help with boyfriend moving in

chesky369

Why don't you just adopt him?

nannytone_2

fostering would be better ans you could claim an additiona allowance

elvis86

If we put aside the fact that you consider an 18 year old unemployed boy a suitable life partner and step-father to your 4 children...

...why the desperation to move in? If it only seems to pose problems, such as whether your benefits are affected etc, and will place a greater burden on your household income (though, knowing our benefits system, it won't, single women with kids seem to be better off whatever they do.:cool:), whi not just carry on as your are? With him at his parents?

nannytone_2

cos she wants to play 'happy families' at everyone elses expense!

lynzpower

nannytone wrote: »

cos she wants to play 'happy families' at everyone elses expense!

Be nice to all moneysavers.Even if you disagree courtesy helps.

nannytone_2

i wasnt nasty! after all shes deciding to make a 'lifestyle' choice, not a necessary change.

lynzpower

If you dont have any thing nice to say, don't say anything at all . The site rules are very clear

How do you know what is a lifestyle change and not, not your position, stop being so judgemental, its simply not necessary.

Amistoso_2

crikey you sound like a school teacher! people are allowed to have a say surely?!?
There seems to be a few people on this particular board who think they have a right to condemn what others say if they don't agree with what they'r saying. Surely the whole point of having a discussion is that you get lots of different opinions and points of view, some you may agree with and some you may not, live with it!

lynzpower

Amistoso wrote: »

crikey you sound like a school teacher! people are allowed to have a say surely?!?
There seems to be a few people on this particular board who think they have a right to condemn what others say if they don't agree with what they'r saying. Surely the whole point of having a discussion is that you get lots of different opinions and points of view, some you may agree with and some you may not, live with it!

Of course people are allowed to have thier say, but the site rules are really clear and I dont understand why people cant understand them.

I feel sorry for so manypeople who come here asking for advice and people just get so judgemental in thier hours of need.

the OP asked a question about her entitlement, not who she should be having a relationship with.

Amistoso_2

thems the breaks I'm afraid, you post something on an open forum and you open yourself up to criticism, nobody has been blatantly nasty, a lot of what people have said she should perhaps listen to as it may be of some help to her!!

edited to add- oops that's me having an opinion, hope that's OK?!?