help with boyfriend moving in

karenx

And when he does get a job your housing benefit will go down so he will have to help out with the shortfall. Also your tax credits might go down also

margaretclare

jodie04 wrote: »

i dont really understand why i don`t get more money for him on tax credits, seems a bit unfair for 2 people to be on the same money as 1

No, it isn't, because he's 18, been at college so presumably well-educated, presumably fit, healthy and active and is therefore expected to make his own way in the world and earn his own living, not live off a single mother and her children.

I agree with those who say that as he's paid no NI contributions he won't be entitled to contribution-based JSA.

At this stage in his career, any job is better than no job! It's too easy to say 'there are no jobs'. How hard has he looked?

Indie_Kid

jodie04 wrote: »

i dont really understand why i don`t get more money for him on tax credits, seems a bit unfair for 2 people to be on the same money as 1

2 people don't cost double as one person.

Has he looked at agencies? Ok, they may be temporary; but better than nothing.

Oldernotwiser

jodie04 wrote: »

i have enough to live on, yes i get ctc for 4 children, but with 4 children this is gone before i get it. i am happy for him not to contribute, it`s just he would like some money of his own. hopefully a job will turn up soon

I would be very wary of living with an 18 year old who moved in with a lone parent and didn't want to pay his own way! You're not his mother and he shouldn't want to be kept by you!

woody01

been at college so presumably well-educated

That's an assumption that is normally incorrect

margaretclare

woody01 wrote: »

That's an assumption that is normally incorrect

I did say 'presumably'.

nannytone_2

seems like you'll soon have a 5th kid!

Vader123

jodie04 wrote: »

i am happy for him not to contribute, .

Why as an adult would he :

a) Not want to contribute to the household
b) Be allowed to NOT to contribute to the household?

You are asking the state to contribute to the household, why on earth would you not want your boyfriend to contribute?

Vader

elvis86

Vader123 wrote: »

Why as an adult would he :

a) Not want to contribute to the household
b) Be allowed to NOT to contribute to the household?

You are asking the state to contribute to the household, why on earth would you not want your boyfriend to contribute?

Vader

I would echo this. How old are you? I'm reluctant to make assumptions, but you have 4 kids, so presumably you're older than him at 18?

Are you not concerned about the influence this will have on your children? You introduce a "man" into the household, who then proceeds to sit on his backside and not contribute...?

nannytone_2

I agree Elvis. On top of that, presumably he lives with his parents at the moment? so his life experience ( compared to yours) will probably consist of him just about being able to wipe his own bum!
why on earth would you let a boy ( cos thats what he is) live with your children? He has no concept of what being a father figure means. I think youre just storing up future trouble for yourself and your kids.