Your support needed - again please

mumoftwins

jinky67 wrote: »

Take them up on it:cool:

That way you can concentrate on Tony and give them the rubbish in your head;) that way he gets the good stuff:)

Not sure there is any good stuff left Jinky :rotfl::rotfl:think the last few years has put paid to that!!

No seriously, I do try to continue being brave and strong and having a great sense of humour, but the way it shows in me is that I have some really rough nights where I can't sleep which drives me mad :mad:

jinky67

You need to look after YOU as well though:cool:

Buffythedebtslayer

Oh MOT, I am so sorry. He is a wonderful guy, your thread was one of the first I read when i first came here.

We are all here for you and you are certainly in my prayers xxxxx

Edinburghlass_2

mumoftwins wrote: »

Not sure there is any good stuff left Jinky :rotfl::rotfl:think the last few years has put paid to that!!

No seriously, I do try to continue being brave and strong and having a great sense of humour, but the way it shows in me is that I have some really rough nights where I can't sleep which drives me mad :mad:

Take absolutely any offer of help you are given from any source. If you don't have a Maggies Centre at the hospital you can look at their online help here which may help in the middle of the night. Take care.

http://community.maggiescentres.org/home

Spirit_2

Hello MoT,

I am sorry to to hear about IT - it is very hard to bear. When someone you love has this sort of diagnosis there can be a lot of fear,anxiety and sense of being powerless......but with help and support it is also possible to manage those feelings so that you can make the most of the time that you have.

Take all the help that is offered by the professional support services. I am glad you like your job, as sometimes having work to retreat to can be a holiday for your head.

Spirit

angelaf_3

Hi Mumoftwins been thinking of you and wondered when you weren't posting if things had got worse for you both. So sorry to hear this news praying for you both. Please, please, please don't disapear we are here for you when you need us. Pm if you want to.
God bless

moneysaver12

Hi mumoftwins, so sorry to hear your news. Sending hugs.

Butti

Hi Mumoftwins,

Very sad news. I just wanted to reiterate what others have said, take whatever offer you have of counselling both now and once your other half is no longer here. I found when my mum was in this situation that it was relatively easy to split myself, upbeat and positive in her company and sad when I was on my own. You will be shouldering a certain amount of his distress and anger at the situation and you need somewhere for you to release.

I would urge you to continue with counselling in the longer term. I found it really really difficult to deal with anger (that I didn't want to acknowledge I even had) towards my mother for no longer being there and for getting cancer in the first place. Make sure you look after you in the long term. Make sure you give yourself a release and a non-judgemental place to express what you need to express.

Love to you both,

Beth x

mumoftwins

Morning all,

Thank you for your lovely messages of support - I will contact our employee assistance line about counselling as it seems to be the one factor that everyone is saying I should have.

I don't feel too bad at the moment, as when he is feeling ill the carer in me comes out and when he is having good days its like there is nothing wrong - does that make sense?

We went to visit the Day Hospice yesterday to see what they can offer us both, again there is counselling there for either of us along with complimentary therapies such as Reiki, Reflexogy and massages, so I will definately go for some of those and I-T can have them once his chemo has finished.

He goes back for his second dose of chemo tomorrow, so its downhill again for a couple of weeks. He is determined to beat this and re-iterated yesterday to the nurse at the Hospice that whatever the Drs have said he doesn't want to know. He is such an optimistic person isn't he? Good on him!

Hope everyone is ok xx

rugbymum

Morning MOT :wave:
Sending you some very BIG & dodgy hugs :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug::grouphug:, you may share them out as you see fit!
You could always hang on to them till IT feels better !
There is nothing I can say that will make you feel any better, I have never had to deal with what you guys are trying to deal with, all I can say is that I feel as though you have let me into your life with all you have shared with us over the years. You, IT & the twins are the dodgy distant relatives you don't see but love to bits!
I'm pretty p*ssed off that you are having to cope with this now. After everything you went through I was so pleased that your lives had settled into "normality" and you were able to look to a brighter future.
Hang out with us on here (i sometimes just lurk), PM when you need to and I know for a fact that you have my phone number! CALL ME!:p