Fri 10am - 2pm

It's been on since 1st June so will be long gone by now but i might chuck my CV their way (otherwise why's it still on the JC site?). They want MS Office experience and i have a fairly recent ECDL qual


edit - just rang Job Centre plus and they said it's still open for applications and it's a JC application so they'll send me a form out today

Buttonmoons

Ok so long story short, me and Idris have been split up for about 2 years now, but we still live together, for various reasons, he doesn't want to be apart from Keira etc. Anyhoo, it was me who decided to end the reletionship and he's never gotten over that, but I got pregnant 2/3 months into "dating" him, I have mental issues - anxiety, self loathing, no esteem yadda yadda and I really can't "do" reletionships at this point in my life, anyways he can't get over this so is one of the reasons why he won't leave I presume, think he thinks we will get back together at some point (we wont) various reasons, he expects me to be too much like his mother in all honesty, he won't do nothing himself, phones me up asking ME whats for dinner etc.

Anyhoo, he's been having go's at me lately about various things, me spending all HIS money (he won't leave so I cant claim owt for myself and sorry if I need new underwear!) my smoking (im just like a junkie apparently) anyways he kicked off again last night and smashed a laptop off my hand, I don't even argue back with him, I just sit and cry because Im not in the best state mentally right now and he casts things up like me visiting friends = me being negligent to Keira by abandoning her for a weekend, or saying that "oh after you had keira I had to look after her because you didnt love her" he throws things like this in my face, I think he is hurt that I dont love him but still no need for it, so I suppose that is the gist of it, but its not doing me any good being at home when he is saying things like this to me. I feel terrible enough about not bonding with Keira when she was born and dont need to be reminded about it constantly.

I'm just drained by it all I suppose. At my mums now so will be nice to relax and have someone cook my meals for me for once, Keira is outside tearing around on a go kart, much better than the area I live in.

BeenieCat

Aw Buttons, sounds complicated and not surprised you feel drained by it all. Is the flat in his name? Do you want him out of there or do you want to try and get somewhere of your own?

pigpen

Buttons.. I hated DS3 when I was pregnant with him.. I had a termination booked and 'he' made me cancel it.. When I was in labour I was put 'in isolation' because I said I didn't want to be at the hospital and I sure as heck didn't want a baby. I didn't want to look after him.. I didn't feel like he was mine... and then he was very ill and I still didn't care.. I looked after him because noone else would so I had no choice.. I did this until he was maybe 2.5/3 ... That isn't peculiar to you.. it is something many many mohers go through.. The fact is you love her NOW and you provide for her NOW.. she won't ever remember or care that you struggled those first few months. As for her dad throwing it in your face.. let him.. he is only trying to cover his own faults and insecurities by keeping you down-trodden and feeling low.

It honestly sounds like you are better off at your mums, you can start making tracks to building a new home for the 2 of you and sort out your finances etc.. this sounds like a move for the better.. and a bit like he has found some woman he is interested in enough to bring home.

tiamai_d

What pigpen said.

When asked if I wanted to hold DS2 I replied in all honesty 'not really, do I have too?', so not bonding happens. Folk just don't talk about it much because you know, its all supposed to go just like the tv.

Take time and relax, we're here when you need a moan.

searching_me

bm i'll 3rd the not bonding with zoe took me awhile to even think she was mine ... maoooosive ((hugs)) for you does sound better for you to be at your mum hope things look you for you soon x