Your support needed - again please

mumoftwins

Hi all,

I am sorry if I have posted this in the wrong place but I really didn't know where to go to for emotional support and you all were so kind and supportive last time I needed your help.

You may remember that I had a lot of support from Italian-Tony when I was last going through my financial diffculties and homelessness, well, this time it is him - I am so sorry to say that he has been diagnosed with myxofibrosarcoma and has had it for 12 months plus, he has had 5 operations to remove tumours, radiotherapy and is now undergoing chemptherapy but things don't look good He doesn't want to know the outcome but I do, so last time he went for chemotherapy I had a few minutes with the Doctor after the apptand she said that he will never recover from this and that if the chemo helps then he has about 12 months, if it doesn't then he has about 6 months.

I know that things aren't good but when I look at him on his good days I find it so hard to believe. He is my best friend, my soul mate - we knew each other many moons ago and found each other again a few years ago - how sad is all this?

I hope you won't kick me off this board as I really could do with all your wonderful support at the moment.

Thank you for reading,

MOT xx

miggy

Hi, I don't know you but this is clearly a really difficult time and I know people will want to support you. All the more as it's not something you can talk about with the person you will insinctively go to - sending you a big hug and will keep you both in my prayers.
Hopefully with me bumping this it will get the attention of people you already know.

jinky67

Awwwww shoite honey, that is awful for you both

I used to keep up with your other threads, dont think I posted though, so I know how much he means to you:sad::grouphug:

Send love and strength to you both

xxxxx

DarkConvict

You have come to the right place, this board is full of support and helps for many issues not just those debt related.

My dad was offered Chemo but turned it down due to the side affects vs. benefit of a couple of months. It is a difficult time for you, especially to be the only one to know the burden that eventually things will come to an end sooner than you like. Talking from some personal experiences it is only from this point you realise time is precious, these remaining months will stay in your memories as long as the happy times you had together. What people do is upto them, you need to take each step as you feel is right, do not think about the end, think about now and enjoy your time together.

Some people resort to religion at this point, others to alcohol, what you must remember in your mind is that this is not the end of your life, you must still continue to move forward each day. Some of the best times still lie ahead as do some of the worst. It is a balance we must all juggle and makes us who we are.

mumoftwins

DarkConvict wrote: »

You have come to the right place, this board is full of support and helps for many issues not just those debt related.

My dad was offered Chemo but turned it down due to the side affects vs. benefit of a couple of months. It is a difficult time for you, especially to be the only one to know the burden that eventually things will come to an end sooner than you like. Talking from some personal experiences it is only from this point you realise time is precious, these remaining months will stay in your memories as long as the happy times you had together. What people do is upto them, you need to take each step as you feel is right, do not think about the end, think about now and enjoy your time together.

Some people resort to religion at this point, others to alcohol, what you must remember in your mind is that this is not the end of your life, you must still continue to move forward each day. Some of the best times still lie ahead as do some of the worst. It is a balance we must all juggle and makes us who we are.

Thank you DC for all your kind words and wisdom. Its lovely to have your support - thank you xx

mumoftwins

jinky67 wrote: »

Awwwww shoite honey, that is awful for you both

I used to keep up with your other threads, dont think I posted though, so I know how much he means to you:sad::grouphug:

Send love and strength to you both

xxxxx

Hi Jinky,

How lovely to hear from you again, you did post before - thank you!

I-T has his second dose of chemo on Friday, he's on a really strong one called Doxibocin (sp?) and his hair has started to fall out already. He has treatment every 3 weeks and for the first two of those weeks he is not in a good place and by the 3rd week he is a lot more like his old self again. Its so hard to believe that he won't live forever

mumoftwins

miggy wrote: »

Hi, I don't know you but this is clearly a really difficult time and I know people will want to support you. All the more as it's not something you can talk about with the person you will insinctively go to - sending you a big hug and will keep you both in my prayers.
Hopefully with me bumping this it will get the attention of people you already know.

Thank you Miggy for your prayers and hugs, they are much needed at the moment xx

Burlesque_Babe

Hello MoT, what sad circumstances to be 'back' with, I followed your situation last time (it might have been when my user name was still keren29 I can't remember) and Tony was such an amazing ally.

I can't offer anything other than my support to you but please know that there is such a huge amount of support for both Tony and you.

jinky67

mumoftwins wrote: »

Hi Jinky,

How lovely to hear from you again, you did post before - thank you!

I-T has his second dose of chemo on Friday, he's on a really strong one called Doxibocin (sp?) and his hair has started to fall out already. He has treatment every 3 weeks and for the first two of those weeks he is not in a good place and by the 3rd week he is a lot more like his old self again. Its so hard to believe that he won't live forever

I cannot imagine how awful it must be for you:(
But try to make the most of the time you have left together:A

mumoftwins

jinky67 wrote: »

I cannot imagine how awful it must be for you:(
But try to make the most of the time you have left together:A

Yes, we will but it is difficult when he is so poorly. We will have to see how he is after the chemo (which should end sometime in July) and maybe we can get a holiday together.

His family are lovely and being very supportive but, as most of them live quite a distance away, it down to me to shoulder it all - not that I mind but I do get very down about it all. Work are being fantastic about it all and I am so pleased that I have the job I have. I am able to have counselling from them if I want it (I work for the NHS) and we are going to the Day Hospice tomorrow where we both can have althernative therapy treatments which is great!

jinky67

mumoftwins wrote: »

Yes, we will but it is difficult when he is so poorly. We will have to see how he is after the chemo (which should end sometime in July) and maybe we can get a holiday together.

His family are lovely and being very supportive but, as most of them live quite a distance away, it down to me to shoulder it all - not that I mind but I do get very down about it all. Work are being fantastic about it all and I am so pleased that I have the job I have. I am able to have counselling from them if I want it (I work for the NHS) and we are going to the Day Hospice tomorrow where we both can have althernative therapy treatments which is great!

Take them up on it:cool:

That way you can concentrate on Tony and give them the rubbish in your head;) that way he gets the good stuff:)