Fraudulently Claiming Disability Benefit?

Indie_Kid

elvis86 wrote: »

I hate to say it, but I don't think it would be a case of "almost lost" if one of my friends quit work and resigned themselves to a life on benefits because they had stress and anxiety. I have been and am, a very supportive friend, but part of that is telling people things they may not want to hear when necessary..:(

This wasn't the case for me. We were having problems because of my depression and the problems he's having with his wife.

elvis86, if one of your friends had severe depression and anxiety and were suicidal then, you'd be the sort to tell them to get over it?

I would seriously question if they were a true friend. My friend never told me to do this - he just couldn't deal with my behaviour towards him. So much so, he contacted my dad and got a friend of his to help him.

elvis86

littlerat wrote: »

elvis86, if one of your friends had severe depression and anxiety and were suicidal then, you'd be the sort to tell them to get over it? You're right, you would lose friends, either they'd luckily talk to someone who made them realise what an idiot you are and stop bothering with you, or they'd have too many "friends" (and I use that word loosely) like you and kill themselves. Same goes for other people on this thread.

If one of my friends had severe depression and anxiety, I would do my best to be as supportive as I could. But this would not manifest itself in me visiting them at home and helping them work out all the benefits they were entitled to, to ensure that there was no pressure on them to ever leave the house again if they didn't want to..

I imagine I'd be calling round, trying to get them to come out, encouraging them to talk things through and consider solutions to their problems. Ascertain what they could perhaps cope with, rather than focusing on their "issues" and what they can't do, and being complicit in their withdrawal from normal every day life. I have supported friends through some pretty awful things, by your definition, they probably were depressed. Just because they didn't put a label on it or allow it to define them as people (Joe - Depressed), didn't make it, or my reaction and support, any less real.

So don't try and paint me as some unfeeling Neanderthal, just because I don't agree with you that the best way to help someone with depression is to let their troubles define them and to indulge their irrational desire to remove themselves from society!

Indie_Kid

elvis86 wrote: »

If one of my friends had severe depression and anxiety, I would do my best to be as supportive as I could. But this would not manifest itself in me visiting them at home and helping them work out all the benefits they were entitled to, to ensure that there was no pressure on them to ever leave the house again if they didn't want to..

Even if they were scared to leace the house? Or put themself in constant danger whilst outside?

seven-day-weekend

chinesedeli wrote: »

You can have a Partner and still claim Income Support!

Yes I am aware of that. What you can't do is claim as a single person when your boyfriend lives there all the time and you are a couple.

I am well aware that you can claim as a couple but these pair don't, she claims as a single parent living on her own and he claims as a single person from a different address, even though he lives with her.

I expect it is true because her dad told me.

elvis86

sh1305 wrote: »

Even if they were scared to leace the house? Or put themself in constant danger whilst outside?

How would encouraging them to hide away inside be any better?

alwaysonthego_2

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